I am a self proclaimed dilf chaser :)

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A dilf is a dad I'd like to f***I'm 20 and the average age of a guy id like to date is 30 to 50Is that werid

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It really depends on whether it's for the right reasons or the wrong ones.

Women seek secure men relationship wise. And many older qualify as such. They don't go out to party, hitting bars or club. They usually seek a serious relationship, and seem less prone to the "getting to have sex with you then ditch you" thing that some young attractive men often do. At lest that's how most older men appear to women. Women are likely to be more attracted to them based on this quality they have to be reliable and secure within relationships. And that's what most women look for in a partner.

Besides, you can only imagine that when a guy has a child, seeing this man taking care of him/her and being a responsible father just makes him 10 times more attractive. I'm pretty sure this sends some strong signals to young women who are at a fertile age that they should reproduce with him because if they were to have this man's babies, he wouldn't leave her around.

However there are more debatable reasons as to why some women are looking for an older man. Some of these include looking for someone to provide for them. Whether it be financial providing and they use this opportunity to date an older man so that they can themselves get the idea of being mature and responsible which isn't necessarily true because they're only looking for someone to care for them and not someone for whom they could care for (which is basically another form of daddy issues)

So if you're worried of whether this is normal or not, ask yourself what you find attractive in these guys and especially what you will bring them aside from being young and pretty.

blondiedancer94 · Accepted Answer

That's not weird at all. I'm 18 and cannot stand dating guys my own age. They don't have their lives together, they don't know what they want out of life, they just want to party, they're immature, they don't appreciate anything, they can barely take care of themselves. Trust me, the list goes on and on. I'm in a relationship with a man who is 10 years older than me, a lot of people criticized me at first, but honestly, he's a better boyfriend than any of my friends. Older men have more going for them, are more serious about a relationship, and have a lot more experience in every important aspect ;) They've been in serious relationships before and handle challenges in rational ways instead of chaotic, immature ones. The only bad part is when he's old enough to do things that I can't do. And that makes me feel bad, like I'm bringing him back to his teenage years. But overall, it's not weird, I know a lot of girls who date older men. And most of them don't have daddy issues. Seriously, my dad is my best friend and always has been, I just don't like unsuccessful boys my age. (they're a waste of time.)

smokahontas · Accepted Answer

Its kind of weird and not common, but who cares! There is nothing wrong with weird or being different. You can't help what ya like ;D I have had crushes on two of my teachers, one was in his late 40s and the other in his 30s, they both were hot, especially when I saw old pictures of them on the football team back in their days. There was one of my friends dad who was pretty cute, I had a little crush on him but nothing too serious.

justincider · Accepted Answer

I have to admit, it has been interesting being an older guy and having a kid.  To see how those things influence some women, trust me you are not the only one.  Beyond looks, maturity, or normal things my theory is this:  we really don't give a sh*t.  I'm at a grocery store trying to shop and just keep my daughter from tearing everything off the shelves, I don't even have time to notice the little 20 somethings checking me out.  Where when I was younger I tried to pretend I didn't give a sh*t, but I obviously did.  Its actually a social behavioral theory called "the theory of least interest.". Whoever shows the least interest has control over the situation or relationship.  For women who want to have that authority figure in their life, they go after us like never before in a mans life.  You are not wierd, its very normal, but the situation for us is just uncharted territory...

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

I guess its not that unusual.

Guys your age (who think you should be dating them) and women who are older (who think the guys should be with them) will sometimes complain. A lot of people like to think people with their income/education/weight/skin color/height/age owe it to them to date them.

various · Answer

I am also attracted to older men but not someone who is in their 50's. Although, my blaw prof is DAMN sexy and he's definitely in his 50's.

My point is, I don't think it's weird just because it's not the norm. If you're attracted to older men then that's who you're attracted to.

lghulm · Answer

I bet the DILF's love it! :) More power to consenting adults doing what they want.

I personally think relationships are more fulfilling within similar age groups (at least long term) but to each his own!

I think that lots of girls are often interested in dating older than their age group though, especially in their younger years (something to do with young guys being immature) I think it tends to change as you get older though, and certainly doesn't apply to all girls.

Meedo · Answer

Does it have to be a Dad? or do you mean an older guy I general? because if it has to be a dad and this guy is married then this is trouble .. but if they are single or a single dad .. then that's OK I guess..

as for if it is weird.. I really don't know .. it is probably a matter of taste... are you dating them for fun or seriously ? like are you using them for sex?

Just make sure you know what you are doing and not get hurt .

oralfan · Answer

as stated here already... there may, or may not, be some "deep" meaning why this is.   as long as no one is getting hurt, and you just enjoy that... then, do that.   the saying "age is just a number" is so true... who knows... you MAY run into someone closer to your age sometime who happens to be more mature than many your age...  as long as it is just the maturity and not just knowing the number, I see no problem.   (and no.. not just because *I* am in that age bracket!  haha... )

stubbsy · Answer

This is becoming more common than you think, most young girls want the more experienced guy and guys the more younger woman, and less experienced, but milf and dilf are something the age of Facebook has brought, because now people have a wide view on friends family, and actuallyt befriend friends parents, it is now becomming a part of life where a parent is dating a daughters mate or ex mate and the same for the guys.x

elicassidy · Answer

n'aw, we all have our strange kinks.. It's better to go for what you like, and be happy and enjoy-yourself, rather than let other people determine how you should live your life.. :D

baseballnerd24 · Answer

kind off just please make sure the mom is not active in the picture. I also get why you find them attractive but most 50 year old guys aren't going to be brad pitt just saying. Alsp people are gonna think you're a gold digger just saying as well by the way

Mtsmith · Answer

You are not weird. My last few relationships were at least 30 years younger. They sought maturity, I provided that. I still get hit on by younger women. Just be sure they are not married.

Go for it and have fun...

martyfellow · Answer

You just have father issues; it's pretty common. There are worse sorts of neurotic behavior. But, you need to talk to someone and sort out these issues so you don't wind up playing the role of the daughter your whole life.

DHarv24 · Answer

Hahahah..Nothing wrong with it at all..I think almost every girl has a thing for older guy's at some point in their lives and same for guy's with older women.But I agree with the ladies and the fellas that said just make sure they're not married...

Dylan1989 · Answer

No it's not weird. I'm a milf chaser myself. But like you said, she doesn't neccessarily have to be a mother, just someone in a mother's age range. Like 30's-50's as you've mentioned. Some mothers look much hotter than their daughters I have to say.

brander · Answer

No there is nothing wrong with that, age is just a number unless you are under 18 then it's just gross. Lots of young ladies like older men because they are more mature and know how to treat a lady! And older men are more experienced! So don't feel strange, or different, you just like to be treated like a lady!

LadyAly · Answer

Uncommon, definitely. But there is no weird, it's in the eye of the beholder. As long as you're doing what you want to do then it's your life, your decisions.

Anonymous · Answer

I have been with a lot of women way older and it is so hot.  I can understand your attraction because older women are way more confident and fun in bed, so much more confident overall, and very upfront and easy to talk to without being shy.  I am sure the same applies for girls dating older guys, too.  Older women are just amazing in bed - I mean way, way better than girls in their 20s.

LOVEEEEEEEE · Answer

As long as the men don't have wifes & children at home you shouldn't care

smallguy · Answer

Nope I have had quite a few like you and most 22 to 24 hit me up most of the time  My current girl is on 22

Anonymous · Answer

I personally prefer to date men close to my age. I don't understand how girls can be attracted to guys their dad's age, but if that's what you want keep doing what you're doing. Actually I'm glad that you do, more younger guys for me.

Mvc123 · Answer

I'm 31! Are you in the UK? We should hook up if you are. Your daddy issues will be cured ;)

bwrd830 · Answer

Age is just a number. If you like a certain type of person that's who you like.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong with a 20 year old and a 30 year old dating.  Now 50 is way different, but if that is what you like, then that is what you like.  I like younger girls in a lot of ways, and if you are mature then it can be a good combo.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Not weird. I'm around your age and I tend to go for slightly older women too. The oldest woman I ever hooked up with was 36. She was hot.

jimmytherock2005 · Answer

I see nothing wrong with it. As a matter of fact, I'd love to chat with you privately, as I've been told I'm a DILF, and open to chat with any woman who likes *DILF* guys. ;)

Anonymous · Answer

Daddy issues. Not weird, just..something you might want to see if you can't fix

Anonymous · Answer

It's not the norm, but you're an adult.  To each, their own.  Just make sure they aren't married.

Martyrdom28 · Answer

32 haha  nothing wrong with checking out dads

MakeLoveNotWar · Answer

I know this is hypocritical of me because I like MILF's myself, but yes, it's weird.

RIVERTAY888 · Answer

Nothing wrong with that its your choice who you would like to date its not weird

jokeriswild · Answer

You are no weirder than me...but seriously..no...you are not weird..<3

SilverFox1969 · Answer

Dilf here in central NJ. would love to know more about you

Xoxoxooo123 · Answer

No, older men are more mature.

Anonymous · Answer

Girl, no. Some dads look better than their sons. Lol..awkward right?

kataloso · Answer

Si. It screams daddy issues :/

Anonymous · Answer

Who cares if it's "weird" or not?

Sahgigoth · Answer

yes

Anonymous · Answer

brb having a kid

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