My boyfriend smokes Marijuana, should I be concerned?

Question

Here in where I live, it's illegal to smoke weed and my boyfriend smokes Marijuana to numb his mental problems, he's got panic attacks and this is how he deals with them. Should I be concerned? Would it affect the relationship in the long term?

MaazHussain · Accepted Answer

As marijuana is illegal in your location, there is a risk of legal consequences if your boyfriend is caught using it. However, in terms of your relationship, whether or not you should be concerned about his marijuana use depends on several factors.

If your boyfriend is using marijuana as a coping mechanism for mental health issues such as panic attacks, it may be a good idea for him to seek professional help to manage his symptoms. Marijuana can have both positive and negative effects on mental health, and it is not a long-term solution for managing mental health concerns. Encouraging your boyfriend to seek professional help and support could ultimately benefit both him and your relationship.

Another factor to consider is whether or not his marijuana use is impacting your relationship negatively. For example, if his marijuana use is leading to him being emotionally unavailable, unreliable, or causing conflicts between the two of you, then it may be worth discussing with him how his use is affecting the relationship.

It's important to have open and honest communication with your boyfriend about your concerns and to listen to his perspective as well. Ultimately, the decision about whether or not to continue the relationship should be based on your personal values and what you are willing to tolerate in a partner.

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

Yeah, because that stuff rewires and kills the brain cells. And it stinks... and your Momma will know... And I can smell the stuff with windows rolled up pulling into the parking lots of some of the rentals. The Label... Pothead Couple is not attached.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I think that’s an addiction, and it amplifies feelings of depression or anxiety? OR BOTH.

That’s such a loser thing to do, id never. I always think it’s a homeless, hippie, broke person, single dad, college drop-out THING TO DO. As soon as I see someone doing this. I’m out. I loose all respect for them. 🖕

Not too much with cigars 🚬. Because they don’t behave re—arded. Either way, I absolutely despise seeing peoples disgusting breath leave their lungs because they’re inhaling some BS, just to feel happier with some BS. It’s fake happiness and pathetic.

SO you're TELLING ME; that basically a BS dr—g is what you need; to not be depressed, or anxious or miserable? 🤡

You cannot find joy being sober or on your own? You need a substance to complete you. And on top of it, I need to see that substance leave your disgusting c—vid lungs? 🤡 NO THANKS.

GET LUNG C—ER 🖕

GET ADDICTED 🖕

SUFFER 🖕

It’s even more disgusting when these Smoke Addicts exhale their poison, and you pass by, and accidentally end up inhaling their DR—G breath. You breathe in, their visible DR—G breath. I feel sorry for the pets and children that are subjected to this abuse in their homes, with their deranged addict parents.

You stay with this guy…. Your home will smell like broke hippie for the next decade. 😂

My boyfriend smokes Marijuana, should I be concerned?

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Whether your place finds it legal to fry people's brain or not is not relevant to the issue. Governments want to take a junk of the money involved in drugs and therefore, they will go to great lengths to legalize whatever kind of junk, as long as they can make money from it.

Now, the fact that your boyfriend smokes drugs is a huge problem. Usually, it will not stay with that kind of drugs but sooner or later, they will want to "upgrade" to something more potent.

Yes, you should really really be concerned and yes, it will definitely affect your relationship on a mid term and long term basis because it will not get better and once those panic attacks are not longer "under control" with that substance, he will require something much stronger.

Of course, he does not see drugs as being a problem. No junkie does.

What should be done instead is to try to find the root of his panic attacks and handle those. Once they are under control, he can stop doing drugs, if it is not too late already. Good luck.

Djaay · Answer

Yes... He'll be more happier than normal , quite relaxed actually when even he should be and the food bill will be higher than normal. He might ad well on occasions , burglarized the food pantry and refrigerator and turn criminal of it. He might on occasions laugh to much and have good memorable times. Be aware that he might become more sexually excited at times he should. Worst thing tho , is he might more often than , mind his own business and not bother others such as people in public or neighbors. Furthermore , this behavior defrauds the doctors and they're presumably profit margins of not being able to steeple him with costly medication that's addictive. Best of luck tho

summiter · Answer

That is really between the two of you to decide. Recreational and medical weed is legal in most states now. I know that does not make it right. Weed should not be used as a crutch the same as alcohol (which in my mind is worse). I work in an emergency department and see many more issues with alcohol compared with weed.

If your boyfriend has some mental health issues, he should seek the advice of a professional. Maybe weed does help him... who knows, but it should be with some guidance if he is using it for his issues, rather than what many use it for which is to get a buzz.

electromagnetic · Answer

Everything in life is reasonable with moderation.
I would tread lightly because weed doesn’t effect everyone in the same manner.
I’m sure he probably has a good reason for why he does it but there are other alternatives to combat his triggers.
Trying to ween off usage is extremely hard and it effects everything physical, emotional, psychological and relationships with others.

if he were in a place that was level, sure but he’s taking a big gamble because it’s illegal where y’all live.

jillybeanns · Answer

I would personally be concerned especially since I do not smoke weed and I would not want to be associated with anyone who does that either. Two things you should consider: one being his lifestyle. If doing drugs does not match your lifestyle, you would only be harming yourself and your reputation in the end. And two
- his moral compass. If weed is illegal there he is breaking the law no matter what his reasoning is. If he truly had a sense of integrity he would get professional help and get adequate medication or he would consider moving somewhere where it is legal to smoke weed. Just my two cents.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Someone with any kind of mental issue is exactly the kind of person who should NOT be smoking pot. The pot probably makes it worse and may even be the cause.

He might think it helps him, but that is the trap. An alcoholic drinks to relieve anxiety, but the alcohol is the cause of anxiety. They are experiencing withdraw symptoms. The more they drink the worse the withdrawal symptoms. Same with smoking cigarettes. They smoke to relieve the symptoms of not smoking. But the more they smoke, the worse the withdrawal symptoms.

He thinks he's treating his symptoms, but he could very well be creating them. He needs to be away from it for a long time before he starts feeling normal without the weed. He probably never stays clean long enough to get to that point.

es20490446e · Answer

I have kind of hippie vibe, and I attend places where Marijuana is often consumed. I dated people that smoked it, people that had partners that smoked it, and friends that smoked it too.

Drugs are classified in 5 types, according how much potential there is to be misused. Being type 1 the most, and 5 the least.

Marijuana is type 1, along with methamphetamine. Cocaine is type 2. Just to get things into perspective.

The truth is that people that smoke Marijuana are usually obsessed with Marijuana, and their lives are mainly about smoking Marijuana.

If you don't share their devotion, mainly you won't be sharing a big part of their life. A self destructing one.

And your boyfriend saying it is for the panic attacks, lets be honest, is bullshit. Marijuana exacerbate such conditions.

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sunflower00 · Answer

It’s up to you and what you care about most. My boyfriend smokes it and it’s illegal here, I don’t necessarily like it and I don’t do it myself but it’s up to him what he does. I mainly don’t like it because he does it way too often and acts kind of annoying and stinks afterwards, and it’s a waste of money in my opinion

whirled_up_girl · Answer

Well, if it's not legal where you guys live I'd worry about him being caught with it on him and getting booked with a marijuana possession charge. I would at least be finding out the laws in your area, some states have charges based on the amont a person has in their possession.

Elij1234 · Answer

Yes it definitely will. I’ve known many people who smoke in my life and the story is always the same. They think it’s not that bad but one way or another end up with some psychological problem or have several in place already. Some can’t help themselves from smoking basically every single day. It will affect your relationship if you ever mind him in the backyard, in the room or in the car pretty much hot boxing it on a daily basis.

i personally think it’s unhealthy. Like anything out there that isn’t made from the body already. These guys are addicted and have issues but they just won’t admit it. I say you just move on to someone else if this is an issue because everyone I’ve met who smokes weed is basically a knucklehead about it. No matter what you say they have their minds set on smoking it

TruthBringer · Answer

So instead of doing something productive to help him with his (mental) issues, he chooses intoxication and escapism. I mean, if that's the type of man you feel attracted to, then by all means don't start crying when he drags you down into the rut with him.

If I were in your position, I would be concerned about why I fell for such a person, to begin with.

HighValue · Answer

Everyone I have known in real life that smoked marijuana said they'd never do harder drugs. Every single one of them ended up doing worse drugs, ended up stealing from friends and family, ended up in jail, and have messed up lives. I'd recommend ending the relationship and avoiding people like that.

Anonymous · Answer

No.
Id be concerned if someone drank though.
Do u drink booze? That’s the worry.
Weed is legal here heck there’s stores all over to buy it. Doctors even recommend it.
If you think u should be concerned, I’d really look at your own problems and check if you’re just a controlling witch.

AsaKyo · Answer

I hate weed smokers, so it would be a deal breaker for me and we would not be together

If you're okay with him doing it, then I guess it's not an issue, but if you do have an issue with it, I suggest you break up because he could get you in trouble if a cop smells residue on you, plus you really shouldn't expect him to stop anytime soon because it is only going to get worse unless he makes the decision to quit on his own

Pacquet · Answer

I smoke occasionally and I think people make it bigger deal than it actually is, a lot of these opinions are just judgmental and ignorant. If you care about him just try to help him and stop trying to change him. If you're worried about the legal aspect I'd suggest trying to help him get a legal license to use it. If you don't want to deal with that stuff then leave him.

Anonymous · Answer

i could never be with someone who smoke weed. it smells fucking disgusting.

he needs a therapist, not weed. weed is a Band-Aid. and a smelly one.

yes this will affect your relationship long term because he has mental problems that he doesn't know how to deal with.

Anonymous · Answer

What do you love about a guy who’s unstable like this? Long term and having a family with kids love and safety can he provide this for you?
If it’s just for fun go ahead but don’t waste your life you will get 35 so soon
Trust this gag grandma don’t be stupid

Keishio · Answer

If it was recreational and he just smoked now and then with friends then I'd say no but when people are using it to medicate then I do think it's a problem. It doesn't cure anything so I don't see the point and I think if anything it can make anxiety worse

PainusNdeeAnus · Answer

Marijuana should only be used recreational and as a pain reliever

It’s fine for now but he needs therapy or something to overcome his issues or else he will become dependent on it and that’s a big problem people like that are generally self destructive and there is no telling the type of person he will become when he doesn’t have any

suzzieQ · Answer

If he has mental health issues, he should be seeking medical help not self-medicating with drugs.  Do you want to date a person who breaks the law and who abuses drugs? Probably shouldn't

MysticDevice · Answer

That's honestly one of my deal breakers. I don't care that people smoke, I just find it super unattractive. The smell lingers in everything.

But if he's just numbing the issue instead of working to identify and solve it, I would be concerned.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Weed is less unhealthy than alcohol so unless you are also worried about alcohol then I would say don't be a hypocritic.

purplepoppy · Answer

Tell him to deal with his problems not hide behind weed.

Jessica405 · Answer

Yes! You should be very concerned. It could implicate you if he gets caught. There is always a chance of turning to crime to fund an addiction.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It will kill him over time, and you if you are around the smoke. No form of smoke is safe to inhale.

Nikki1989 · Answer

There are 100s of things people consumed daily that are far more harmful than weed.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Unless it's illegal, I wouldn't worry much about it. I WOULD be concerned if it was cigarettes!!

Fireguy17 · Answer

so which guy are you dating, the stoner or the one that isn't high?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you should be concerned. It is an inappropriate way for him to deal with his psychological issues. And it is illegal in your area.

genericname85 · Answer

to me, smoking weed is a huge red flag. i have nothing against stoners really. we can be friends. but i don't want a partner who does weed.

AdithyaR · Answer

He should be seeking a psychiatric prescription for actual mediine to help with anxiety.

noohair · Answer

I self medicated like he does and it moved from marijuana to hard drugs. I don't think you can fix this. He will have to find his own way. Your choice is, do you go along for the ride?

exitseven · Answer

It is a sign he has no respect for his body and less respect for his mind.

nawtee_me · Answer

Why be concerned now? You are boyfriend and girlfriend and you knew this before?

Tomisworthless · Answer

It didn’t affect you beginning a relationship with him

TrillXHippy · Answer

Yeah you should be. If he doesn’t stop there is one thing you could do although you said you don’t wanna

Paul09 · Answer

Not really. Maybe depends how much? I also moke like 1 a day. Helps me too mentally and physically. But I also can take breaks from it.

dragoblack · Answer

Pfft no, unless he does it all of the time. Then assume he may not want to work on his own issues

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

What’s wrong with weed? Would you get upset if he drank a beer?

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

You’re way too controlling. It’s helping him just like it helps a lot of other people with health problems

Anonymous · Answer

It's up to you, me I smoke occasionally does wonders for my back pain look at JFK president of the USA and a smoker just like me

Heolurt · Answer

Yes, you should be concerned for asking stupid questions.

jimmy2 · Answer

Yes you should drug dealers are adding Fentanyl and if you want him for life he needs to stop

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

You sound like the type of uptight bitch that needs to take a hit.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. It is only helpful to cancer/AIDS patients and people with epilepsy.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, weed is harmless, if it were tobacco alcohol, fast food then it would be a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, especially if he is flammable. One wrong move lighting up a joint and 💥

DesiUwU · Answer

ah long as he don't get caught

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes you should be

HaveNoName · Answer

Why is he still your boyfriend?

Anonymous · Answer

Yes you should😳

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