hii, there...
well, my ex-boyfriend (with whom I am still heavily involved...we're basically together, but we just don't have the whole "boyfriend and girlfriend" label attached) kind of has this facial deformity. when he was a little kid, he got into an accident that resulted in irreparable damage to some of the nerves on the left side of his face. I guess the best way to put it is that his face is kind of lopsided...specifically, his mouth. and his eye doesn't quite close all the way. sure, it's noticeable at first, buuut honestly, after being around him for over a year and a half, I don't even see it anymore; I've gotten so used to it that I really forget that it's even there until somebody asks me what happened to him.
i am perfectly okayy with people asking what happened...but what I am NOT okayy with is people teasing him about it--either to his face or to my face. this has happened before (he wasn't anywhere around when it did), and I got extremely defensive. he tries not to show it, but he's self-conscious about his appearance, and he hates that nothing can be done to fix it.
soo, yeahh...whenever I catch somebody making funn of him because of it, I pretty much come unglued. buuut the important thing is that to me, he is absoutely beautiful just the way he is. and you should see him smile! ")
I acctually just went through a rough time. My man is not perfect but I love him sometimes he shuts himself out completely because he has been hurt in the worst kind of way and I didn't help that factor but I think we are past that mistake. during this time our mutal group of friends was talking smack and I was unsure because he hd shut me out for several days needless to say as I was at this persons house they kept saying stuff like you deserve better he is nothing but this and that I turned around and simply told them to leave it and that he has never done me wrong long story short these people were trying to get me to hook up with others and asked me why I didn't go home with this guy and once again I stood up for him and said that I wanted to go home and lay down with my man. a few days later I told him everything that went down so that he could deal with it and stand up for himself and to get them off my back. he got the sitiation taken care of and I did my best until he got the situation under control. even though I was unsure of what my man was doing behind my back I still and will always have his back he is also my best friend so no matter what its us against the world thick and thin.
I stand up for my boyfriend and myself. He does sometimes, but I do it for myself all the time
There once was a time we were at a party, (me and my boyfriend), and we were just dancing to my home country music because it came on. Then some guys want to come up and disrespect him because he was white and dancing to black people music. So my boyfriend knew I was about to kill them cause he knows that no one can disrespect him and live. So they continued, and he kept telling me to calm down. But, I didn't listen. That dude left with a broken penis and a black nose.
I hav a billion other stories, but there isn't enough characters left for them.
Of course I stick up for her, and would even get into a fist fight if needed. Especially for a man, I have no respect for men who cringe and sulk away when someone bashes their woman. I saw a couple where a stranger grabbed the woman's boobs, and her man just hung his head down and walked away with his tail between his legs. Such a putz!
Since coming to the US, my wife has been encouraged by American women to leave me because they all insist she can do better. She's very good at telling those women where they can shove their encouragement.
Are they in the right?
I'm not going to defend somebody just because I like them better when they're clearly in the wrong. I might be less harsh on them than I would be if they were a stranger and try to convince them of their error but I wouldn't just blindly support them.
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I'd slap the sh*t of a man who talked about my girl like that.
Slaps are the best weapon for pure shock value. No man slaps other guys. Just getting my XL mitt upside his face has changed a few dude's attitudes. They never want to feel the fist, and usually knuckle under and say, "I'm sorry, I must have been mistaken."
No, that's never really happened.
Usually some trash talking jackass just needs to be told to simmer down or take it someplace else. They don't know for sure what they're talking about, so the first opposition they recieve is enough to end the dissing.
Plus, they don't want to get slapped.
I just wish more women returned the favor when their little group of lonely friends starts trying to get rid of the new competition - the guy dating their girl friend.
I've had one or two girls defend me when I sucked at darts or someone knew I'd dated one of their friends and it didn't work out. It was awesome. I do throw like a girl, after all.
I will usually let her handle it initially; she can take pretty good care of herself, and I prefer to let her take a shot at it. Most of the time, she can handle it quickly and we move on.
If it starts getting out of hand, I'm always ready to step in, and if the threat was higher than a certain level (i.e., involved violence), then I don't wait: I take immediate action.
My girl knows I have her back, but that I'm also not going to undermine her and make her look weak in a situation where her being strong and independent is the key to success.
From a womans point of view, it depends on a situation.
If my man isn't with me and lets say one of my friends was talking trash about him, then yes I would defend his honor.
But if my man was with me and someone was being rude and plain old nasty to him, then I will at first let him have his say and if there is something that he hasn't said then I would come into the equation. But none the less I would defend him fiercely. But the aftermath of it I would most likely be supportive and encouraging and make him feel better by doing something special for him. I will however stop him and the other person getting into a physical fight because I do not want to get my man arrested and taken away from me. If the fight is going to be verbal then as I said, I will let him have his say first because men can be a little funny about letting a woman speak for them. Call me old fashioned.
If I don't care about them, I don't care what they are saying about me. If they say it to me, I can handle myself. =) Not too found of people I value talking about me behind my back or speaking for me though.
As far as a girl, it depends. I'll observe, and see how she handles herself. If someone's trying to run her over I put an end to it, but I like women who can fight their own fights. Makes me sort of proud, to watch them work when they do what they do. =) If it's just petty, I might try to interrupt and change the mood of the group.
i don't really care who talks about me, and whether she defends me or not is up to her, tho it always feel nice for anyone to be on your side.. now if someone talks about my girl on the other hand, then ill just have to put them in their place, its as simple as that, I feel that way for anyone I love really, if they feel that they can handle it, then ill leave it to them.. but for my personality I'm the first person in defending until the person I'm defending gets in my face and tells me she got it.
I like the girl to be able to fight her own fights. Win or lose, she'll learn something.
If it's an unfair fight, then I'll step in and try to even the odds, physically or mentally.
It helps to be able to trust her knowing that she can get herself out of situations if I'm not there.
If she is able to defend myself in situations, then I'll take it. But I'd expect her to try to let me sort it myself, and come in when I'm floundering.
But if it's trash talking when she's not there/behind her back, always stand up for her.
I have many times not just for him but for my relationship with him, lots of people seem to go against both so I have stood up for both more times than I have kept track of. I do it automatically, people going against him or anything like that is a sure way to get me to stand up and start an argument proving my point before its over.
I have no idea if he's done the same since I haven't seen it happen and don't know what happens when I'm not there to witness it, usually its people going against him when he's not there so he knows nothing about it so I don't know if the same happens to him.
I generally tend to be very neutral and opt not to take sides when there is a conflict that doesn't involve me. I'll only get involved if I'm asked to do so and even then I will hear both sides first before deciding who to support and if it is my SO that is in the wrong then I'll tell her she is in the wrong and to apologize to the other party, not always popular or easy to manage the fallout after that but I'd rather be the one to make the difficult decision and be respected for that than as the one who'd give out a carte blanque .
I will stand up for everyone I care about including friends and family and even acquaintance's or such that I know won't/can't do it for themselves. I hate gossip and those who feel the need to belittle others. If I like who you are as a person then I will have your back even if there is a little truth to a rumour etc.
I generally have absolutely no problem standing up for myself but its good to see other people willing to do it for me
I prefer not to treat women as powerless children.
There no need to "defend a woman's honor" just for the sake of defending it. I assume a woman is capable and confident enough to be able to do that herself. I would let her handle it herself unless it's particularly nasty or becomes physical.
Besides. Only people with huge egos feel the need to defend their honor. In most cases you can just laugh about it.
I would definitely stand up for him. I'd stand up up for the people I care about :) But I'm not really sure it would be a good idea lol. I have a difficult time controlling my emotions especially when I get angry or irritated, so I don't really know what I would do and how far I would go :/
Haha you'd be surprised. I go apesh*t :P
i don't really care if people are talking sh*t about me, and for the most part id let her take care of her problems because I think if your always trying to solve someones problems your treating them like a child, but obviously if someone is gonna lay a hand on my girl... theyre not gonna like me when I'm angry lol
No. They usually can handle it themselves. People who talk trash about your SO or other in general aren't really people you should care about =/ All they want to do is run their mouth to whoever is willing to listen. I don't have time to deal with their immaturity or issues because it's not mi problem.
Just because it's how I am, I'd always want to try to stand up for my man. But I know guys need to do it themselves just to earn respect from everyone else. Basically, I'd let him take care of his problems himself, because he could probably handle certain situations better than I could. I can just tell him he did a good job and comfort him afterward. That's where I believe my place would be after something like that.
I defend my girlfriend even when I know they might be right. I chose to be with her, she is my partner, my best friend, and my lover. More so if she is not around to defend herself. If she is present, I let her defend herself, she takes control of the situation, but the minute I see her lose that control, or they get too aggressive I step in immediately. I will always have her back.
Yes I do and I would hope that it be returned because when you really care about some1
you would want to protect them . But I think also it starts with you some couples bad mouth their partners and I think that kinda gives others the idea its OK to talk badley so even when your mad at your partner speak only to some1 you trust because you need to vent but show others and you man/ lady that you think highly of them they will return the favour and people will respect that.
I always stick up for them, unless it is a friend of hers that is doing the pickin. I honestly have never thought about wether or not she would like me sticking up for her or not; I always just thought it was the thing to do I guess. Come to think of it I would not like my girlfriend to stick up for me, but my guess is that it is a different mentality with girls, it always seems to be a different mentality.
My guy is perfectly capable of sticking up for himself so I don't see me needing to do that if he is there. However if he wasn't around and people were talking smack, you bet I'd put them in there place, no one disrespects my man in front of me and gets away with it, screw that. We're supposed to put our partner's best interest first, before all others and I firmly believe and try to live by this rule. I know he'd have my back too.
HEy you stand up for those you love, regardless. Depends on the situation, if I think the situation will get ugly I would rather the woman stays away (just for her own safety, and to keep her from being irrational) and pray because at times I could b the one who's wrong.
Well I was at a party. My girlfriend was pretty drunk and out of it. She was just laying on my shoulder. Some other girls sitting across from us said why is that girl sleeping, its a party. I didn't want to say anything figure that they are drunk and saying some stupid stuff.
From a woman point of view depending on the situation (he cheated) I wouldn't. I would walk away. But if a female just disrespects your man then you need to put her in her place without using your hands on her. Now from man point if he truly loves you he would protect you in any situation!
There's not much I can say that is different from what other guys have said. I love standing up for my woman or just women in general. Infact, that's probably the most exhilarating fight I see myself doing, which is ironic because I fight for a sport. I guess that applies to verbal arguments too, if I see that my girlfriend and or one of my girl friends are down and cannot fight for themselves, I will give my $.02 pretty aggressively.
I definitely would, and I think one should stand up for the one you love...irrespective of whether that person loves you back or even knows about your feelings...or else you consider yourself a coward who can't own up your girl/guy or too scared to let people know about your feelings for that special person...
I would not like to get into any unnecessary skirmishes but I would step up to my loved one's defense if offenses became profuse. I think I would try to avoid physical fights as much as I can though, and even if it became physical I would try to minimize and evade rather than head on fight back.
Cause I just don't want to be one of those guys who blows up at at even the smallest thing.
I will stand up for my woman against an army...
Until she is safe, I am expendable.
I am fully capable of standing up for myself, which I know is stubborn, but I don't want her to worry
I don't act like a mad dog at the slightest thing. Neither of us like that and in fact hate it to a point. But like if someone stares at her I stare at him, basically I would just make eye contact if someone does a stupid stunt. If it was more serious, like if he attacked her I'd just stab him in the neck.
I only stand up for women who flirt with drunk body builder type men right in front of me.
And then when the dude gets mad that she was "just flirting" and he calls her a bitch she says something like "you better shut the f*** up or my boyfriend will KICK YOUR ASS!"
God I love women.
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what a beautiful unsolvable mystery they are and will be
I don't believe in standing up for a woman. She might be my girlfriend, but why should I stand up for her? When chivalry was alive, women had certain expectations of themselves and society at large, just like men did. I see no point in extending any woman such a courtesy when she will be unwilling to return the favor. It is a dog eat dog world.
Not in every situation - sometimes it is better to let your partner work through things and confront in their own person. Everyone needs to learn, you just need to support them in some cases. They can thank you afterwards.
Eg. A bullying boss --> If you tried speaking up for your partner it would only make the situation worse.
I defend anyone that matters to me, guy or girl. And I've had both genders defend me. Even though I can't hear, I form close bonds with people in my life, and many of them get protective over me because of that.
hopefully you would avoid situations in which you would be in a setting where this was an issue for either, however honor and respect must be established to have any relationship worth investing your life in, so yes stand up for each other.
Well it depends on the situation if your partner seems to be able to handle it then let them, as long as they know your behind them on it. But if it's a bad situation then yes stand up for them. If anything it let's them know you really do care.
Yes but only in a mature manner.
I'm not going to escalate nonsense or bring myself down to a degrading level. To me it's a sign of immaturity to let yourself get all worked up over every little issue.
I'd stand up for my girlfriend, and in general friends. I've done that my whole life. And there's been times when I've wondered if they were actual friends, because they rarely stood up for me.
So both questions would get a yes from me.
I seem to always stand up for anyone I care about, or even people I think can't defend themselves. I got into trouble for that on more than one occasion.
Do you stand up for your man/woman?--- I do if I think he can't handle it.. I silently observe first.
do you like it when your man/woman defends you or would you prefer to take care of yourself?-- I prefer to take care of it myself :)
i would definitely defend my girl no matter what ,even if she is unfaithful! and I am confident that I can take care of myself,no need of my gf's help in such situations !
I will stand up for my man, because personally I don't want anyone to say trash about him, cause It will bad of me if I was there and I heard what they said and didn't make any comment. Guys likes it when their girl stand up for them, it make them feel that they are really important to the girl.
Yes I absolutely stand up for my boyfriend if any girl is giving him a hard time and he does the same for me when guys give me a hard time except he's a little bit over protective of me.
I personally will always and forever stand up for my partner no matter what the situation is. Right or wrong I will have his back. I will let him know if what he did was wrong but in the en I would be there for him 100%. My boyfriend always stands up for me, I've never been in the situation where I needed him to but there are times when someone would say something to me that's inappropriate and he would be the first one to say " don't talk to my lady like that" and I love him for that.
I'd stand up for anyone. If I know them, then I stand for their rights, if I don't know them, and someone is picking on someone, then I'll step in, and stand up for them.
to put it simple if its a chick fight I'm out but if a guy was starting it I would erase him..but I'm not easly angered I will try to solve it first-_-
In a peacekeeping manner yes. I'm not into the drama of needless fighting and arguing though. I'm not one to go to the extent I have heard some guys go. Some take it too far.
Quite a few stories here but not enough characters here for any ;-) No thoughts, just 2 words - YES ALWAYS :-)
Hell yeah I'll defend them.
I won't take it to a physical level unless I feel like it's absolutely necessary, though.
Now, my mother told me don't ever stand up for a woman.
If she can handle the situation herself then I'll let her do what she has to do... otherwise if she can't sh*ts gonna go down.
Sometimes people make fun of her, she's a bit bigger than others, but my right hand has always been by my side through thick and thin!
I tend to stand up for who ever is in the right, irrespective of the relation I have to a person.
Yes, but I never got that luxury from my previous SO's.
everyone is going to answer this the same way and so would I
i will stand out and ask them to stop talking bad behind their back.
I'd stick up for her in anything, right, wrong, whatever, she's my beloved one :)
If you care,you will always no matter what stand up for them!
i would if she needs help, but I would like her to stand up for me when I am in trouble too.
I once broke a guys arm because he called one of my girlfriend a come sucking whore.
If I think someone is being genuinely horrible the yeah of course but if it's just banter I play along.
u back hand your bish and shout at them for getting in trouble in the first place
lol.
Yes. I often demand satisfaction with a bitch slap :D
As a guy I like when my girl stands up for me when another girl says something bitchy about me-its never really happened that a guy was talking trash
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