Now I drink, and I know many people compare pot and alcohol. My biggest issue with pot though is legality. I would cut back significantly once kids came in the picture on drinking because it's the responsible thing to do. But even if I did drink, it's still legal. For him though, he'd be bringing an illegal substance into my house, with my kids, and he'd have to be associated with a dealer. Not to mention the idea of a 40 year old man sneaking around to smoke pot seems juvenile. This all concerns me.
I asked him why he felt so strongly about doing this after college, and he said he grew up around it and that his whole family has been smoking his whole life! I couldn't believe it. Even when he asked them not to when he was young, his mom and dad would smoke in the living room. While my family has wine/champagne at holidays/family parties, his family smokes pot. I find this all incredibly juvenile and concerning that I may eventually be apart of something like that. It seems so immature and dirty to me that I may eventually have to bear the smoking at every single holiday and my kids would eventually be around it.
I don't know what to do. I've tried smoking twice and I hate it. I also don't want to start a future with someone who's so ingrained in the life of pot that I may be putting myself and my kids at risk legally. I love this man so much, this is his only flaw. He even said he may give it up at some point if HE wanted to, but his family definitely won't. What do I do? Is this a deal breaker?
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