How high should confidence level be? High, medium or low to avoid being disappointed but not giving doubt room to get in the way of being confident?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

When I'm highly confident about something it just leads me to feeling dejected and very disappointed.

Is there a fine line?

[StarWarGirl]

No matter how confident you are about anything, high medium or low you are going to feel disappointing if you wouldn't achive that.

To save yourself from feeling disappointment we should always know that there is another side of reality also where things happens, where everything doesn't go as per planned always where we can fail.

The acceptance of probability of failure is only thing what save us from disappointment. Most of time we don't want to admit that we can get fail. We don't want to think about that even. We avoid that thought and so when we have to face it we are so awkward with it.

Take failure like an unexpected guest. Accept the reality of it's presence. The more you would be comfortable to face it, to accept it the less disappointing it would be. Don't avoid the thoughts of failure but look into it.

It's like try for best, have confidence that you can win but same time be prepared if things didn't happen as expected. Be prepared for worse. Acknowledge the probability of getting fail. Make yourself feel comfortable with this side of reality too, which I know is ugly painful but still it's a reality we have to admit.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Nicely put. I'm super optimistic by my nature and it is what causes me to look at things I desire as 100% I can't lose, only win because I strongly believe it will work.

[StarWarGirl]

Being optimistic is ok. But there is nothing wrong in being rational and having practical thoughts as well. It's wrong to completely denying the existence of failure and that's what either cause us pain or make us egoistic. To stay humble we need to accept failure also.

You can stay optimistic being rational. For example you can believe completely that yes you have prepared well and you are going to win. But same time you can accept your failure gracefully not by looking it as "failure". But as a process of learning that oh here I was less or oh he did better than me no problem I'm going to learn from him and going to do better next time. Etc like this.

[StarWarGirl]

You do everything to win but you must remember always you can fail also, either because someone tried harder than you, or you lacked something this time and you need to work over it more or situation that time at that moment was not in your favor, wind was in wrong direction or just a bad luck

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Thank you for your input and perspective. ☝️

[NathanDavis]

true confidence shows up in adversity, defeat and when challenged...

not when you're in advantage, comfort and ease...

maybe focus on the bigger picture... one defeat is just one battle, consider it a lesson to be learned, and step towards success or whatever the goal is

disappointment, yes... it will come, but it will also go away once you get back in the horse and try again... true confidence is earned true actual experience, both GOOD and the BAD experiences