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What to Do When Suffering From Unrequited Love, Part 3: The Lover

If you're not caught up, please read both Part 1 and Part 2. :)



We all have to go through this ugly feeling at some point in our lives. It's called "unrequited love". When someone doesn't feel the strong love that you feel towards them. Getting over this rejection is never easy, it's a slow and painful process. Here is what to do and not to do during this process;



The Lover


What to Do When Suffering From Unrequited Love, Part 3: The Lover

What NOT to do



1. Deny that you're hurt.



If you deny it to your friends, your family, and especially yourself, you won't allow yourself to go through the healing process. If you admit that you're heartbroken, that's the first step.


What to Do When Suffering From Unrequited Love, Part 3: The Lover

2. Throw yourself at someone



Whether it's the person that you suffered from unrequited love for to begin with or whether it's someone you're using as a rebound, you should never throw yourself at someone because they will think you desperate and you will become increasingly dependent, which is never good. If anything, you should probably take a few weeks (more or less, everyone is different after all) off and not do any romantic relationships.



3. Kill yourself



This one may seem a little melodramatic, but it has happened before. Some people get so lovesick that they take their own lives. Even if it's not because of unrequited love but because of some other issue, you should never commit suicide when things go dark. Because it will get better. I promise.



What to do:



1. Avoid romantic books/movies/poems etc.



Ironically enough, it's been proven that if you avoid romantic movies and stuff when suffering from unrequited love, it's supposed to help you heal quicker. Watch some non-romantic alternatives and it should soften the blow.


What to Do When Suffering From Unrequited Love, Part 3: The Lover

2. Allow yourself alone time



You should allow yourself time to meditate on what happened, but don't retreat into isolation. If you allow yourself a healthy amount of alone time, that should help you come to terms with the fact that the rejector doesn't feel the same way.



3. Remember that there are other fish in the sea



This one is much easier said than done, but it's true. After my boyfriend broke up with me, months later, I had a bit of a crush on another guy (it wasn't anything serious though). Even if you don't think so, you WILL get over this person that you're suffering for right now.



This feeling is one of the worst. If you are suffering from it right now, I hope that my take has help at least a tiny bit. Thank you for reading and best luck.

What to Do When Suffering From Unrequited Love, Part 3: The Lover
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