Finding A Future Partner: Things I Would Look Out For

[swanask]

This article covers what I would look for in a future partner. I'd like to mention that there are more but these are the key ones I decided to include in this myTake.

Let's get straight into it:

You can talk to them about anything (and vice versa)

Being able to feel like you can talk to your partner about anything and everything, without feeling inferior, belittled or judged.

Your partner loves you for who you are (and vice versa)

This one sounds cliche but, a partner who doesn't want to/ isn't going to try to change you but instead accepts, embraces and appreciates you for who you are. Not trying to change the person they fell for in the first place.

That is not to say that toxic or unhealthy behaviour should be tolerated - this should of course be discussed and expressed between partners as soon as they are noticed.

You share an emotional connection with your partner

Your partner cares about your wellbeing and daily struggles. They have a genuine interest in how your day went at work or what your plans are for the weekend. They ask not to make small talk, but because they care about the details.

Your partner shows interest in your hobbies (and vice versa)

Hobbies and interests are what builds the person you are. How you like to spend your free time, whether it's sports, reading, gaming, exploring the outdoors, etc. is in your interest. I feel that it's not necessary for your partner to have the same hobbies or to constantly be there while you are doing them, but, it is necessary for them to show interest in them. Whether it's praising you on your increased rank in a game - asking how you achieved it, or watching you in your monthly sports tournament, - supporting you if you lose/ praising you if you win. Showing interest in your partners hobbies is about acknowledging how much it means to them and the time and effort that has gone into it.

You share genuine attraction (Personality and looks)

I don't care if you're not "model material," as long as you are attractive to me and you have a personality that I love, that's all that matters.

There is sexual compatibility between partners

What you enjoy in bed is something you will need to figure out for yourself over time. Once you know what you like - are they willing to listen and take note of how to make sex a more fulfilling experience for the both of you? Are they understanding, or do they dismiss your wants entirely, thinking only of their own pleasure? Are you able to openly discuss sexual issues or worries that you have, without them making you feel awkward or guilty about it?

...That's when you know you've really scored!

Please let me know if you enjoyed this myTake and leave a comment if there are other factors you would include.

Thank you all for reading.

[TonyMetal86]

It's a good take, i agree with you on many points but still i'd never marry a girl who doesn't love to become a housewife, who doesn't believe that the man is the head of the house and also a husband is a husband and NOT A BOYFRIEND which he has your body and everything in you, because your a psrt of him so wheb he needs sex, you will happily comply unless there is a harsh reason...

Don't be shy depend on your man, he is there to take good care of you and provide for you and make sure that your always happy and fine...

In a true marriage, there is no such thing called your life and my life, it's our life, wgat happens to you, happens to me, and don't ever think that a man who accepts you the way you are truly loves you, there are some sacrifices that a man shall donl to his wife and vice versa... because no one is similar to the other... we always try to search to find our closest person who naturally share with us nearly all our likes and hobbies...

[ecfresh]

Creating the intimacy and trust needed to talk about anything and not feel judged is quite rare, and completely addictive when it happens. Because I strive to be 100% honest in all communication, I crave this level of intimacy with my SO.

I agree that not all hobbies must be shared. In fact it's healthy to have different hobbies so each person has a sense of individualism. It's true that the key is in supporting their time and effort spent in the hobby and celebrating achievements with them instead of any feelings of jealousy or resentment.

I would suggest you add something about accountability and motivation. Having an SO that both motivates you to be a better person and also can hold you accountable to your goals and not back down when bullshit pops up is key. As a partner they help nudge you towards individual and couple goals and are a shoulder to lean on when inevitable failure occurs.

[Anonymous]

Men just want a short curvy kinda dumb but as long as she isn't smarter than them and looks attractive.
Girls want a handsome but doesn't have to be handsome as long as he is funny , accomplished and charismatic.
Lol i feel bad for people who need to date. I dont want a partner at. all.

[Logorithim]

Very good list- I agree with all of these points and would add emotional stability as well, within the rubric of a good personality.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

This is a cute line.

[ATuairiscean]

Nice take - As you mentioned communication is key to all these

[Browneye57]

But zero here about what YOU bring to a relationship that is high-value. Just nothing. Oh well.

[swanask]

All factors mentioned in this my take are on a "vice versa" basis

[Browneye57]

Uh, no, they're not.

[loveslongnails]

Sounds like a romance novel. If you find half of that, you're doing well. If you wait till you have all of it, you won't be married any time soon on THIS planet ! LOL But I admire your aspirations. :)

[Mrchocolate1818]

One thing a woman's should never talk about is her sexual history if you where a how and trying to hop off the dick carrousel then just lie or not mention it

[bamesjond0069]

If i catch a girl in even the smallest lie about sex i dump her on the spot. Its nice to think you have a good girl until your buddies have to tell you all about her.

[Mrchocolate1818]

@bamesjond0069 of that she had bigger dicks than yours there no recovering from that

[bamesjond0069]

Oh i rarely have that problem and even if they do, i usually hurt women pretty bad so if they had bigger i know it wasn't that great.

[unlovedguy]

No one will love me. I am not trying to find someone anymore. I have given up.

[Anonymous]

Finally one MyTake that I fully agree with. There has been MyTake about the physical qualities they're looking for in a partner or how women have to behave but none like this

[JSmuve]

This is solid. Too bad I haven't met a girl that can actually tick off any of these boxes.

[Gottabsavagee]

Those are all the things that are impossible to achieve haha

[HereIbe]

I've found that, the less batshit crazy I am, the more of that list I can obtain.

[Pejtu]

Hell yea i got all those checked with my girlfriend
Very good one everyone should read it

[Anonymous]

What women say They want and what they want are two different things , do not listen to what women... it never works

[Anonymous]

I am glad I read this. I agree completely with it all.

[LeoElias]

None of these exist except for good sex.

[Anonymous]

Seems legit. Thank you for sharing it.

[Halucinator]

I agree with all the points

[Anonymous]

Yeah that sounds about right

[VixenRach]

Nice take 😊

[Massageman]

Good take.

[Secretgardenblood]

Good take