Is jealousy one of your traits?

[Anonymous]

I know some consider it a red flag but I think there's a line between adorable and red flag because someone can be jealous and not be toxic about it, I don't think expressing jealousy is toxic, I think it becomes toxic when they start questioning your loyalty or stop trusting you, of course if they have no reason to question, some mfs behave pretty sus and lack communication lol

[Account]

Jealousy as in wanting what someone else has, no. I don't have envy within me. I have never wanted what someone else had. It doesn't interest me.
Feelings of intense possession as in what is mine is mine in a romantic relationships, yes. I even enjoy the concept of them wanting to belong to me and me to them.
But I am toxic/insane.

[Asker]

You aren't toxic, insane perhaps, maybe a bit but without you who's gonna create food crimes 🥺

The world needs that level of insanity because that's how new foods are created, from the brave souls that experiment with flavors 😂

[Agape93]

Honey if you're insane, I'm humane

[PolishedMonkey]

Your emotions are yours and only yours. People can have complete control over their emotions if they choose to. So, jealousy isn't a "trait" as a trait is typically a passed from a parent to a child, like your eye color, or the type of hair you've got or sweaty palms, but not jealousy. Jealousy would be more of something you learn or develop through the course of your experiences in life. So, if you learn from the wrong experiences or allow certain bad habits to take over, something like jealousy can get out of hand at some point. It's always good to express your feelings to at least 1 person through your life, just to keep things in check.

[RebelinSteel]

Nah, don’t do the jealous side of things. I do sort of have the it’s mine and only mine though.

[Asker]

Sounds like there jealousy if those lines are crossed tho 😂

[RebelinSteel]

Nah..

[hanabunny]

It is a little bit but I try to keep it under control. It's more a feeling of "why am I not good enough to be a priority for this person" type of thing. I think it stems from certain childhood stuff, being taught that anything less that perfection is basically pointless. I try to work on that part and just keep it cutesy like not wanting a guy to have wandering eyes😅

[Asker]

Perfection doesn't exist hana, I'm sure you are aware of that and still try to find perfection, but this points more to low self esteem than it does to jealousy even tho the same jealous emotion might play a part 🤔

[RageBabe]

Hi Hana, You gave me an upvote, so I wanted to give you one and to let you know that I relate to a lot of what you said and also to reassure that you're good enough, but again, I can totally relate to the way you feel. Thanks for sharing.

[hanabunny]

@ChicoFromThe305 I think jealousy and low self esteem/ insecurity are pretty intertwined in different ways

[hanabunny]

@RageBabe Oh thank you that is sweet of you to say ❤️

[Asker]

Depends on the core of it don't you think, it would be that way if the jealousy came from the fear of losing someone because they don't feel like they are enough but someone that knows they are enough can still get jealous in fear of losing someone that might just make the decision of choosing someone else over you, I don't think believing that no one can separate you is a high self esteem, if anything it's just egotistical and I think even people that feel like they will never lose someone can get jealous when they see a point where it seems like they might, I hope this makes sense, it's not that they are self conscious about themselves but self conscious on the fact that they realistically have the chance of losing the person, I hope that makes sense

[Asker]

I hope that makes sense 😂

[hanabunny]

That does make sense, it's a bit of both for me because sometimes it is just not wanting to lose someone or not wanting to be disrespected by them I guess, and not so much about my own worth

[Asker]

I just hope It makes sense, makes sense I hope so it can make sense with all the hope of making sense 💀

Foreal tho that's the point I was making, seems like you got it ha

[electromagnetic]

Thankfully no. But also unthankfully because I think there were moments when I should have been jealous to raise a concern for certain situation others were experiencing that I was not. If that even makes sense.

[Asker]

It must be peaceful to not give a shit tho 😂

[electromagnetic]

I’m not complaining

[molonski2]

I'm not even remotely jealous , which , I take your point , some degree of jealousy is required to maintain balance.

[Asker]

I like this statement

[DrPepper12]

Not at all. It's the most malicious self defeating useless emotion. It will consume you if you let it.

[Asker]

I disagree, if used properly it corrects you if you reflect it on how you should behave, if it makes you jealous, don't do it to your partner.

[DrPepper12]

Yeah I can see that. Good point. I just really consider it because I'm really just not jealous. Occasional pity parties but then you pick yourself up and try again

[Anonymous]

Look, I am a Scorpio, and I get jealous from time to time. I'm trying to control it, but it's not always easy, so please give me a break.

[Asker]

I'm not judging, jealousy can be adorable, or are you like the explode-y type? Lol

[Opinion Owner]

Oh no, I know you're not judging, and I agree with you on the jealousy thing, but you know us Scorpios always have to be extra in how we word stuff. Lol

[Asker]

I wasn't aware it has to do with the month you are born, seems more of a personal trait to me but sure thing scorpia 💀

[Opinion Owner]

You definitely should look up your zodiac sign, Leo. Have a lovely day. Chico

[Asker]

I'm a Taurus, I already know but how does that create personality? 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Just look it up; maybe you can relate some things.

[Opinion Owner]

Water signs are the most jealous type. FYI, Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces are the water signs, and because water deals with memory and feelings, they need constant emotional validation.

[Asker]

I have and I do relate to some, I just don't see how the logic of the moth you are born in creates personality traits, if that's true then that's scary cause it mean that the government made us lol

[Opinion Owner]

I get what you mean, but a lot of it is very relatable, and even more so when you know your moon and Venus sign.

[Asker]

The wha?

[LiamJHayden]

I don't get jealous, but I will insta-dump if she flirts back when someone else gives her attention.

[Asker]

Sounds like there's jealousy there bro 😂

[12karen]

I can be really jelly but you wouldn't know, only my besties would

[Asker]

I think it will show, I doubt you can fully hide it, that's of course if the person is well aware of your personality and learned your behavior, they will tell the difference, maybe not specifically guess how u are feeling but they will know something is up 😂

[12karen]

yeah, I try to hide the flame I have in my eyes when something is up, but yk, I usually don't make a big deal about thngs that could lead me to jealousy, I am confident but when I think I can't anymore, that's when I am really jelly and do my best to hide it

[Asker]

Jealousy doesn't always have to do with confidence, I'm sure at some points it might but I think jealousy is only the uncertain feeling of losing someone or not being the best in their perspective, it's more of a strength of attachment is what I believe and tbh logically trying to put it together it's probably more of an ego thing than it is a confidence and self esteem thing because jealousy basically comes from a form of selfishness and wanting to be the main in the other person's eyes so small things can trigger it but interesting indeed 🤔

[12karen]

you are right, if people become jealous, it's bc they are afraid of losing someone but at some point, some are just being selfish. I mean, let's suppose A and Z are dating and Z and E are very very close friend, A knows that and is okay knowing they are really close but then R (with the same traits as A) become a new friend of Z but that is being too clingy, and Z seems to not mind, here, A is jealous, in this case, in my opinion, it's the fear of losing Z, but if Z and E were always been close friends and A got mad/jealous, here, it's selfishness
hope you understand the story

[Asker]

You lost me, but I think I know what you mean 😂

It's about the strength of the attachment of an individual but it's a selfishness of selflessness because it's out of your love and care for the other and the fear of losing them or become less to them than the original perspective of how they see you, which usually happens when someone else enters the picture.

[Nikki1989]

No, jealousy is a trait of the extremely insecure and immature.

[Asker]

That is one of the cores but if you did your research you'd know there's more cores to jealousy

[NathanDavis]

nope... but never had a reason to feel that way either

[beefcakebradybatson]

Yes, but I'm not ( I don't think) INSANELY jealous.

[Agape93]

Nope. Don't feel it, don't understand it

[Asker]

Why not 😤

[Asker]

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[Agape93]

No idea. It doesn't exist for me.

[Asker]

Lol.

[bobalife]

I can be a jellybelly

[Asker]

Jellybelly missy boba

[bobalife]

Oh goodness, Bootleg Hispanic Pinocchio 😂

[Fireguy17]

nope.
It doesn't solve a thing and can actually drive people away.

[Jrg98]

Absolutely not, can’t be jealous and happy

[Asker]

You never rubbed me as the jealous type anyways, you can carry a jealous trait and be happy tho lol

[Jrg98]

Well.. I wouldn’t think you could be happy if your truly jealous

[Asker]

You can, not being jealous all the time tho, jealousy isn't an enjoyable feeling but you can carry the trait and be happy if that feeling isn't normally triggered

[euniestars]

It was when I was younger

[Asker]

So not long ago *pats head* 🙂

[CubaPirate]

Thankfully not

[Asker]

Lol.

[jahaims]

Jealousy is immature

[Asker]

I disagree

[jahaims]

Good for you

[katiesmuff]

No it is not

[Miah04]

Naw...