Parents banned me from seeing my boyfriend... please help :(

[StephhiexD]

My boyfriend has been to jail before, the same jail that my dad works in. My parents don't know him and I are dating, but they know we talk. My dad told me that I'm no longer allowed to see him or speak to him.. but I can't break up with him, I love him so much. What the hell should I do? I sound so pathetic but I can't lose him.

[imyourpleasureman]

Steph, sometimes parents do or say something stupid as we see it, as a parent myself, I see what their doing, It seems to me their just looking out for your best intrest. They know he's bad news & they know if he did something once before, he'll do it again, I'm not saying he will & I'm not saying he won't. But if he does do something to end up in jail again, there's a good chance he could get you involved as well & you could end up in jail, & no matter how much you say you love him, your parents love you more than anything in the world. so sit down with them & talk to them, just let them know how you feel in this situation & let them know your feelings. but don't get pissy with them or get mad, just talk like adults. your parents are there to help you & listen to you. I know one day when my son's old enough he'll come & sit down with me & we'll have a talk as well. but untill that day comes, I'll love him like there's no other on this world to love. so please, just sit down & listen to them, ok? best of luck to you.

[pandaninja]

While under your parents roof you do what they say, not because you owe them but because its a principle that you respect non rediculous requests so long as you accept their hospitality. That being said I don't mean to say that they are right, maybe they aren't who am I to know from the little I know, so if he really matters that much to you, well your old enough to move out, get up and walk on you got your own two legs. Obey respecfully and continue there or let them know your starting your own life and move out to the freedom to do what you think is right.

[HotYetSmart]

Honey, don't look for adventures!

Forget about "bad boys"! Bad boys will leave you pregnant + 3, and will go back to jail. DO YOU REALLY WANT THAT? I don't know, could be that you find it "cool" that your man doesn't afraid from anything and that he's tough and all that!

I don't know why he was sent to jail, could also been that it was a misunderstanding (I doubt this), but 99% of the people on prison aren't exactly "marriage material".

GOOD LUCK!

[honeyltsme]

Write down a list of things that, all feelings aside, prove your boyfriend is a dating material guy.

Meaning his actions - not words - demonstrate there's a good future for him - and a good place for you in it.

If you can't make a decent sized list, you are dating an ex-con because of his bad boy appeal, and it is possible he at least chuckles with his buddies that he is screwing the daughter of the dude that had kept him behind bars.

[Slugworth99]

You are old enough to do what you want to legally. However, your parents are looking out for you. I agree with one of the other answers on here - what was he in jail for? You dad probably knows more about him that you don't - and he can't legally share with you.

Why not look elsewhere for a guy who hasn't been in jail? And one your dad doesn't already know his dark history. This does not sound like a good situation for you.

[JohnScofield]

I would trust your father. He knows the guy in a way you do not. I am sure that people can change, but you need to be very, very careful. There are lots of fish out there, even if you don't feel like there are.

[Prof_Don]

Did your dad ever tell you WHY he was in jail?

Depending on the charges he was in jail for, that's probably why he feels so strongly.

You should ask him why he was in jail; even if he doesn't know, he can probably find out.

[SDGlambert5045]

Your parents are trying to protect you from the guy after he had been jailed for a crime.

[phonezoo]

I thought girls didn't date "bad" boys?