A study by the NHS found that women are less happy than men until they are 85, but after that age, they are happier. This coincides with the age where men die.
The study indicates that women on average are not happy in marriages with traditional gender roles, even if they might stay married to their partner. It also goes in line with statistics that show that women are much more likely to suffer from severe health conditions throughout their lives, including mental health conditions. Particularly young women between 16-24 are more likely to have mental health conditions, as well as women over 34. This coincides with the ages where most pressure is put on women and how they look, and later on married women who not only need to care about themselves but their families.
These statistics are very clear. Many women are not happily married and do not thrive in roles where they need to worry about their own life as well as their husband's. I think this is a clear sign that men who actually love their partner will not let her be submissive and work for them, but will care for her wellbeing and put just as much into the relationship as she does.
It makes me so sad to see all these women spend the majority of their lives unhappy and with mental health issues, only to find happiness once their husband is dead and they can finally stop worrying about someone else.
And don't say it's not true, I worked at a community center for elderly where I arranged bingo nights, and got to talk to many women who took care of their husbands until they died, whereas all the women were taken care of by their children while they still had to prepare meals for their husbands even though they could barely walk.
Men need to take responsibility in their marriages and take on the role of the carer as well. You cannot expect your partner to care for you, clean for you, do your laundry, manage your schedule, cook for you, raise your children, if you don't do the same for her at the same rate. Especially after pension. It's unacceptable that a woman's job as carer has to be until her husband dies.
It doesn't mean that those women didn't love their husbands. It means their husbands became a burden. Don't be a burden. If you're not ready to take on equal responsibility for the relationship, you're not ready for a relationship. Don't put your partner through a lifetime of hardship.
(And I'm not talking about couples sitting down and discussing how to share responsibilities, or her choosing to be a stay-at-home mom. Though that has issues too, as stay-at-home mom are at a higher risk to be depressed and lonely. I'm talking about the majority of couples where women do more work than men throughout their entire life and do not get adequate remuneration for the work.)