Should I give him a taste of his own medicine?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is great most of the time. But he sucks at texting, sometimes flat out ignores my texting with no reason behind it, and he doesn't make plans often because he's busy or his bad grades, but he can still make time for me during lunch.

He says he loves me, and he means it, but what should I do?

Should I just act the way he does and be less of a good girlfriend and just basically stop texting or making plans until he does show he cares?

[Prof_Don]

Some people are simply not very good texters. If he doesn't like texting, I do admit he SHOULD HAVE told you, so you don't text him with getting no replies at all.

He imo truly IS busy. He's got bad grades and is putting in work to get his grades up because education is important. If you truly cared about HIS needs, more than how much attention you can sap from him, you will understand that he is handling business and won't bother him when he's trying to do his make-up work or his tutoring sessions.

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Now ignoring your texts imo is REALLY f***ed up of him. He should've told you that he isn't into texting very much.

Talk to him, and ask him if he doesn't like texting very much, or when he's too busy to text.

That immature game-playing bullsh*t of "taste of his own medicine" will only cause more problems. Thankfully you asked for advice here! :)

[Anonymous]

He obviously doesn't notice or care about texting. So stopping texts to him, probably won't even be noticed by him.

[Asker]

Its not just texting, its the planmaking portion too, and how he sucks at making plans which leads me to think he doesn't like being with me :/

[Opinion Owner]

You're probably wrong - but go ahead and think that - you won't be the first girl to dump a guy who cared about her, and then you can go on complaining about how it's so hard to find a guy who really cares... it's a win-win for you, isn't it?

[papercut2]

So he's a great boyfriend but does one thing wrong so you want to act bitchy about it?

Well slap me silly

[Asker]

He doesn't just do one thing wrong, he doesn't text me at all, he sucks at planmaking, even in person, he's really dismissive and unaffectionate towards me sometimes, and he's all weird about PDA which leads to more unaffectionate behavior.

[fradd]

Quit texting him so much. Making he likes to talk out loud.

Yes, what a concept.

[prophecy]

on average how many text msgs you send him a day?

[Asker]

One, and if he doesn't reply, ill send one about three hours later saying 'Jacob?' 'are you busy?' 'slow-poke' or something like taht.

[Sata7]

Sounds to me he wrapped up in his own life doing his own thing and taking you for granted although it doesn't make him a bad person it does make him a selfish one who takes u completely for granted. There a saying if a guy wants an angel he'll make a heaven for her coz Angels don't live in he'll. He's clearly stripping your self worth and making u miserable and unfortunately no amount of talking to him will change this as it prob falls on deaf ears.. I suggest u start making your own plans and doing ur own thing don't drop everything to be available for wgen it suits. If he want to see u badly enough he will call to make arrangements or a date. If not pet I'm sorry u may have to consider moving on