When do you think that when someone does something bad "it was a long time ago" is no longer a valid excuse?

[EzraIsShy76028]

Usually when someone did something bad "it was a long time ago" is often a go-to excuse. And assuming it was something minor I'd say it's a valid response. It also depends on your age when you did that thing, too. If you were a child or teenager it's more understandable, but if you were already a grown adult, less so.

Either way, when do you think that the "it was a long time ago" excuse no longer flies?

For me, I guess I'd just say something completely unforgivable that left a huge negative impact on the person's life. Probably something illegal that you could go to jail for. Like raping the person or murdering someone that the person loves. Even a child or teenager doing that type of thing would be unforgivable.

But if it was something more short term and more of an annoyance than something traumatizing or anything... I'd say it's a valid excuse. Like if you and a person just got into a ugly fight/disagreement or the person just embarrassed you in front of other people. It sucks a lot no doubt about it but I wouldn't say it's unforgivable.

So yeah. Basically, if it was something small, it's a valid excuse. If it was something big, it's no longer a valid excuse.

TL;DR In my opinion if it was a small thing then it's a valid excuse, but if was a bigger thing then it's no longer a valid excuse.

[BetaBucks]

If it was a sincere mistake, which is very rare, I'd forgive it at any time, but be cautious about their decision making skills. As for the rest, early childhood. Like, preteen, and earlier. After teenage years hit, you're accountable for life as far as I'm concerned. I'd never think "oh, that rape was twenty years ago, they're better now." Addicts/alcoholics get a little leniency from me, if they're clean and sober, but I'm still going to keep my distance.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It depends on how relevant it is to the modern day and how much they’ve actually changed from that behavior. There are very few actions that are entirely unforgivable, rape is one of them.

[EzraIsShy76028]

I agree with you 100%, pretty much!

Those are the two most important factors, how relevant it is to the modern day and how much they've actually changed from that behavior. The two rules to live by in this case, really! The only two questions you gotta ask, really!

And of course, you've got a few unforgivable ones like rape. Other than that though most other things are possible to make amends for!

[Anonymous]

Internet is forever and jail is not a good punishment so nope! Once a rapist always a rapist!

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah, I agree 100%. Rape is one of those rare things that's 100% inexcusable under any circumstance.

In some rare cases murder can be excused assuming it was self defense and/or your life was in immediate danger.

But NEVER rape... even worse if it involves a child or a minor.

[Opinion Owner]

You don't get in trouble for self defence! Your not like I murdered a man in self defence!

[EzraIsShy76028]

I mean I guess it depends on your area and the police and judge who will review your case. Sometimes the system can screw you over even if it was just self defense. Not to mention people in jail for crimes they didn't even commit.