Something I've seen happen a lot over the years is men being criticized for objecting to their girlfriend or wife going out drinking, even if it's in revealing clothing. If a man so much as raises his concerns, his girlfriend will often accuse him of being insecure and possessive. This is a common bullying tactic that the media has taught women to use against protective men. It is a very cruel and sinister technique that is repeatedly used to bully and shame men into silence. But the truth is, in most cases, a man doesn't want to control his girlfriend, he just wants to protect her. Big difference.
This is not about trust. This is about respect and being responsible. A woman who goes out clubbing in revealing clothing might not have any intention of cheating. But that's not the point. Good people can still be overcome by temptation. How often have you heard people say, "it was a drunken mistake"? The fact is, the woman is going out into an environment where she will be surrounded by lots of men looking to get laid. And when the woman is intoxicated with alcohol, she is a lot more vulnerable.
Sadly, the media has been very successful at convincing women that if a man doesn't like his girlfriend or wife going out drinking, then he is jealous, insecure, or controlling. The media loves manipulating women and messing around with their heads, always planting destructive seeds in their minds to create negavtive thinking towards men.
Think of it this way: If a husband said to his wife, "In a few months I'll be going on holiday with my friends to Las Vegas. I'll be going out drinking every night in clubs surrounded by half naked women. But just trust me. If you object to this, then you are insecure and possessive." Would that be fair? Even if the husband remained faithful, would it still be morally right?
And let's be honest, the majority of cheating does seem to happen in pubs and clubs, or when people are drunk in an environment with the opposite sex. When a attractive woman goes to a bar or club in revealing clothing, she knows very well that she's going to receive lots of male attention. Her boyfriend or husband has every right to feel insecure. Why wouldn't he? Remember, good people can still be overcome by temptation. A man can trust his girlfriend or wife to have no intention of cheating, but bad things do often happen when women are drunk and are surrounded by lots of men who are trying to get laid.
So guys, don't fall for the lie of "you're just insecure and possessive." Don't feel ashamed for wanting to protect the woman that you love. And don't allow the media to brainwash you either. Follow your instincts, and stand up for what you know is right.
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