The Signs of True Love

[akanetuk]

We all desire to love to and be loved in return, but most often in the process we are left guessing if truly we are in love with the right person. This state of mind is similar to knocking on a door and waiting for a response. But experience will always point to one direction, that if a person is in love, he will want to hear you out, he will want to be around you, such a person will always want to forgive, he will want to share, he puts you first. In love there is communication, love is patient, love is kind, love listens, love respects, love never regrets, love is willing to assist. So stop now and reflect on your relationship, how far has it gone with this qualities. If some qualities are missing, are you willing to fix them. You can be the change in the relationship instead of waiting for the change.

[BlessedDaddy]

I enjoyed reading that.

One thing: You cannot "Fix" or change another person. If you don't see it feel that someone is putting you first, or doesn't listen to you, or wants to be with you. You have to look past the pretty words and excuses. Because that is all they are. You'll know if the actions are there to back it up. Some of the worst pain felt in a relationship is when you must come to terms with the fact that the other person doesn't really care at all, it was all just manipulatition and lies. And people will continue on believing that other person even though they know it's a lie; just because they don't want to deal with the reality and the pain the comes with it.

Don't settle. And don't let someone own you like that. It's a very dark place.

[Avenoma]

But love is different for everyone. You state that part of love is putting their needs ahead of the others. Love is kind and patience. If I care so much about a person that I'm willing to be kind in a moment where harshness is warranted. That could have negative consequences and that is a character flaw. People use this late great 1948 attitude to hold peoples hand that they want to control and to hold them down. The level of complexity within an individuals life is what determines the style of love that works for them.

[akanetuk]

I won't totally agree with you, I shouldn't allow what am passing through affects the standards for love.

[Avenoma]

Who sets that standard? An intergalactic council of elders, god? Is love an entity unto itself? Christians? Muslims? Buddhist?
Love is only measured by actions and I don't believe one thing can't set that standard. I'm not going to tell anyone or anything that their actions are or aren't love. That is up to them and the recipient of the action. Their two views within a given action is what determines love for them.

[Mollynotgemma]

I’ve been ‘in love’ many times... and each time I believed it was forever. But I was the one that always held it back and the reason each relationship ship ended. Because I never loved who I was...
true love is when you don’t question it... I’m still waiting

[akanetuk]

you will get there someday

[beccasalley78]

But both parties have to be willing to make those changes. You can't make all the changes by yourself. Being the only one to make changes and fight for the relationship, really sucks!!

[akanetuk]

You are right

[beccasalley78]

I've lived that only lonely existence.

[websterII]

why would you want change from the person you fell in love with.. if there is a need for them to change.. seems like mabye it wasn't love after all. .. i agree that we vote with our feet tho.. the greatest indicator that somone might love yuou is they are with you.. and you just have to accept and trust that.. or you end up pushing them away cus of your own low self esteem. problem with low self esteem is if you can't love yourself.. you can't love anyone else either.. cus you will never believe someone loves you.. when you think your unlovable yourself. in the end time will tell.. half will end in divorce at 9 or 10 years and 1 or 2 kids later. some will live together for 50 years.. i envy them.. my marriage only lasted 10.

[sensible27]

Love is vaguely defined. If you get "what you want" I would think that's true love but presumably/I pressume standards are different.

[akanetuk]

perfection is hard to get by, sometimes we manage what we have

[EGarzona]

Love is so real and can be found in so many relationship dynamics.

[akanetuk]

that is true

[Hazelstar]

There is no such thing as true love but attraction , acceptance and attachment. Altogether.

[akanetuk]

hmmmmm really?

[Hazelstar]

Yes.

[Hazelstar]

That post is written beautifully. Though

[Bhavin2184]

Acceptance with all flaws if both man and woman are ready to do it that may be true love happen.

[BlackCatBone]

Love doesn't exist. It's a fantasy.

[captain_voidwalker]

Love does not exist

[akanetuk]

Lol to you it doesn't but for others it does. What you believe works for you

[captain_voidwalker]

No it doesn't love is the excuse we make when lust overpowers our reason.

[akanetuk]

lol this is so much fun for me

[SecretGardenBlood65]

Good take

[akanetuk]

Thanks

[SecretGardenBlood65]

You're welcome

[Unit1]

Sounds too good to be true.

[Aarvagol]

That was beautiful!

[BillysBabe]

Okay 👌