To me, an Ideal Partnership is a union of two souls that desire to grow and experience life together. In choosing to come together, they are ready to grow, share and build life with together.
When selecting this Ideal Partner, it would be a waste to base their importance on materialistic features of which its quality won't surpass time. It is best to find someone you can respect and build from there, which requires patience which is a great trait to build when seeking a relationship that will last long-term.
But don't forget, YOU are the ideal partner, first and foremost. If you don't believe that, it's great to focus on how you can get yourself there first rather than focus on what you don't have.
First, My Personal Boundaries (for this list):
- avoid physically-based preferences. avoid sexual focus, an ideal partnership-focus isn't a "breedership".
- I must meet the descriptions on my own list.
- must be realistic. avoid too much detail- a.k.a. leave enough room for pleasant surprises.
(Note: opposites do attract and fundamental interests don't need to change- you just love a person for who they are. Not every partnership lasts forever and that's okay, enjoy the experience of the love that it brings while it lasts. Then move on.)
- avoid focusing on what we don't want. It's a waste of good energy.
What I Seek, For an Ideal Partnership (that suites me):
1. Conquered their own emotions and takes responsibility for their life/actions. Thus, a great start to healthy communication.
2. True to their word, takes action and lives with integrity.
3. Has unconditional love for themselves and doing the best with what they already have.
4. Practices the fine skills of meditation, yoga, ecstatic dancing, singing, exploring, public speaking, leading a group or being a good team player and other things that get you out of your comfort zone.
5. Maintains “the work” to be a better person, daily, to maintain personal and spiritual growth: listens to words of affirmation or listens to mind expanding talks: Alan Watts,The Good Men Project, Landmark, Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, etc. Or any good inspirational book like "How To Be a Badass", "How to Let Go", "How to get out of the Victim Mindset". Religious text counts to me.
Basically, with this list... It covers the basic foundation of a healthy humans mindset. So if you don't meet this mindset, maybe you're not ready for a sex bonding partnership? I'd even apply this to friendships.
NOTE: A rule, that I adopted from White Wicca, is try to not waste energy during interactions with people who do not bring positive energy and focus above the throat chakra.