18 year old male with a curfew... :/

[Blacklite]

Yes. I like with my mom as I am still in high school. Yes it's her house, and yes it's her rule, but is it a fair one? I would understand if she made my sister have a curfew at 18 (She's still 15).. but I'm a guy. She raised me right, and she gives me no chance to prove it. I've never been late with a curfew, and unfortunately in my town, nothing really goes down until the wee hours of the night. Then my mom proceeds to bust my balls about how I still (at 18) haven't had a girlfriend, or slept with any girls. I've had sexual experiences, but I am still technically a virgin. I then explain to her that it's hard to do anything when I have a curfew to attend to, and again, nothing goes down until late at night, a couple hours before my curfew. You have no idea how much of a child I feel telling my friends in the middle of a party that I have to go home, and when they ask why, I have to say that it's because my mom wants me home, as I have no other excuse. Again, if you're going to lecture me about how it's her house and her rules, believe me, I know that. But I don't think it's a fair rule. I'm a good student, and I do what I'm supposed to. I'm not sure what I'm looking for posting this on here... I guess if you have advice it would be appreciated.

[samhradh_ean]

Why should your sister be given a curfew at 18 if you shouldn't have one at 18? Caution is important, but an 18 year old girl can go out in the company of friends and be perfectly safe. Men are often victims too. As long as you are smart when you go out there is no excuse for laying down different rules based on gender. It's not healthy to raise children to have a feeling of inequality even within their own family. And there is no logical reason to do so, since there are ways of preventing potential problems without resorting to gender discrimination.

As for your question, it IS your mom's house and she DOES have the right to lay down rules if she wants to. As long as you are dependent on your parents, you have to put up with being treated like a child to a certain extent. There's really nothing you can do about that. When you move out and begin to support yourself, you will have more freedom. There's nothing unfair about it.

However, you can always try talking to your mom in a calm and respectful way. Ask her why she feels the need to give you a curfew, and listen to her side of the situation. Then let her know how the curfew is hurting your social life, without being accusatory. Remind her that you've been a good kid and a good student, and tell her that you want the chance to prove that she can trust you with more freedom. Then ask her to consider being more lenient, even if that means pushing your curfew back a couple of hours rather than completely eliminating it. By respecting her views and giving good support for why you should have more freedom, she might begin to feel more comfortable with giving it to you. Good luck!

[samhradh_ean]

I've never had a curfew- but I also never went out late unless I had a specific, prearranged plan that my parents knew about. So they never had any reason to give me one. Every parent is different and every child is different. You ultimately have to find out what your mom wants from you so you can meet her expectations without the curfew.

[dwiller943]

To be honest, an 18 year old is still a child in my eyes. Regardless if it's the legal adult age or not. Regardless if they are mature and responsible or not. My dad made me come home by 9PM every night when I was 19. He even told me what time to go to bed and what time to wake up. He took it way too far. But letting someone under 21 stay out way too late wouldn't also be wise.

[Anonymous]

if you're sister was 18, she should have the same opportunities as you. gender has no role in it.

[Blacklite]

Lol I'm not even going to get into that, but I'd feel much more comfortable letting my son out later than my daughter.

[Opinion Owner]

yeah I know. gotta protect the "little girl"

[rejected_fred]

gender does not have a role, but being the oldest does. when our sister is 18 she probs won't have a curfew because your mom would become more lenient with her discipling. I know because I am the oldest of 6 children and when I was younger I wasn't allowed to do many things. my mom wouldn't even let me go away to college. my sister who is only a year and a half younger got to go away. honestly, I think I was more ready to be away from home than she is.

[XxNatashaxX]

i'm in college and unless I'm away at school my curfew is midnight.. if I'm lucky. :/ it sucks

[rejected_fred]

what is you curfew?

[Blacklite]

12-1 am