Who do you think feels embarrassment/shame more often? Males or females?

[ManOnFire]

Males

Females

[Purpleronnie]

I tend to think that as its been recognized that the female gender generally speaking are more emotionally intelligent and sensitive that this particular characteristic or trait may lend itself to a propensity to experience more shame or embarrassment but as there would be limited or no data to prove this there is no conclusion to be drawn. The personality traits we develop I believe are nurture rather than nature and so environment would have a strong influence. Single parent families would probably play a part in that those learned behaviours and therefore could be responsible for males developing more feminine personality characteristics like emotional empathy , intelligence. So there is no black and white binary definition here only shades of grey

[JoePro_]

I think it's equal between the genders. The difference will probably come down to how we handle it. Some people might be more likely to dwell on those feelings, while others try to forget about it and move forward. I think you'll find females (on average) in the first camp, and males (on average) in the second camp, but "most is not all" and you'll always have outliers. Just my thoughts.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah, I totally agree. I do think guys fall into the second camp.

[Insecure2]

I also agree with you. I think both genders get embarrassed as frequently, but I as a woman dwell on the embarrassing moment for a long time, whereas the Man I know deal with IT nearly on the spot and move on. It's a trait I really envy in MEN.

[MemeSupreme]

i wanna say girls but some reason i get the feelin guys just hide it by being like "im just being manly and blunt" lol

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I feel like this is a pretty hard one to say. I could analyze but maybe I'll go with the "It's both" answer.

[Rosexøxø]

I suppose it’s not about gender but their actual cognitive perceptions and personality.

If they’re hard on themselves and a bit pessimistic and maybe even having been exposed to toxic siblings/friends/parents, they could’ve developed an internal thinking that picked up some of the kind of talk from any of the previous people or influential people in their lives.

If they’re not hard on themselves, practical, and maybe even slightly positive. Having a good self awareness and internal thought process or so-

then they will hardly feel guilt or shamed, even if anyone bad mouthed or degraded/ scrutinized them.

So it’s really not at all about what’s placed on them as expectation.

It’s how they cope with it, how they grew up, their peers and mentors, and how they are with themselves, whether people are around or not/ working with them or not.

With all this in consideration- I can’t pick. I don’t think it’s that simple and clear. / Precise.

[Zuzkamicka]

Girls for many reasons, I'm quite shy myself and guys seems to handle it better. :)

[ManOnFire]

Yes, I think females feel embarrassment much more often. Maybe you will understand what I wrote in an old Take about it Understanding Women’s Social Nervousness ↗

[Zuzkamicka]

Also guys probably don't experience butterflies around pretty girls or don't blush.

[ManOnFire]

In youth, yes. As we get older, less so.

[dustybiker2]

Self esteem has nothing to do with gender. Who allowed life events get to them, leave scars and let damage their own image of themselves. These are reactions to life events.

[ManOnFire]

You see embarrassment/shame as being linked to self-esteem?

[dustybiker2]

Of course

[ManOnFire]

So I was thinking more in terms of every day stuff. I notice that females tend to get more easily embarrassed about simple things. Especially in social situations. And they also seem to be more socially nervous than men. They worry more about how they look in public or being seen talking to someone they feel could be an embarrassing look for them.

[dustybiker2]

Okay. But do you think that in this case you describe it could be an act? Sort of showing a man she likes what he is saying or doing during those social situations? A lot of men tend to hide emotions. Because of this when men get affected genuinely they tend to turn pink in the face and neck. Woman will too.

[ManOnFire]

Mmmmm... maybe. But I don't exactly think so. When you say an act, are you meaning that the woman is pretending she likes what he's saying/doing?

[dustybiker2]

Yes, exactly. But for good. It could be they are social awkward themselves and it's how they flirt.

[annabananna]

Hmm that’s hard to say. Men may be better at hiding it but I’d say it’s about equal.

[Dongie]

Men. We have to ask them out, make first move, showing to get attention.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

When it comes to how frequent it is, it's males but it affects us less because we got used to it.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Women, by a large margin

[ManOnFire]

I think so as well. I wrote an old Take about it Understanding Women’s Social Nervousness ↗

[Anonymous]

Embarrassment? women.

Shame? Men.

Women today feel no shame FOR ANYTHING!

[NathanDavis]

I know I have none... lol

[laly520]

depends on person not gender

[Xia1994]

Both

[Begging4giggles]

Males.

[ManOnFire]

Why do you think so?

[Begging4giggles]

Because I am ONE and have extensive experience with the OTHER! 🤣