Should I be concerned that my boyfriend smokes weed all the time?

[Washington12]

He could have an addiction, I’m not sure. But it doesn’t seem to be effecting his life negatively. I’m not sure if this is something I should be worried about?

[Finchie40]

It’s ok to be concerned considering he does it every day, but if it isn’t effecting the way he treats you and it isn’t effecting him doing certain things to harm your relationship , then it shouldn’t be that big of a concern , Now if it’s making him not want to work or making him not want to do things with you , and making him less productive, then yes he has an addiction that he should get help with but that is up to him , but if it’s effecting your relationship with him and he is choosing weed over you and your relationship., then it’s up to you, on what you want to do , Always remember this, you can’t change someone to be what you want them to be , someone can only change themselves, if they want to , you can support someone if you see their addiction is ruining their lives , but you can’t force them to change because you feel it’s ruining your life , If he was already a pot head when you first met met him , then you choose to be in a relationship , with a pot head , that’s something you should of thought about before getting into a serious relationship with him period. Sadly Most girls’ think they can change their partner’s and sadly they are in for a rude awakening when they realize they can’t , Pretty much the reason why I am honest with a girl right from the start, of the things I enjoy and of the things I like to do , giving her the option on whether she wants to continue seeing me or go our separate ways. I like to drink beer on the weekends after I worked all week to relax and unwind , If my beer drinking becomes a problem to her after she already knew I liked to drink , then she isn’t the girl for me , I have dated girls that knew from the beginning , that I like to drink beer on occasion, if she thinks she is going to change me or she assumes maybe he will stop drinking beer? That’s not up to her on what I choose to do she can either tolerate it , or leave, cuz she is in for a rude awakening when she thinks she can change me , I am not asking her to change, so why does she feel she can change me? My beer drinking has nothing to do with her , Now if my beer drinking did become an issue and it was effecting the way I treated her and effected our relationship , and effecting my personal life like my job or not wanting to do things anymore because I am choosing beer , then she has a right to be concerned and put her foot down to me , But if my drinking isn’t causing havoc in our relationship and not effecting the way I treat her , then she has no room to talk period

[DarkWinterNights]

I don’t want to concern you, but it is something you should watch. I’ve seen a lot of people, some I knew quite well destroy their relationships, friendships and careers who got a little too obsessive with their weed intake. Could be coincidental, but it did coincide with pretty dramatic personality changes.
Some people can do it occasionally or even more frequently without any apparent negative side effects, but there are also functional alcoholics, so I kinda view it the same. It’s not a guarantee, but moderation is key.


I wouldn’t come right out and criticize his use though, it probably wouldn’t go over very well though.

[California_Poppy]

If it's something that bothers you, I would be concerned but if it is not at all negatively affecting your life together, then I wouldn't get too hung up about it.

The thing is, sometimes it's hard to say whether or not it is having negative effects on your life. I was a heavy weed smoker years ago. I quit when I started dating a guy that didn't smoke. My life changed significantly after that. I was much more motivated about my life. I started taking better care of my body and my health, and I even went back to school and got my degree.

Who's to say how much of that was affected by my choice to stop smoking weed. But in hindsight, I certainly feel that it was holding me back more than I initially realized.

But again, if he's motivated about his life, he's able to do what he needs to do every day, it's not affecting your relationship, and you are happy with where you guys are at together, it's probably not a big deal.

[FreyaRed]

If he does it since years and everyday, he will get severe mental issues when he stops and he will gain weight. Weed smoker who smoked weed since teen age and stopped in their 20ties have always severe depressions and are highly impulsive and paranoid.

[Exterminatore]

Yeah, research has shown it is in fact addictive with the high levels of THC in it. Does that mean he’s gonna start stealing car stereos to support his habit? Very highly unlikely. Almost improbable. What about moving on to harder drugs? Maybe but again probably unlikely.


The bottom line with it is, yeah, it’s fun, but it’s also unhealthy, makes you lazy, can Rev up your Appetite to where you put on significant weight, can get costly if you smoke a real lot, and God doesn’t approve.


I vote 👎for regular weed use. It’s overall unwise to use regularly.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My brother smoked weed pretty often, I smoked weed with him socially but I didn’t enjoy so I haven’t tried more than 7-8 times. But at some point he was a bit addicted, it does help you run away from your life, he quit it when he moved in with me. He quit because I made him face his life and he no longer felt like escaping.

If it’s too common and it bothers you, try to find out why is he trying to escape his problems with constant smoking?

[RingOfFire]

You should definitely be worried about it. Every one of my friends who smoked a lot of weed when they were young had their brains affected and had various health problems from it. It is a dangerous addictive drug.

[RingOfFire]

I'll add something else. Today's weed is even far worse than the weed that my friends smoked years ago. It is much stronger, much more addictive and much worse for your health.

[Washington12]

Hmm interesting

[blissinanarchy1]

Any time something bothers you, you should communicate it.

Marijuana is a legitimate form of medication now, he could be using to medicate. Weed isn’t really physiologically addicting, but you can get psychologically addicted to anything.

[Keishio]

Depends, some people function quite well on it. I'm not against weed at all, i dont smoke it but do buy edibles occaisionally. I couldnt make it a daily thing because I wouldn't get my stuff done but if he does then I guess the only thing that could be an issue is the financial side of it. It's not a cheap habit to have and it could cause friction seeing how much money gets thrown at it

[Singing_Hollow]

Too much of anything is a bad thing. You become dependent to it. My boyfriend will smoke for a month and then leave it for a few months before going back so that he doesn't become dependent on it and learns to cope without it.

[Adam1978]

Why would you date a drug user? In my world they would disqualify themselves and I would be looking for a new boyfriend. Not be worried about them. If they want to be losers they will be losers.

[provokeesmokee]

No.

If he isn't being negatively affected, and there's no problems stemming from his use, why make a big deal?

If you don't like that he smokes, why are you dating a stoner?

[katiesmuff]

If you are smart you should be concerned. From weed it's on to other mind dimming drugs and then complete disaster.

[Shamalien]

Nonsense

[katiesmuff]

@Shamalien Obviously from a druggie!

[Shamalien]

Obviously not. I use weed and have an occasional drink, that’s it

[exitseven]

If he is smoking every day he has an addiction. everyone says it is not addictive but there are plenty of people who will tell you otherwise.

[mommymommymommy]

If he doesn't work

I have a couple girl "friends", that, do weed, and smoke cigs/drink as well. But, they're working, meaning, they have a life, other than just smoking. One even works at least two jobs, possibly three

[DermalPunch]

If he smokes weed all the time, as you put it, then yes he has an addiction. I would get a new boyfriend.

[LovingJo]

Depends on how it effects him, and why it concerns you?

[Curiosity2006]

Da-da-da-da-da!

[HaveNoName]

In my book, even if it is not "all the time", it's a big bold red flag. How foolish do you have to be to not see it?

[poppy80]

YES! He will never amount to anything if he continues. Today weed is not the same as it was 50 years ago.

Look up the doctors are saying about it.

[Christoff92]

Depending how the way you see it. If the smell irritates you. Then ask your boyfriend if he can change the filter to make the smell more mild. Because assuming he can do that.

[RyanK9b]

Drugs make u unproductive and damage you over time. In any way he has a problem

[Fireguy17]

Yes.
It will quite possibly never get better and get worse.

[Anonymous]

Well, as they say, gateway drugs often lead to more dangerous drugs. So yes, you should be concerned.

[Exterminatore]

The only thing weed leads to in most cases is junk food. Not that I am in favor of using it for any reason. Having smoked a lot of it in my life and all my friends when I was growing up as well and some still do, that’s as far as it leads mostly.