Begging for more while making out, is it normal?

[atlantis91]

I am a virgin. My boyfriend said that we could wait till I feel ready, and he told me that I could take as much time as I want. Two days ago he came over to my place, he was a little drunk and we made out. Things get heated, I wasn't completely naked but he wanted to touch me down there. I said I no because I felt insecure. Then he literally started begging me to touch. I don't know how to feel about this. Is it normal that he begs me for more. Guys? Girls, do your boyfriends beg you all for more too?

[ryanrhino]

Once you give in to one of the steps, he'll want more.

Intimacy is dangerous, as you get further into it, each of you will want more.

Women have the right to stop the fun whenever they don't feel comfortable. It's the man's job to wait. If he doesn't wait, he's a boy and needs to learn how to respect a woman's right to wait.

Plus, guys will want to wait as well.

You should be definitely talking about this when you are both not in the mood, but may become in the mood after talking about what you feel comfortable doing.

It's always better to wait because you can never undo what has been done...

[crazybastard]

here is my motto. nope, not YOLO, its no begging policy. I would never beg. but being with a virgin can be annoying as f***! so I guess I feel for him. break up with the guy because you are being selfish to be honest. he obviously likes you and gets nothing in return.

[atlantis91]

well he gets me in return.. if he waits, he can have all of me. if not, someone else will. what to do with my body is my decision, whether to accept it or leave the relationship is his..

[crazybastard]

yup selfish and evil too.

[atlantis91]

haha whatever

[LiveYoungLiveFree69]

I think because he was drunk he was just a little less inhibited, causing him to inappropriately keep asking for more. I wouldn't get mad just because he was drunk and it's a bit harder to control yourself. I've had guys do that before, who weren't boyfriends though. Maybe just talk to him about it nicely, chances are he regrets acting that way. However, I get that you're waiting to have sex, cause I am too, but maybe start slowly easing into a little fooling around? Only what you feel comfortable with of course, but its gonna take a longgg time to be ready for sex if you've never even been felt up or anything either!

[atlantis91]

yes we kinda fool around as well. it is hard for me to just have sex.. I mean I am 21 and I always wanted to do it with a special person. We have been dating for only 2 months, so before I let it go, I want to be sure of him..

[LiveYoungLiveFree69]

I totally understand. I'm 20 and also a virgin waiting for someone special :) So definitely stick to your guns on that one cause I've heard its worth it! How much do you fool around, though? Like maybe he's just a little sexually frustrated and had been holding it in and it came out when he was drunk?

[Anonymous]

haha that's funny because I went through the same thing. Did you know that drunk guys have stronger sexual desire than usual? And also when they're sexually heated (from like touching and kissing) their mind isn't the same. All they want at that moment is "more and more and more". I don't know about normal, but it's not weird that he begged. But anyway, don't fall for that because you should be having sex when you're ready, not when you're convinced or pressured. Your body/virginity is far more important than a guy's sexual desires. If he begs again, firmly remind him about what he said.

[jacquesvol]

Drunk people (not only guys) have the same sexual desire as usual but less inhibitions.

[Ineedadvice1989]

I think she knew, I believe she's just looking to rant

[snowangle]

Tipsy or drunk guys don't tend to hear the word "no" very well. Most guys do want to go further while making out, but he would've respected your boundaries more if he had been sober. It's good that he didn't go past begging, though. It could've been worse.

[kheserthorpe]

Yes that's normal.

He is trying to completely go at your pace because he intellectually thinks that's appropriate. But it's not remotely what he wants.

He's not hornier drunk, just less good at pretending waiting is no big deal.

[bDizzie]

I don't understand why virginity is so important... anyways it's weak of a guy to beg, he basically gave all his power away to you.

[blackkid2]

Wait, you're holding a drunk human to his words? Stop drinking.

[lexxypinck]

he was drunck ! con'on you take him siriously when he is in him mind you should talk to him about !

[Anonymous]

When girls and guys are drunk they always seem to want to push it as far as possible

[Anonymous]

It's quite normal.