The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

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The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

We all know what Long Distance Relationships are, a relationship where the people are away from each other, different parts of the same country or even different countries.

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

They are hard to have because having no physical contact is really hard on a relationship and even with new technologies like Skype, Discord, phone apps and many more ways to connect with that sweet person who is now sleeping while for you it's time to have lunch. But even being hard to have, when love calls you it's really hard to deal with it and ignore it so a lot of people try them and even go with them until they meet each other in real life sometime after.

So for all of you that are wondering if they should get into one, are into one or were in one, here are some advantages and disadvantages of LDR's.

Spending time pursuing your own interests is good for the relationship.

In most relationships, people tend to invest a lot of time on the partner and that's a perfect thing but forgetting about yourself is a big mistake in a relationship. LDR's usually don't have that problem, since distance makes hard to be online all time most people into them tend to keep doing their hobbies daily and are prove to remain happy even when not with that other person.

Sweating the small stuff just isn't important.

When on an LDR time is limited to talk, write or video chat so most things that don't matter are left out and only important things remain. That's also translated into living things, is your house messy? are you annoying when you wake up? Well, those thing's doesn't matter as much when on an LDR making them even silly when the time to meet comes. Also, it's proved to be easier to overcome conflicts and not care about small things when the relationship becomes real.

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Feelings matter a lot more.

Since grabbing his hand, looking at her eyes, smiling... can't be done and most of the conversation is probably text, expressing your feelings becomes a really important part of the job that both persons have to do. Expressing feelings is really really hard when you're in a relationship but when on an LDR you just have to learn to do it cause it's the best and only way to try showing love, trust...

Some people use roleplay as a way of making things a little easier when sharing feelings and talking becomes a little hard.

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Good communication takes actual work.

Yes, an actual study revealed that LDR couples tried harder to be on for their partner, had better communication and it's stronger creating bonds that last for longer on the relationship. The communication is also more honest and relying on your partner on hard times makes the feeling of the relationship even stronger

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Improves the sex experience.

Not being with someone means no physical sex but no one ever said sex had to be physical to be hot.

Communication skills are really important on this part since it's the best way of handling that but there are a lot of ways like roleplaying, talking about fetishes, fantasies, ideas to do, toys, phone or online calls... They can all be awesome if people invest time on them and most people that got into a real relationship after the LDR say that the sexual improvements and trust on the partner are amazing.

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Trust is really important.

It's hard to say but you can't know for sure if your partner is or not doing what he/she says so trust is really important. Some couples can't live without knowing how the other is, what is doing... But on an LDR you can only trust your partner cause if you don't the relationship will start being less and less attractive.

Planning out your future.

"Don't ask where the relationship is going too soon" is one of the most known phrases for couples but LDR's can't have that. An LDR couple needs to think about the future, need to expect something to happen, to meet for 1-2 days, to talk in a week, to play an online game in X time... Or, will we be able to talk like today for a year, should we think about calling each other... All of that is proving to be a very good way of easing anxiety and having a goal to look for.

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Talking is better than writing.

As most of you already guess, hearing someone's voice is beautiful but the way an LDR looks at that is even more special, voice can have an interesting effect that text can't, as studies say, only texting produces different things on males and females which end up with the worst relationship experience.

Talking is the best way to improve that, is a perfect way thanks to the technology we have now and it warm people hearts, even more, when it's the first time you hear that voice for maybe months after the relationship started. And all of this can be said for the first time seeing each other live~

The Pros and Cons of LDR's (Long Distance Relationships)

Sadly, LDR's have disadvantages too and most of them can be found here. Most of them are the advantages seen from a bad point of view.

Since I disagree with most of the things mentioned on it I'll just end up with my personal opinion and ideas.

LDR's are hard, the need of trust on your partner, needing to change some parts of your life for him or her, that words slowly become senseless if they're alone and a lot more things makes them really hard to think about and get into one but love is love and if you really feel like it getting into an LDR can be seen as a trial, a way of proving if both of you really love each other needed a lot of investment for both sides making it run against the ocean waves. It's challenging for sure but can be really rewarding and not only while the couple is online but as if it becomes a real one.

For me, LDR's are a challenge and trial of true love that can make a couple really be one trusting each other and knowing what feels to be alone caring for the other person and physical touch more than normal couples. And to finish, if you're or you plan or getting into one, I advise you to have a look at this since it may help you with it~

Thanks for reading and hope you have a good day!

Daniel

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