Things Couples Need to Discuss Before Getting Serious

I have learned this the hard way in the past. But once you and the person you are seeing get passed the flirting/first date phase. There is very important things to discuss before getting seriously involved. So I made a list.

1. I'll love you till the end!

We all have said it before not thinking. But unfortunately we fail to specify what that end is. (For me, the end is Cheating, Being told "If you don't ______, I'll find someone who will!", or being dragged into that drug lifestyle with revolving door company who's always trying to bum money, rides, or a place to stay while raiding the fridge.) It is different things for different people. Make sure your significant other understands what you refuse to deal with in a relationship before a serious commitment.

2. It is not the 1950s anymore, things are not as simple as (Single, dating, engaged, or married) anymore.

Now there is Sidechicks, friends with bebefits, Sugardaddies, "Dealers" (if you catch my drift.) and open relationships. (Make it clear what the meaning of a relationship is to you. And specify what you feel is, or is not cheating.) Some are okay with everything but oral and intercourse, and some will break up over flirtatious behavior. Depends on who the person is and what they want. Make an agreement/understanding on each other's terms, or back out.

3. Talk about your passions, everyone has something that they are passionate about.

Some people are gearheads and want their vintage/sports car, Some are Big time sports fans, Some are photographers, others like Hunting. (Mine is Heavy Metal). The reason this is so important to discuss is you can take the person out of the passion, but you can not take the passion out of the person. Once you understand what each other's passions are, do not tread on them. Let each other have their room, workshop, display, cave, theme, or whatever it is depending on that passion. (If you try to take that aspect out of someone, you took a part of their heart out of you.)

4. Lifestyles

You want to make sure to find a compromise between contradicting lifestyles. Cause a hermit who has a strong dislike toward the genearl public, and a spountanious person who loves going to the club is not going to make a good match. Unless you both can meet half way on having a couple of friends over on a weekend night, or getting out to do couple stuff.