Male vs Female Psychology for Relationships

[Anonymous]

The one thing I've always noticed time and again is girls and guys both view each other as having the same psychological brain. They interprete the actions of the opposite gender through the gender of their own and this is the problem.

Love

Men and women are very different in this regard. Let's start with men.

Men

To fall in love is more of an objective decision for guys. We can more rationally allow ourselves or not allow ourselves to fall for a girl. that's why we can more easily get away with one night stands without a stand of feeling for the girl. Love for men takes time and we usually choose to allow it. The bad thing about this is it equally means it takes far longer for guys to fall out of love when they decided to commit to someone. Which is why some studies now recognise that men may not even ever get over a girl they loved.

Women

Women generally speaking fall in love much quicker than men. it generally takes a shorter time and is less of a decision for them. If they feel a connection with a guy, they'll begin developing strong feelings for them that turn into love. The mistake many girls make is they apply this to guys. They will fall for a "bad" boy type thinking they can change him. Or sleep with a guy thinking that the guy will eventually fall for them which usually just results in the guy enjoying himself and having no respect for her. The positive side to this is compared to men, women have a much easier time ending the relationship and getting over it.

[Azara]

Accordng to your post I'm a Man. Which I'm not.

It's also interesting that I just read an article saying men not only fall in love quicker but are three times more relationships a Including marriage than are women in a lifetime. That's almost the opposite of want your article claimed.

Well as it is with articles people post what will make money not facts though if money and facts coincide they'll post facts.

We don't know how women and men are toward love bc love is not one definition nor is a woman or a man. There are way too many variables to be able to say this is women's psychology and this is men's.

there are more differences found between people of the same sex than there are found between people of different sex. once cultural differences ; experiences; beliefs; external limitations are accounted for there's no black and white about women's or men's proclivities.

It is also irresponsible for anyone to assume anyone else expericnes love the way " they" do. also naive to assume any human being is exempt from any human emotion.

The way to deal with ambiguities and vicissitudes of love and difference is to just know yourself well and be open to knowing other people instead of projecting yourself onto them.

As far as assuming so one falls in love quickly results in you being used.. There is no connection. If a woman or a man is dishonest with someone then that is their decision. It does it arise out if an assumption the other person makes about them. And there is nothing " rational" about exploiting your fellow human to your advantage as it eats away at the strength of social fabric and as social beings we rely upon each other to survive. Demoralizing your support System is stupid not rational or objective.

In a world where clearly none of us would be alive were it not for the oragnizatiina and unity , it gets old frequently hearing how screwing peoepl over is rational bc you want somethimg and you go get it. This is a particularly American view... Most likely to create an outlook that justifies imperialism.

[fuuuark]

Men will only have more relationships (I think thats what you wrote, you obviously made some errors in syntax) because most men will need to trade commitment for sex, women have far more sexual value than men (since 1% of men can knock up 100% of women). If most men could get sex easily, most men would date far less.

[Roostah]

Women love is conditional. Men love is unconditional.

Women fall in love faster but fall out of love quicker.
Men fall in love slower but fall out of love slower.

[Bliss-taylor]

You are so wrong I laughed. One of the very few times I can say "lol" and mean it.
Did you Google at all or just make shit up? Because I did Google. First thing I googled "women fall in love quicker than guys" second "who falls in love faster girls or guys?" All sights I've seen say men fall in love quicker or get attached faster than women.
The shortest time it's taken me to say I love you is 3 months. Every guy I've been with has said it before me. Two guys within two weeks! That's not even believable. My husband said it after almost 2 months of dating I waited a bit because even though I was falling for him I wasn't their yet. Maybe some guys aren't quick to fall in love but it's not any I've dated.

[girlsvsguys1]

you know girls fall faster but guys say there feeling faster so some people think guys fall faster but guys fall slow if he is seeing long term relationship but it will be diffrent for every person.

[HowRUbBuddy]

it takes time for men to fall in love i agree and falling out of love is harder yes i agree on those two points , now women fall faster in love ( on average ) and they have no standard most of the time and fall for the closest attractive and cool guy they get to see often ( it happens to both sexes but men usually take much more time ) and they regret it , men choose the prettier girls but sometimes htey end up being dumb or have weak character so they kinda regret it

[ObscuredBeyond]

I don't get over women easily. I just get bitter if things don't work out, and have to ignore it or bury it. But then, at the first sign of trouble with a new girl, the fear of reliving history comes flooding right back.

[letsbefriends25]

No... to each his/her own. I love one night stands because I have a high sex drive. I do not fall in love easily at all. He would have to be really something for me to be smitten. I am a girl.

[Anonymous]

lol, men do not control their emotions for women. they're just better at hiding them. AT FIRST.

[Anonymous]

I dont think this article has any substantial arguments.

[Anonymous]

A bit simplified but not untrue.