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A Blog On Me...

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A Blog On Me....




So this is a blog about me and my thoughts on certain things that have happened in my life recently. Just want to personally let off some steam and I hope other people can relate to this entry. The man I have dated from January 11 2015 to yesterday has been nothing but a power struggle. He wants to control his woman and I don't consider it as a culture thing (He is Spanish/ Ecudorian) because any man/ woman can be controlling. However I just felt frustrated at myself and still kinda do at myself for putting up with so much shit. What I write down right now might be the most rawest I'll ever get on here unless something else happens (good or bad).



1. When you date a person you don't treat them like shit. The guy I dated I love him still, respect him still however I believe he has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder. He kept being about himself (YOU DON'T DO THAT).



2. You need to be patient with yourself and with your partner and knowing everyone goes through growing pains/ changes in their life (we as people change on the daily baises: marriage, kids, teens, old age etc.). Point being is you should realize patience plays a HUGE role in a relationship especially one you are serious in (even if you are an impatient person like myself you still have to try your hardest to be patient or your partner be patient with you if you feel impatient about things).



3. Just because you are growing as an individual remember to MAKE TIME for a person and to NOT HAVE IT ONE SIDED. Yes you get busy and are limited for time, you need to MAKE TIME regardless (if you are serious with that person you just make the time because this is the person you love and care for). Honestly I had moments where he'd cancel on me and I would see him and I got annoyed (didn't say anything to him though) because it was always HIM and what HE WANTED and WHEN WAS BEST FOR HIM.



4. You have to be empathetic. OH MY GEE I felt like I was dating a robot at times because he had the HARDEST time showing any emotion. I don't give a shit if you had a rough life, been burnt in a relationship etc. You need to respect who you are with and be caring realizing everyone is different and how they operate with their feelings is different from how you operate. He wouldn't know what to do when I would cry and he wouldn't even hug me at times and it was frustrating to be with a man that just couldn't deal with me because I was too emotional.



5. Learn that to be in a relationship that you need to be serious, don't waste the persons fucken time. Don't second guess yourself, make sure you have your shit and mind right. I am so over hearing and dating guys or even hearing about girls not having their shit together and yet complain about their partners. If you want to be with someone you need to have your mind right, career right (or working towards it) and you just need to be confident. Yes relationships are hard but it doesn't mean you walk away everytime you have an argument because LIFE IS A CHALLENGE (Marriage, Children, Old Age, Parents passing etc.).



I just feel like I can go on forever on this subject. If you guys have anything you'd like to share please comment below. If you have a topic you'd like for me to discuss please message me. Alright well thank you all and god bless :) <3

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