You're simply amazing. You don't need to change a single damn thing about yourself. If and when you put yourself out there you will have men who want you with every cell in their body.
And that will be as true on 20 years as it is today because what's most special about you is inside even though you're beautiful.
Can I guarantee you a perfect relationship? No. But I can guarantee that you being yourself is not a problem.
All noise in the background but what fulfils u at the moment? Getting your career started? Just start with one thing at a time. Get yourself financially set up first. Before a man even comes around! 😒
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I think focusing on my education is most important to me now... I just feel that this whole thing will get harder and harder to deal with with each passing year...
So you genuinely believe that never experiencing love is better than experiencing it and then losing it?
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I honestly don't know... I just think it's hard to break old habits. If you're used to being single, it can become a very comfortable way to be, even if it might not be all that you want. It's easier to stick to your comfort zone instead of venturing out.
Why? Why does having or lacking relationships determine anyone's success or failure. Why would you want to primarily based your own success and failure upon whether you're going to have or never have a relationship?
Happiness comes from within yourself. Not from other people and not from material things, such as having a certain car, salary, etc. It comes from YOU.
Surely you must be aware that relationships are never absolutely guaranteed to last forever right? Even the divorce rate is about 50 percent.
I never said that everyone's life is a failure if they can't find a relationship. I understand that everyone has their own dreams and passions. It's just that love is my passion, and my life would feel like an empty void without it.
Hey harakiri I hope my comment didn't make you feel down. I only meant that in my life, love is so important that I couldn't imagine living without it I understand that everyone has their own dreams
No worries, this whole thing is depressing lol. I think... relationships tend to be very important for more people than not... so, i think it's natural for people who want all that but are unable to attain it to feel like they've failed
Yeah that's what I think too. I honestly feel like I could do nothing noteworthy in life but find my true love and be completely satisfied, but even if I accomplished everything one could and died alone, I would feel like I've failed.
There's nothing wrong with being single, why do people have such an issue with it?
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Being single now and then isn't bad. Being chronically single is a different story. It's like... you've failed at being human in a way. That's how I interpret it.
Awwh I hope you find someone who you love :) I wouldn't mind a arranged marriage, I've seen plenty of people who had a arranged marriage and are happy together but if I want a love marriage I know my parents will support that. My mum already encourages me to choose my own spouse.
Yes, your take is sob true.. i sometimes feel like i am going to be si gle foreverrrrrr. Everything is so complicated. So when people ask me why I am single (its often) I just say maybe in the future Im busy with school.. When the truth is probably no one wants to date me.
Eh being single for life isn't THAT bad. Better than 1 bad relationship after another. I've been single since 2005 and haven't died from it or anything.
Yes, arranged marriages still exist. No, they aren’t medieval and as simple as throwing your daughter at the next eligible man’s family. Take it from the girl whose parents, aunts, and uncles, and even cousins had arranged marriages. my parent's love for each other developed, blossomed, matured and strengthened over the course of their marriage. It may not be the all-consuming love that we watch and read about, but it is meant to be a relationship based on understanding, committing to learning about one another and making a life together. My mom had to make tremedous amout of scarifice to make it work. hope you find someone you love in the future.
Until you can be certain of who you are and what you want, and until you can get past your apparently paralyzing fear of relationships, you will indeed be single.
But you don't HAVE to be. You seem to know what would have to be fixed... ;)
I love how you seem to think we are all the same voice saying conflicting things. We are all individuals with different wants and needs. You can't expect us all to want the same thing.
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I don't expect all men to want the same thing. Having all those preferences match up between two people just seems daunting.
sorry I just clicked on this because I saw life savers lmao.
But I read it and all I can say is chin up, have patience there's a guy out there for you somewhere, just keep looking, I mean it was easy we'd all have someone right?
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with your mentality. be single unless you want a self fufilling prophesy.
in reality, men are one women away from losing their wealth, health and sanity.
women get hurt, good the relationship may be over. she wasn't paying most times anyway...
women have it easier, held to much lower standards, are tolerated while men are accountable for things...
so, know men have it worse and i hope you can open your mind. life is 100 times better with the right person but 100 times worst with the wrong
While the standards between men and women may be different, I'm not sure that one gender has it infinitely easier than the other.
You're simply amazing. You don't need to change a single damn thing about yourself. If and when you put yourself out there you will have men who want you with every cell in their body.
And that will be as true on 20 years as it is today because what's most special about you is inside even though you're beautiful.
Can I guarantee you a perfect relationship? No. But I can guarantee that you being yourself is not a problem.
You are incredible.
I will go back to avoiding your posts again now.
All noise in the background but what fulfils u at the moment? Getting your career started? Just start with one thing at a time. Get yourself financially set up first. Before a man even comes around! 😒
I think focusing on my education is most important to me now... I just feel that this whole thing will get harder and harder to deal with with each passing year...
Forget about peer pressure.
Me too!
So you genuinely believe that never experiencing love is better than experiencing it and then losing it?
I honestly don't know... I just think it's hard to break old habits. If you're used to being single, it can become a very comfortable way to be, even if it might not be all that you want. It's easier to stick to your comfort zone instead of venturing out.
Yeah, that's very true.
I almost cried reading this. I could never accept being single forever. I'd feel like my life was a total failure.
Why? Why does having or lacking relationships determine anyone's success or failure. Why would you want to primarily based your own success and failure upon whether you're going to have or never have a relationship?
Happiness comes from within yourself. Not from other people and not from material things, such as having a certain car, salary, etc. It comes from YOU.
Surely you must be aware that relationships are never absolutely guaranteed to last forever right? Even the divorce rate is about 50 percent.
I sometimes feel that way :(
I never said that everyone's life is a failure if they can't find a relationship. I understand that everyone has their own dreams and passions. It's just that love is my passion, and my life would feel like an empty void without it.
Hey harakiri I hope my comment didn't make you feel down. I only meant that in my life, love is so important that I couldn't imagine living without it I understand that everyone has their own dreams
No worries, this whole thing is depressing lol. I think... relationships tend to be very important for more people than not... so, i think it's natural for people who want all that but are unable to attain it to feel like they've failed
Yeah that's what I think too. I honestly feel like I could do nothing noteworthy in life but find my true love and be completely satisfied, but even if I accomplished everything one could and died alone, I would feel like I've failed.
Don't set yourself up for failure. This is why everyone says be yourself because it was true. The right one will come along soon, just be patient. :)
Thanks for the advice :)
Life of a typical girl in my country, but eventually, they're forced to do arranged marriage.
:x but things are getting better right? More rights?
Nah :/ think about being someone's slave. At least you're free and independent.
There's nothing wrong with being single, why do people have such an issue with it?
Being single now and then isn't bad. Being chronically single is a different story. It's like... you've failed at being human in a way. That's how I interpret it.
Well shit I ain't been human for 5 years!
Lmao. Well, you managed to do it at least once, so you passed :p
Awwh I hope you find someone who you love :)
I wouldn't mind a arranged marriage, I've seen plenty of people who had a arranged marriage and are happy together but if I want a love marriage I know my parents will support that. My mum already encourages me to choose my own spouse.
This is a great post. You are someone I could be friends with. good luck out there.
Thank you, I appreciate that :)
Yes, your take is sob true.. i sometimes feel like i am going to be si gle foreverrrrrr. Everything is so complicated. So when people ask me why I am single (its often) I just say maybe in the future Im busy with school.. When the truth is probably no one wants to date me.
Eh being single for life isn't THAT bad. Better than 1 bad relationship after another. I've been single since 2005 and haven't died from it or anything.
if you have never dated before how can you know how you will stay alone forever?
It just seems to me that's where my life is heading.
Yes, arranged marriages still exist. No, they aren’t medieval and as simple as throwing your daughter at the next eligible man’s family. Take it from the girl whose parents, aunts, and uncles, and even cousins had arranged marriages. my parent's love for each other developed, blossomed, matured and strengthened over the course of their marriage. It may not be the all-consuming love that we watch and read about, but it is meant to be a relationship based on understanding, committing to learning about one another and making a life together. My mom had to make tremedous amout of scarifice to make it work. hope you find someone you love in the future.
Until you can be certain of who you are and what you want, and until you can get past your apparently paralyzing fear of relationships, you will indeed be single.
But you don't HAVE to be. You seem to know what would have to be fixed... ;)
I love how you seem to think we are all the same voice saying conflicting things. We are all individuals with different wants and needs. You can't expect us all to want the same thing.
I don't expect all men to want the same thing. Having all those preferences match up between two people just seems daunting.
Why is no one calling her a loser who can't get guys?
Society has already told me that. It's like failing a very important life test.
You should believe in yourself. I believe you'll be all right, dudette 8)
sorry I just clicked on this because I saw life savers lmao.
But I read it and all I can say is chin up, have patience there's a guy out there for you somewhere, just keep looking, I mean it was easy we'd all have someone right?
This was a nice read :)
Glad you liked it :)