I tend to refer more to a man, as I am female. However, the pronouns he can be used interchangeably for she, as this advice can be beneficial to both male and female.
1. He/she supports you dreams and efforts
A partner who loves you will encourage you to go after your dreams, and support you on the journey. Emotionally, physically and Financially. He or she will also take the necessary steps to push you in that direction.
For example: A supportive partner may collect the job or university application that you aspire to have/ attend. Whenever you doubt yourself he or she will be there to instill the faith you need to carry on. He/she will not deter you from your goals for his own selfish reason, that is because its an inconvenience or costly for them. A significant other that loves you will love and enjoy seeing you move forward.
Love is kind and supportive
2. He/she holds you to a high standard
In his eyesight you are a queen, the mother to his children, someone he would gladly introduce to his friends and family. You aren't some girl that he sees cheap and easily available to other men. He trusts you, and prides your very existence and the fact that he shares a life with you. A man/ woman who loves you, cares about what you do or say, he is not with you because it is convenient. A wise man once told me the following:
A guy puts a girl into a particular box. Serious (exclusive and may lead to marriage/committed relationship), just for fun, friends with benefits, girlfriend (but I'll still cheat), etc. But he has you in some sort of box. Now if you have him in the same box then good. But I would guess that's probably not the case. So my advice is simple. When people show you who they are believe them. And then let your actions follow your beliefs.
If refers to you as the cheesiest of things and makes reference to you as mere objects, animals, things and professions continuously. Then he does not love you.
He should see you at your best, closer to his heart and his actions will reflect such.
3. He/she makes you a part of his family
Family oriented events should include you, you should be introduced to his immediate and family events.
This is pretty self explanatory, a man or woman serious about you will make it be known to the people he holds close to his heart. Why?? Because he wants either party to get to know each other hopefully the way he does. If it so happens that he has bitter relatives then that is on them, at least he tried.
4. You are part of his/her life and decisions
Important decisions like buying a car, a house, moving, taking up new employment involves you. Yes, he is a grown ass man and can make decisions on his own, but a man who loves and cares for you values your input. Moreover, he weighs the options, problems and solutions on certain decisions like moving and taking up new jobs. He wants your perspective on how situations like this may have on the relationship, and is willing to work-along with you to minimize the problems and increase or better the solutions.
You have an idea of his plan, because he sees you as part of his life. If it is not so, then it shows he has no real, deep emotional attachment, and you are not attached to his life. therefore he can cut the strings whenever he pleases without feeling any remorse. You are here today, gone tomorrow. You are a part of his future plans.
He makes you a priority
5. He/she does not protect you
He makes an attempt to protect you emotionally, physically. He seeks your best interest, he gives advice that will benefit you in the long run, even if it does not appear that way to you. He wants whats best for you. He admires you, therefore he wants to make sure this incredible person he is with feels safe in his presence.
6. He takes part in arguments attentively
A partner should be able to listen to your opinions, and voice his with respect. He does not brush the issue aside, he wants to come to either a common understanding or a solution. He takes the time of the day to discuss varying opinions in a manner that is not harsh, abusive and condescending. There is no name calling and belittling. Lastly, he holds no grudges after an argument. A partner who does otherwise, lacks the emotions and patience to go through, withstand, endure and overcome hardships in the relationships.
However, he is smart enough to know which issues are worth arguing over. He won't argue over bed sheets and curtains.
NB: Get a partner with similar core values as well
I hope you found this helpful
Regards
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