Valentine's Day Guide for Singles

[rebekahj391]

As Valentine’s Day nears, we single pringles might feel lonelier and more pressured to date than ever. Many of us might use this annual holiday as an excuse to cuddle up on the couch with a tub of Ben and Jerry’s and binge on Netflix post-breakup style.

And when people all over the world are making love, having romantic candlelit dinners, professing their love to each other, and even proposing, it’s certainly understandable to feel a bit left out. It’s totally OK; hell it’s NORMAL.

But just remember this: it is fine to be single on Valentine’s day. Even if you don’t want to be, even if people call you an old maid, even if you feel pathetic, even if you’re 20 or 30 or 40. Whether you just went through a nasty breakup or you’ve been single every year of your life. IT.IS.OK.

Because as cliché as it sounds, you are awesome. You aren’t pathetic just because you’re single and you’re not awesome just because you’re in a relationship. WE’RE ALL AWESOME. And Valentine’s Day isn’t about heart-shaped candies, or chocolates, or overstuffed teddy bears. It’s about love, so take time to love yourself and someone else this February 14th whether you’re single or not.

Go buy a little black dress that hugs you in all the right places, take your dog to the park, hit up Walmart for some sweet deals on candy. Swing by Dairy Queen and get a Singles Blizzard; go to Starbucks and buy your favorite frappe and shoot, why not pay for the person behind you too? Show some love and find a way to enjoy your Valentine’s day whether you’re dating, engaged, married, or Han Solo :D

Shoot, you don’t even HAVE to celebrate if you don’t feel like it! After all, it’s just another day.

[Billyscotter]

I don't really even care if I celebrate my birthday, and Valentine's Day is no different. It was fun walking around the class as a kid and passing out cards and candy, but not a big deal now. I don't need Valentine's Day to show that I care about someone, and I'm just not into heart shared candy boxes and teddy bears. I don't like society and the media saying you need to celebrate Valentine's Day or you'll be in the doghouse.

[Pinkbeauty]

good my take 😊

[JudgmentDay]

Well I'm sure some of us had already quit and given up on love, dating, relationships, regardless whether we tried or not.

I think those couples and anyone else still in the game and is still searching for love should owe us "quitters" type singles a BIG thank you (and may be a hug, well I don't really need one anyway), because we choose to take ourselves off the market intentionally so they would have fewer competitors competing for their potential dates or significant others' attention or affection to ever worry about. Really, they should thank us and stop belittling any of us, or look down on us. They should feel glad and relieved, think "well there goes another quitter that means 1 less potential competitor I'd have to deal with or even ever have to worry about, since they have given up and quit for good."

I still think "love" isn't really real anymore but just all hormones and chemicals running through our minds and bodies.

Best way to deal with any unhappiness such as still being single or newly single from a divorce/breakup/became widowed is to not dwell on it or mope or cry about it.

Just out out there in this world, and Explore. Go out there and go find something fun to do, and do it. Don't think and hesitate too long. The clock is still ticking and every second that passes will never come back again.

[Rufus335]

why should i thank someone who quit on themselves. i never asked you to quit and owe you nothing.

[rebekahj391]

I do agree that you shouldn't mope about it. That was basically the premise of this take

But aren't you a little young to have given up on love at 18?

[JudgmentDay]

Incorrect, my age is much older than what is currently displayed.

I'm actually in my 30s.

[rebekahj391]

Ahh why choose a different age?

And I do hope you'll find someone who changes your mind some day

[JudgmentDay]

Unlikely, because of the way how I view our world and reality. Well realistically.

I felt that there is always emptiness within me and around me. And it just never really goes away regardless of what I do or not do. It's ongoing, and there really isn't a way I can simply get rid of it. No amount of alcohol, consumption, no drugs, or video games or any other kinds of addiction can clear and get rid of my emptiness and as well as some paranoia.

Also, because I had made up my mind long ago that I do not want any children of my own after looking at the big picture of reality and our world. Because I figured that I would save someone all the trouble and misery from all the bad things that are guaranteed to eventually happen to them once they are brought into existence here. That's one of the main reasons, and I know that would absolutely be a Huge deal breaker in the world of dating and relationships.

[rebekahj391]

Do you WANT children? Have you tried volunteering or something to feep fulfilled? There are certainly a lot of nasty things about the world and heartbreak is inevitable but you have to take the good with the bad.

Maybe you're depressed?

[JudgmentDay]

It's more so emptiness. I think I suffer from existential emptiness or existential nihilism. That I feel Ultimately there is No Meaning to my Existence except that Which, If and What I choose and/or Want my Existence to be about.

Sometimes I think I'm even apathetic and like I really don't give a shit at all anymore since I would expect bad things and failures to happen.

Gonna get involved with volunteering soon sometime this month. To me that's just taking matters into my own hands since I wouldn't really want any kind of psychological therapy.

I know I would have to take the bad with the good, since it's either I choose that or I choose to surrender and give up and die. And the latter is never gonna be easy, quick or painless. Besides, I had made it this far anyway.

But I figured I would spare someone from coming into this world from me, so I can NOT agree with having my own children. Since I never had dated and currently I don't date then will only way to guarantee that result.

[rebekahj391]

That's actually pretty sad to read. I hope you find happiness some day and maybe you can adopt some children if you fell that's the right path for you

[JudgmentDay]

I wouldn't adopt either. Besides the restrictions are generally more numerous for Single guys that have never been married if I remembered correctly. I won't find happiness. What I know I will really find instead is either More misery and unhappiness or Less and Tolerable amounts of misery and unhappiness.

[Haijal23]

Fuck Valentine's Day. That is all. I've been single for years now after my ex-fiancee and I split. Every fucking holiday just get more and more lonely, if that makes sense. The first few times are great, you know enjoying "yourself", "loving yourself" kinda shit. At this point it's just sickening. I don't remember the last date I went on, much less the last time I have gotten laid. Not that I do not try with woman... I'm just seen as a friend always. And I will be losing my job the first of march, just makes this month better. Makes me want to chug a bottle of oxys for my Valentine's Day Celebration, of course I won't buecause "it will get better", right? "Just keep your head up"... and all of the other bullshit gloss over responses.

[rebekahj391]

Just act like it's another day then. Self pity is really not harmful in the long run. You're only 25 so you have plenty of time to find someone. There are many things worse than being single on Valentine's Day

[aficionado]

This is a good one! Thanks! :)

By the, my personal opinion is that, Valentines' Day is just business. A chance for companies to rip people off.

[rebekahj391]

I think it was originally intended to be a genuine holiday but obviously capitalism took over. Just like Christmas sadly

[aficionado]

Yeah, I know it's sad. :(

[Anonymous]

I don't celebrate it. Not because I'm single (I'm not monogamous so I guess I'm technically always single in regards to monogamy), but because of my beliefs.

[rebekahj391]

Is it against your religion or something?

[Opinion Owner]

Somewhat but also beliefs just in terms of opinion.

[rebekahj391]

I can respect that 👍

[Anonymous]

valentines day isn't even a date on my calendar 😂😂😂 being single is great no barriers. no arguing, I can see who I like , do what I like

[rebekahj391]

I totally agree!

[rebekahj391]

But I do see why some people get a bit depressed

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah especially if you've just broken up or something similar

[CBryan]

Doesn't make a difference to me since I never went through a breakup. So being single is all I'm used to :D

[John_Doesnt]

My way of being single on Valentine's is better: I just pretend Valentine's Day doesn't exist.

[rebekahj391]

That's why I added in the last paragraph 😊 I don't really celebrate it either

[Chief16]

Yup. Might just go buy that black dress.