In this day and age, when the media play a huge role in the formation of the societal norms and behaviours. When the perception of virginity has been quite reversed. Today it's embarasing to be a virgin, in the past it was more to not be. Today when teens are bombarded by sexual messages and stimuli. It is hard to find a good, loyal partner. Today that more and more people become atheists and abandon the biblical morality it's harder and harder to find good humans. (not impliying there are not self proclaimed christians that dont follow them). If you think that everything is allowed, and that we are masses of meat and bones, and that all forbidden things are tabboos mere social constructs, what keeps you from falling in all sorts of degenerations? Today people care about "having a good time", cause... "yolo" (supposedely) and thus go "clubbing" and all these pointless activities. Clubbing's only purpose is to strip young people of money, destroy their livers with alcohol, break their normal sleep cycle, damage their ears with the ridiculously loud "music" and give them epilepsy with the bright constantly pulsating lights.
How can these kids learn self control, self discipline, modesty, respect and humility? Not that having certain forms of entertainment necesserily speaks about your morality but it is an indication. We all know what is the actual purpose of these places after all. Breeding ground for one night stands, quickies, mindless entertainment and scattering of one's self, and even drugs. So choosing a partner for a longterm relationship, that is a regular in these kind of places maybe is not the wisest choice.
Now about a person's past. I've seen many girls here ask what's a girl's past to them and if it's important. If it wasn't a problem at all, they wouldn't ask these questions in the first place. Subconciously their conscience tells them its bad and they know it. There is some guilt inside, and it's not created by society. The qualms are genuine, if the person hasn't become completely desensitized and rock-hearted. The answer is actually yes. It is important. If I was a serial murderer and told you I got out of prison but now I'm a changed man, wouldn't my past be a deal breaker for at least 90% of women? What happened, happened and cannot be deleted. Why promiscuity shall be any different? Why to be a hypocrite and say that past is the past? I'm not saying these people are not worth of our respect and love, but that they should be understanding if we are a bit sceptical about their sensitivity and susceptibility. They can truly change, but they must want to, cause behind all things there are spiritual components that are beyond our control, that's why we seem unable to cut off a bad habbit of ours if it has great dominion over us.
So people when you choose a partner do not rush. Search the person very well. Have many dates and conversations with him/her. See their background, their past, their religion, their beliefs and morals, their weaknesses and addictions and then move to something more serious. Also choose wiser, the places where you meet these people. It's important to find spiritual people and people that live for the others as they live for themselves and not just for themselves. I think the pinnacle of a good relationship is like the marriage of two true christians. Who every day try to make one another happy, and every night they ask for forgivance from each other to humble themselves, and pray together. This life if done right can lead to really powerful bonds, mentally, spiritually, and physically. The true purpose of connection of the two genders is spiritual ascension and not mutual masturbation. Thats why most marriages and especially relationships of the youngsters are so fragile. Love is not a deception or an illusion, maybe it is but just for those that placed their hearts in the freezer of modern egoism.
But what about ourselves? Are we mature enough? Are we serious enough? Are we loving and caring enough to enter such a relationship. That is probably an even more important question than about considering the virtue of our partner.
Saints Aquilas and Priscilla, protectors of the married couples.
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