Men staring, glaring, gazing, ogling

[Anonymous]

Guys, do you feel like you are rude if you stare at women?

IS it part of your strategy for picking up women?

I know there are many questions here that ask "what does it mean if he stares at me"...I'm NOT asking THATquestion.

My question is more along the lines of:

* What are you thinking and feeling when you stare down women?

Some men just do a lite gaze at women, some others a very interested in the eyes look...and then there are other stares that is enough to make a woman wonder:

** "What is up with this dude, and IS THIS guy okay in the head?, is HE going to STALK me?"

In the flirting game...how much intensity and forwardness does a guy use before he knows he has crossed some kind of line?

I mean, I'm specifically thinking about how this one guy flirts with me, he stares at me as if to communicate this message of.. "I KNOW YOU"...

I have no idea how to interpret this, it's a bit unnerving and beyond normal flirtation as far as I am used to.

OKAY, so I would put it this way: THIS guy gives a look like HE HAS too much confidence.

I mean he is a really HOT guy but his stare comes across a bit like the horror movie: "I know what you did last summer"...

I've got to admit although I think he is trying to flirt with me, it's a bit intimidating the way he goes about it.

So what has occurred in this guys head that HE thinks it's okay for him to GLARE/stare at me like that?

I would say that staring is a little different than glaring, and different then gazing and not the same as glancing, and still different compared to ogling...now what this guy is doing deserve a different category altogether that I can't even think of a good WORD for it

So what makes a man feel comfortable enough to look at a woman and give her this intense "I KNOW YOU" look

Or maybe it's more of an "I KNOW YOU WANT IT" kind of look?

I mean shouldn't I be sort of freaked out?

Part of me even wonders if it's more of a:

"I'm gonna rape you look"

Should I be worried that he is a stalker or that he is just being an over eager dorky flirt?

Should I run...OR should I approach?

[tadpole25]

whether you approach him or not, is up to you. approach him if you think he's attractive, don't if you think he's creepy.

me, I don't sit and stare. I get up and talk to a woman. 90% of guys just sit and stare at her ass. 10% have the guts to actually start a conversation.

also when dealing with an attractive women you haven't even met, I wouldn't come off too strong like that

so my facial expression isn't "i know you want it".

it more like "you look cute,but your nothing special. but maybe we can try something out if you want"

[Asker]

Arigato Gozaimasu!

[tadpole25]

domo arigato mr roboto

[KingsOfleon88]

Usually a guy may not know what to say. He may be looking at you and thinking, ":will she reject me?" or "what do I say to her when she's out of league? or he may be thinking will she think I'm stupid for saying this or that...He's looking at you because he's interested, not because he wants to hurt to you...

[Asker]

Arigato Gozaimasu!

[kia58]

It's an expression of dominance and masculinity when showing interest. As far as I read about it, it pretty primal, instinctive and not that planned.

I think this would be similar to guys asking you: "What are you thinking about when you pucker your lips?".

[Asker]

...Well, I don't pucker my lips personally, laugh...ummm...smoochy! DO YOU do that? Smile

Thank you kia58 for your answer!

[kia58]

Yes you do. A little and you don't even know, but if you pay attention you will catch yourself doing it around the guy you like. Especially if he is teasing you or something of the sort. I've seen every girl do it. Not a lot, but they do do it. ^^

[Rissyanne]

Guys, she makes a good point though. I have wondered about it too. There is a couple of guys that I work with that are always looking at my boobs instead of my face. What are you guys thinking when you are doing that?

[lv4lv]

They're boobs. They're interesting. They're awesome to look at. That's... 'bout it.

[Asker]

For men looking at boobs is the equivalent of women looking at clothes. It's just fun.

[normalice]

dangerous guys don't settle for just looking at you. Guys who stare are generally doing so because they are too shy to approach you.

[Asker]

Arigato Gozaimasu!

[normalice]

do itashimashte

[lv4lv]

You're reaaaaally over reacting.

It's a lot more like: "Oh hey. A pretty object I can look at while I zone out..."

[Asker]

No, lv4lv, you are not getting it.

This dude is NOT zoning out. Like I wrote, if you even read the whole question

...it has a slight "I know what you did last summer" tinge of sentiment

I haven't taken any action yet so, no I'm not over-reacting. I'm deciding on how I want to respond to this guy.

[Asker]

Thank you for your answer!

[lv4lv]

I'll be honest. I quit reading after the "** "What is up with this dude, and IS THIS guy okay in the head?, is HE going to STALK me?"" line.