This is one topic I see people constantly going on about. They insist on wanting someone and figure everyone is as insistent as they are about it. So when they see someone who is perfectly content being single, they figure they just want one.
I see it among both younger and older people. Younger people in their teens and up really have a great vision of things. They want a loving partner, hugs, cuddles, intimacy, companionship, etc. They've got a great vision that you'd really like to see. In some ways what they want seems unrealistic, or impossible, but it doesn't stop them from trying. As we go towards the middle ages, people start figuring they're "time is running out." Guys fear the women want instant marriage, which has happened a plenty to guys which sends them running. But there are definitely cases of guys wanting to shop for a ring right away with someone they don't know that well at all. Then you got older people who can be very stubborn about the guy or girl "just not finding the right one yet." However, they're clueless as to who they are talking to. I've seen it a plenty.
My main point on this is that there are a lot of people who are comfortable being single. They simply don't want anyone. These people who want to find someone so badly or are married even can be extremely pushy. Instead of letting someone possibly bump into someone down the road. The more pushy they get, the more turned off to dating these people become.
There are also other people who also act as if them having a boyfriend/girlfriend makes single people inferior to them in a bad way. They have somebody who may or may not make them happy and they can act as if there is "something wrong" with the person who is single. This is a very flawed way of thinking. When someone is single they can see things in relationships from a logical perspective that people in their own couple may not see. Emotions aren't clouding the way. They'll see a marriage go downhill, extremely silly antics of relationships that are clearly ridiculous, a toxic partner really harming a friend or family member, etc. So there's many situations where a person would rather be single compared to potentially putting up with these scenarios.
I also see this as a problem with those who hate the idea of "hooking up." Single people have sexual needs just like any other person and like the idea of having one night stands and/or a friends with benefits. It's a very misunderstood area for people and the ones who aren't safe about it ruin it for those who are. Not everyone who hooks up automatically gets pregnant and/or has an STD. Women get hit with this the hardest because they're the ones who potentially become a single parents living off the government. This also makes them undatable for a lot of men out there. It's a dealbreaker. I see it a lot. So those who can manage to land a friends with benefits when single are very lucky in this area of things. Just because a person hooks up doesn't automatically make them a bad person.
Everyone's single for their own reasons. Some people would rather settle down at a time where they feel they'd do better in a relationship. Some may still be recovering from a previous relationship and don't want to be the date who rants about their ex all day. Some also like hooking up and would rather that over a relationship. Some also just prefer that lifestyle and don't need to provide an explanation. So it's very important that people realize that it shouldn't automatically be assumed that there is something wrong with them. Also trying to push them into the idea of dating just puts you into the "Not another one of these people.." category.
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