What I'd Like To Experience In A Relationship (Page 2)

[FaithfulGuardian]

Seriously, if a guy doesn't tolerate a dog then that already proves he isn't caring and doesn't deserve your time.

[COCOCHANEL]

i feel the exact same way you do about people close to me respecting my spirituality and religion

[litty]

If you don't give a little of those yourself, you can't really expect to get it back

[Nyx_85]

Uh how do you know she doesn't? You are making an assumption.

[litty]

@Nyx_85 That was a conditional statement. An assumption would be that you are pretending you don't know what that means so you can start fights with strangers on GAG

[Nyx_85]

You know exactly what your comment looked like. Stop being silly.

[Nyx_85]

A 'conditional statement' would have more clear if you said something along the lines of "Those are all great, just make sure you are giving the same back". But what you wrote totally makes it look like you are assuming she doesn't. Regardless of what you meant and how it appeared to you in your head. Guaranteed I'm not the only one who will read it that way. Yeah I can say you probably didn't mean it that way but well.

[litty]

@Nyx_85 "Just make sure you are giving the same back" is an imperative statement and im not about telling the author what to do, but i am referring to her directly. Maybe you dont agree with what my original post said about give and taking, but what u see would be an entirely different context with the "if" not included

[Nyx_85]

Or you could have said something like "Those are great, I just hope you give the same back". Which isn't ordering her around but also doesn't come off as assuming.

"Maybe you dont agree with what my original post said about give and taking,"

Where did I say that? I never presented that idea. It was never a factor in any of my comments.

"but what u see would be an entirely different context with the "if" not included"

Would you say "You don't give a little of those yourself, you can't really expect to get it back"? Rhetorical question. No. Because that would be incorrect. You need the 'if' clause in order to get the result clause. A 'first conditional' clause represents a condition (or situation) of high probability in the 'if clause. i. e "It's highly probably she doesn't give back in her relationships". Which then gives us the result clause "she can't expect it back". Highly probable condition = expected results.

Believe me I'm not the only one who will think you are assuming.

[litty]

@Nyx_85 That would be putting words in my mouth because I have no hopes whether she gives back the same treatment. It's just a general rule that folks shouldn't expect anything more or less than they give, in other words being self entitled. I don't know why of the five people she's dated she's never received flowers, compliments, gifts, but that does sound like a red flag to me. Somethings got to give. Either she dates jerks or something about her personality makes them not want to buy her anything, and I don't know why she sees a therapist. What has she done that elicits those same requests? I don't know the answer to that nor do I know she doesn't, only if.

[Nyx_85]

If a person keeps dating the same type of people it's obviously SOMETHING they are doing. i. e choosing the wrong people. Being too codependent. People like that tend to give a lot and just accept crap in return and are often too passive to stand up for themselves. Though it's seems she is on the path to trying to fix this.

[Nyx_85]

*it seems

[MrCrewCut]

How can you not like dogs?

[Midget_Hug]

I could do this. I have before.

[NightOwl8801]

I agree with that , nothing wrong with any of it.

[LastNightmare]

Beautiful honey... really beautiful

[Pegasio]

You ask for too much.

[cupidkisses]

such a nice list

[Nahid1234]

Cute