I am not even talking about romantic relationships exclusively. Thinking more of friendly relationships as well as dating. Of course there are exceptions, and your mileage may vary, blah blah blah, but these are valuable insights I have learned.
1) Women Really Are Full Of Shit
THE BAD NEWS: A lot of us @GAG guys complain about how women's hypocrisy. They say women claim not to be into pretty boys when they are, they claim wealth and ambition aren't a big deal when they are ... they give a lot of false information.
Of course this isn't true of all women, but it is true of enough to be generally true. And why shouldn't it be? It doesn't make women bad that they are into hot/rich men any more than it makes us bad to be into hot/well-dressed women. An unattractive woman might as well be invisible. This is well-documented and true. Women should feel no more guilty for whatever they are attracted to as we do. And if they don't feel confident enough or self-aware enough to assert this for themselves -- that's a different problem.
Women like hot men until they get old enough to start thinking about breeding, at which point money becomes a factor. So, if you aren't getting the hot women now, focus on your career and ... wait.
If you don't believe me, get in a large group of women and sit quietly. If they talk about dating and men, STFU and listen. Seriously, this is an educational opportunity to prove yourself right. If you can only restrain your mouth, every horrible thing we know about them will reveal itself to be true. If you dare open your mouth and question it, they revert back to Bullshit Mode. Try it and see.
THE GOOD NEWS: Stop pissing and moaning about it. It's a basic truth: women don't understand themselves. Can we just learn to accept this and stop bitching about it? They mean well. They really do. They want to encourage you, but they are really bad at introspection, which leads to my next point...
2) Don't listen to their dating advice
Most guys know this, although I had to learn it the hard way. Men aren't very sympathetic. We tend to be competitive and unsupportive of one another. We expect everyone to have the same knowledge and experience we do. It's too bad. Alpha males who have found the way shouldn't stomp on the weaker males. They should help them up.
The problem, though, is that advice from women vs. men is like "Hannukah Harry Saves Christmas": women give more gifts than men, but "you know we're always jealous of Rachael and Josh down the block, because they always get Hannukah presents for eight nights? Well, maybe these are the kinds of presents they get, so we shouldn't be jealous." In other words, like the gifts of Hannukah Harry, women's support gifts aren't very good.
Seriously, look at social media: if a woman said she wanted to commit genocide against an oppressed race, you can expect to see a list of comments supporting it, because women will support anything their friends say. They hardly ever call bullshit, especially against one of their own, and if they like you, especially as a friend, they'll offer you the same kind of worthless support.
This is why we men should try to support one another more: because the support of a smart man who is has his feet on the ground has real value. Dating advice from other men is great. If you haven't read Neil Strauss' books yet, you should.
Which leads me to my next point...
3) Don't Ever Let A Woman Fix You Up With One Of Her Friends
Women have no concept of what men find attractive. They behave as though one woman is as good as any other, so if they have a friend who isn't getting much action, there is probably a good reason why.
If you let a woman determine who your mystery date is, the chances are great that you'll open the door not to a dream, but a dud. If confidence is truly the currency of the kingdom, then this move will cost you dearly. "Do you really think this is the best I can do?" And then you'll cry.
Now, again, if a guy friend wants to fix you up with one of his woman friends, especially if he is taken already, take him up on that shit immediately.
4) You're Not Entitled To Anything, or Anyone.
5) If You Find Yourself Attracted To Your Woman Friend, And She Doesn't Share That Attraction, Do NOT Remain Friends.
All too often, men dwell unwillingly in the Friendzone hoping to penetrate to the ... Love Zone? Just get out. Don't hang around. Don't even try to remain friends. Life is short and youth is fleeting. You think she is the one but she doesn't feel that way. Move on. Remember rule (4).
6) If She And You Friendzone One Another, Awesome! Women Can Make For Great Friends.
Keep your expectations reasonable and remember the other rules, and you should have a great relationship with a good friend. But hang on to your guy friends. As friends go, they are the real deal.
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