The Glorification of Age Gap Relationships Is Only Hurting YOU

[LittleSally]

Age-gap relationships and the glorification of them isn't healthy...

Yes, those kinds of relationships usually worked out in the past because they were merely business deals - trading your daughter for livestock, some land, money or a title was the norm, and it didn't really matter if said daughter was happy or not...what mattered was that she served a purpose to her family and to her husband.

Nowadays usually no one is forcing the youngster to go into an age-gap relationship with a significantly older person. They do it because it sounds like a good idea, and within romanticizing that idea they seem to have a lot of suppositions that actually a lot of the time turn out to be false - hence they get disappointed and things, surprisingly enough, just don't work out for most of these relationships.

Here are some of the pitfalls in the suppositions young people make about age-gap relationships:

1. Just because they're old/er doesn't mean they're mature.

2. Just because they seem rational and well-mannered doesn't mean they aren't going to manipulate you and use you.

3. Just because they are with you doesn't mean they take you seriously.

4. Just because they have numerous life experiences doesn't mean they've learned from them.

5. Just because they're reached a certain age doesn't mean they're stable and independent in life.

[somewheresomeway]

I'm in my mid 30s and for the last 6 years or so almost all the girls I've dated are in their 20s (exception of one who was my same age).

When I was 28 I dating a 20 yr old for a few months. At the time I felt sorta werid about it.. but we talked it out and gave it a shot. It was first time I was in a age gap relationship. It was fun while it last though.

The best relationship I had was with a 25 yr old when I was 32. She was very mature for age and felt like she didn't fit in well with other 25 yr old guys. Sadly I was going through a very difficult time in my life and the relationship went south because my own problems (I would have proposed in a different time in my life).

Being in my 30s I just don't run into many available women my age. The single ones are usually divorced, have kids or severe baggage issues OR they are no physically appealing (mordidly obese). I'm a former professional athlete and I still keep myself in shape.

Anyway I have a lot more luck dating girls in their 20s then when I WAS IN MY 20s. I treat them well, have fun and treat them like equals if their maturity is up there. There is nothing wrong with that. I'll take it.

[Anon-ymous1]

Exactly.

[somewheresomeway]

I forgot to add. Some of the worst dating. Experiences I’ve had are from women in their 30s. In the last year I’ve had FIVE women close to my age flake out, stand me up and the last one lied to my face about needing to use the bathroom, she instead ditched me while we are on a date. Some older women incredibly get worse.

[bente2]

Ok, so what’s your point? I gotta say you missed the board here, in my opinion.

Age gap couples often work out perfectly fine. And if they don’t, it’s not because of age, but because of differences in personality.

[Anon-ymous1]

Agreed.

[Allie_Oops]

I honestly think it's natural for women to prefer older men and men to prefer younger women. My own grandparents were 17 years apart and were married for over 35 years before my grandfather passed away. I Don't think it's a glorification, but in my personal experience, older guys ARE more mature than the guys my age. The guys my age are still struggling to understand credit card debt. That's really pathetic.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

thank you l would love to have a younger fit girl l look 45 honest ldo

[Goodwifie]

I want to grow old with my husband.
I couldn't imagine our life together if he was 15 years older.

[theharlequin]

Haha I've known a lot of large age gap couples, and I've had a few age gap relationships myself. I've never noticed any of the women being sold like livestock, and if I was one of those women, I'd be highly offended at the suggestion.

Responses:
1. 'Just because they're old/er doesn't mean they're mature.'
So save yourself the uncertainty and go for guaranteed immaturity by marrying young.

2. 'Just because they seem rational and well-mannered doesn't mean they aren't going to manipulate you and use you.'
So go for younger people who will never, ever, ever manipulate and use you.

3. 'Just because they are with you doesn't mean they take you seriously.'
So go for younger people who will always take you seriously.

4. 'Just because they have numerous life experiences doesn't mean they've learned from them.'
So save yourself the uncertainty and go for guaranteed inexperience and ignorance by marrying young.

5. 'Just because they're reached a certain age doesn't mean they're stable and independent in life.'
So save yourself the uncertainty and go for guaranteed instability by marrying young.

Don't worry. Older people look for maturity in the younger people they date, so you're safe.

[rockrewls]

lol truth especially on the last comment you made! ...

[heavensgift2girls]

I have never heard anyone glorifying age gaps where the man is older. In fact I hear the men being called all sorts of names, and getting accusations about needing a younger woman because they are easier to control being thrown at him. Often I even hear the women being treated like whores as well. The only time it is ever glorified is if she is an older woman or "cougar" having one night stands with younger guys.

Men are attracted to youth and beauty, which women lose as they get older. Women are attracted to wealth and status, which men gain as we get older. This means women have the advantage when they are young, and men have the advantage when we get older. No amount of whining about human sexuality being unfair to younger guys, or older women is going to change that. I know this is painful for women reaching their thirties to accept, but that is just the way it is.

You haven't even been able to make a single case for why these relationships are bad, while making the claim that such relationships will hurt people. You basically just state that there is no guarantee that things will work out, which means nothing. People in those relationships know that there is no guarantee that just because someone is older they will be a certain way.

[Berethor]

Being "attracted" to money is not the same as being attracted to old body, that why many gold diggers have an younger lover on the side, for obvious reasons.

[somewheresomeway]

Spot on about the "cougar' glorification. That's just feminist hollywood bullshit to make middle age women feel better. In real life I can count the times on one hand where I've seen older women (like 10+ years older) consistently banging younger guys. There is a small percentage of young guys that might be curious, but sorry you really don't see finch banging stifler's mother that often in the real world. The only exception is HS teachers illegally banging teenage boys.

I also read an interested fact about Ed Furlong (the young John Connor in T2). He was sleeping with, living with and had an ongoing relationship with a 26 YEAR WOMAN when he was 13! Lucky for her child raping ass the state of california didn't make staturory rape illegal for adult women and underage boys until 1994.

I'm in my mid 30s and almost all the girls I've dated and hooked up are their 20s. I was two long term relationships with 26 yr old and a 21 yr old.

[somewheresomeway]

Point being is that younger women/older male relationships have been going on for ALL OF HUMAN HISTORY. There is a reason for it. I see it as the great equalizer for all the bullshit women get away with when they are younger.

[Berethor]

Younger women/older male relationships are more common in sexist societies, so how is that equalizing something? if anything it's the cougars who are bringing some equalization.

[heavensgift2girls]

@Berethor Actually being attracted to money, is the same as being attracted to an old body, at least for women to a certain extent. Women actually grow more physically attracted to a guy that has money and status. Women that were attracted to men with resources and status in the past, had the best chances of getting the best DNA, and provider for her child. Sure there are limits such as if the guy is 90 years old, but I am not talking about something that extreme. Even some other animals such as birds will be more attracted to the males that have the most resources for building a nest. It isn't just that the female birds are gold diggers.

This is why women don't understand why men are not more attracted to professional, educated women, like women are attracted to professional educated men. Women are taking what they are sexually attracted to, and assuming men should be attracted to the same thing.

[Berethor]

Money have nothing to do with nature, animal don't have money. Birds don't live that long anyway, and most humans didn't live for such old ages in the past, humans live longer those days mostly thanks to modern medicines. Many animals have males fighting with each other over female, and animal who are too old tend to lose those fights. But it's true that men tend to care more about the women's look, then the other way around. Women don't assume that men tend to be attracted to women because money, even though there is some male gold diggers as well. A women might want a career so she would not have to marry an 'dirty old man' for his cash, while a man might have a problem with a woman with career mainly because he want her to spend time on home works. Women tend to be attracted to good looking men, even if some women don't admit it, like man who is in shape, tall, and not too old.

[somewheresomeway]

@Berethor "sexist" civilization. Sounds like we are going down the white knight rabbit hole here...

[MysteriousDarkness]

@heavensgift2girls
There are women who do lose physical beauty over time and those that do not. It depends on ones perception of what beauty is.
Men do not always get wealth and or status as they get older.

[Berethor]

@somewheresomeway if you lived in society that pushing you to be with old women would you be okay with it? and there was ancient societies that not forced young women to marry old men, those societies tend to be more fair for women.

[somewheresomeway]

@Berethor NOBODY is pushing women to date older men in modern western society. In fact feminists are doing ALL THEY CAN to shame and blame anybody with a penis from doing anything remotely unconventional with a woman.

Despite all this, younger women are still hanging out with older men. Why? Yeah can be about money, stature, etc. But I believe there are biological reasons for this as well. Older men who still look good and healthy have good longevity genes. Older guys are also more likely to treat younger women kindly and with respect.

I've dated several women younger than myself (including a 21 yr old). As an exception of one (that I dumped) they weren't looking for money. They were looking for a decent guy who would listen to them and support them with their problems. They were looking for a guy who was happy to have them around.

This whole "creep" diatribe is really being perpetrated by middle age feminists who are gaining wrinkles and weight and losing their sexual power.

[heavensgift2girls]

@MysteriousDarkness All women lose their looks as they get older without exception. The only difference is how fast they lose their looks. Also I was obviously talking about men as a group, not each individual man and if you were being honest with yourself instead of trying to impress the women on here for their approval, you wouldn't have to pretend otherwise.

[heavensgift2girls]

@somewheresomeway They are not white knights. They are cucks. White knights act like the muscle for women, even committing crimes for them from time to time. Cucks are just so desperate for female validation that they basically worship women, and say anything that their Amazonian mistresses have programmed them to say.

[heavensgift2girls]

@Berethor Throughout history men have been forced to marry against their will as well. There have been bachelor taxes placed to ruin men that did not marry. Men have been forced to march through streets naked singing songs about why they weren't married. Men were beaten, and forced to run and crawl through mud because they would not marry. They have even been threatened with death if they did not marry a woman he had never even met before. Your limited view on history is lacking, do to the feminist indoctrination forced upon children in schools.

[Anon-ymous1]

Well said @heavensgift2girls

[somewheresomeway]

Spot on.

[Berethor]

@somewheresomeway grandpas have good genes? old men are much more likely to father children with birth defects. It's also makes old men more dangerous then old women, because women simply can't have children at too old age, while old men might spread defects to the society. Also age have nothing to do with gander, men get old no less then women ( even if some men try to deny it desperately), and all your talk about 'wrinkles' of old women, can be said about old men as well. Also it's known that testosterone get much lower at old ages.

www.dailymail.co.uk/.../...dren-birth-defects.html

[somewheresomeway]

@Berethor Women age faster than men because they have less collagen in their skin www.linkedin.com/.../fact-fiction-male-skin-ages-slower-than-female-michelle-skelly

I'm also not saying that "grandpas" should procreate when they are 60+ with women in their 20s. But there is nothing wrong with 30/40 something men dating women in their 20s. Middle age women hate though.

I'm trying very hard to stay patient with you. Maybe in Israel you see more creepy forced marriages with old men getting young women. I can tell you that sure as hell isn't happening in USA, UK, Canada and Australia. In these west countries women have the power of choice to pick and choose men as they please. If a 21 yr old woman wants to fuck a 45 yr old man that's completely her choice over here.

[Immortal_God_King]

Yeah, sure, older men with women are disgusting pervs. But older women with younger men are just cougars, and being a cougar is cool.

Female beauty has a shelf life, relating to markers of fertility, with which youth is directly and incontrovertibly correlated.

But if you want to focus on age gap relationships where the woman is older (or where a woman is the same age as the male) yeah, there is definitely something obviously wrong to anyone smart enough to have a valid opinion about anything there.

[UnaKaizen]

I agree. well done.

women were forcibly paired with older men going into relationships as children,. it was not a happily ever after story. they went from being infantilized submitting to dad to submitting to husband. difference is she had to have sex with her husband & bare him children.
bc they were coerced into dependency the guy had to be older / stable so they could raise kids.

for working class women age gaps were not so great bc everyone worked though women were paid next to nothing for equal or harder work to make sure women had to be married to survive- A woman working full time on her own would not survive if she had kids.

women work now. there's no reason for age gaps. im not saying if you truly want each other its wrong. im just agreeing its not any kind of 'solution' to bad dating. and there's much to be said for growing 'together'... instead of getting a second parenting.

[Berethor]

It's still happen in many muslim countries, like Saudi Arabia. But as for working class women, well why would a woman should have kids in the first place, if she is not married?

tvtropes.org/.../OldManMarryingAChild

[backspinGA]

I'll have to disagree. While not everyone in these situations have pure intentions, some do and it's a matter of preference. Keep in mind also that all of these reasons are hypothetical. Many older individuals dating younger individuals are mature have great relationships and marriage (both men and women). They have learned from life's experiences, they're responsible, caring, passionate, and posses integrity. I'll take a younger mature woman than an immature older woman anytime. That's just my humble opinion.

[EpicDweeb]

The way this is put is flawed. While everything you've said is mostly true, it is all a "some of the time" problem. You can't ASSUME that someone who is older HASN'T learned from their mistakes or that they WILL necessarily manipulate you, that they WON'T take you seriously, that they AREN'T mature. These are all things that COULD be but they aren't things that MUST be.

I think it's foolish to say such a relationship can't work and there's a reason some women are attracted to older men and some men are attracted to older women. It's because they see the positive traits that can be found there. Not the positive traits that are ALWAYS found there but the traits that CAN be found there. I think it's faulty to say 1. that there is ANY real glorification of age gap relationships and, even if there were, I think the harm that would come from them lies in a lack of discernment rather than in the glorification of such relationships.

[freakyzeaky]

My current girlfriend is 4 years older than me. Do I think youthfulness adds to a person's beauty? Yes, but beauty isn't everything and I find a woman's attitude and mannerism to be what truly makes her beautiful. My SO is amazing in bed, aims to please, has a good head on her shoulders and is mature. We have deep convos even though we don't share a bunch of interests in common. I think too many guys want a woman who is like their guy friends when there needs to be a counterbalance for relationships to work. I feel maturity and knowing what works is more important than any sort of age gap or relatability, unless the disparity is insurmountable.

[Berethor]

Going by the first picture it's likely that she talk mainly about relationships with an large age gap, and she is also likely talk about relationships when a man is older, which are more common then the other way around, in big part because of sexist customs and gold diggerness.

[freakyzeaky]

@Berethor What is interesting is that she actually makes more money than me, practically double. She also is one of those type of people who doesn't really care about money but rather, cares more about being able to be comfortable and most importantly, you enjoy what you do for a living. It is refreshing, because she appreciates when I contribute, whether it is on a date, providing something to her, whatever, but it isn't as important to her as our overall happiness in what we are doing at any given moment. For her, it is socializing as she doesn't have too many hobbies. Rather, she enjoys spending time with people, whether it be friends or with strangers, it doesn't matter. For me, I am a geek, so I enjoy gadgets and media. Being introverted, I still enjoy the occasional social function, but not nearly as much. I provide my own entertainment and I don't need a sugar momma, however, we counterbalance each other in our temperaments and find common ground elsewhere.

[freakyzeaky]

Although, I do have an insecurity that I feel she may be settling on me as a "type". In other words, her friends claim I am the most "normal" out of any guy she has dated recently. I am more conservative, she is far more liberal, although she considers herself independent. She was a looker in her younger years, now I believe she has what many MRA or MGTOW guys would claim as "hitting the wall". She is beautiful to me, but I still wonder if she would have settled for a guy like me just 5 years ago. She has no children and wants them, and she was married for a year and a half and divorced a year or so ago.

It would seem that many guys go for younger women because they either still expect youthful beauty or are late to the game (like me) and desire a woman that they may have gotten with 5 or 10 years ago.

That said, I don't believe she is hypergamous at all, considering she does currently make a substantial bit more than me. I am going for my BS, and I expect I will make much more...

[freakyzeaky]

... in about two or so years time.

[Berethor]

Wow, you go into much details in your response. So in the end of the day, you gave an insecurity about your age gap with her, even though it's only an 4 years age gap. Well it's make sense for her being independent, considering that she can date an man who is younger then her, also as you said she makes double as much money than you. She didn't had children yet, because she don't want children? some old men think that they entitled to have an young beautiful woman, for other it's only an preference, while in fact they can be with an woman of their age, or even an older woman. In any case, both men and women get older, men that claim that they don't get older are illusional and/or they trying to fool an naive young women into believing that nonsense.

[freakyzeaky]

@Berethor yeah, I mean my last girlfriend was 6 years younger than me. Although we related more on an interests level (she was also geeky, liked Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, RenFest, etc.), she wasn't as mature when it came to relationships.

I think men would benefit from having a partner who is on the same maturity level, or even more mature, as long as you are responsible. I get being enamored by a woman's physical beauty and that aging is much harder on women. However, I truly believe not all older single women are bitter, hypergamous, or even unattractive.

Although, I wouldn't mind dating another younger woman if this relationship doesn't pan out. I believe age is just a number, and what is more important is a person who is willing to sacrifice for the relationship, especially when it comes to marriage. Too many people let things go once they get married, including physical health and setting aside quality time.

The grass isn't always greener.

[Berethor]

When you dating an woman who is older then you, almost no one can blame you for using her, at least on the physical and mental level, some might still say that you with her for her money, so you say that it's not the case. To be fair, men might worry about a woman being more mature then them, also because men expected to be stronger. Why you think that aging is much harder on women? women tend to compromise on looks more then men in general ( big part of it because of sexism in the society and not being independent), but it's not means that old men tend to looks good. By the way how the maturity of your last girlfriend who was 6 years younger then you had affected your relationship?

[freakyzeaky]

@Berethor she didn't seem to know what she wanted. She wanted me to change some things even though she knew these were a part of who I was at the time. A more mature woman realizes that some compromises must be made on both sides. She was also a lot less assertive in bed. I know men are expected to be the dominant ones, and I am most of the time, but I think I prefer a woman who goes for what she wants and is more communicative in and out of the bedroom.

The saying goes that women age like milk and men age like wine. Crows feet, wrinkles, sagging breasts, and weight gain are all things women have a tendency to go through with age while these things (excluding the breasts) take far longer for men to experience. From what I have seen, men sort of hit the cliff in their late 40s, where suddenly they age what seems to be all at once, while women age gradually all throughout their late 20s, 30s, and onward.

[freakyzeaky]

Not saying that is a bad thing. My current girlfriend, while showing signs of aging, is still very attractive to me. She says I look far younger than my age. Women at my office are astonished when I tell them I am 34. They swear I look 27 or 28 (or even younger). I still get carded everywhere I go. I don't have a grey hair on my body (yet).

I am definitely not with my woman for the money. She keeps telling me she wants to pay for vacations, but honestly, I don't really care either way. That isn't why I am with her.

Anyway, I wouldn't expect by the age of 40 to date women in their mid-20s. While many men consider a woman in her early 20s to be her prime years, I think late 20s and early 30s to be prime. That is when women come into their own sexually and far more orgasmic, far more assertive in bed, and have a better grasp on what men want. I also find older women to be more affectionate unless she has been through some really damaging relationships.

[freakyzeaky]

I know this is extreme, but check out this photo of Pharrell...
assets.capitalxtra.com/.../...391443562-view-0.jpg

Most men age, maybe not to this extreme, but similarly. We just tend to hold on to our youthfulness longer. I personally use lotions, creams, take collagen supplements, and so forth as well which some men forgo. I don't go full on Patrick Bateman mind you, but I try to keep my skin healthy even though I have extensive acne scarring on my back and keratosis on my arms.

[Berethor]

But in the end of the day, if we talk about relationships with an large age gap, all the talk about are more likely to show signs of aging later don't matter, for the long run, men are still aging, men are not elves or vampires. Also aging is not all about looks in the first place, even when someone don't look like he is aging, he is still aging on the inside ( internal organs), many species of animals are an good example for that, and it's not like men truly age slower, women life expectancy tend to be longer then that of men. So not showing signs of aging tend to be skin deep, literally. Now I am not saying that to look younger for longer is not nice, but it's not really means that men don't age, or oven that men really age slower then women. Also the debate about if early 20s or late 20s is better is also minor. Also you didn't answered me about why she didn't wanted children, despite her "maturity". :)

[freakyzeaky]

@Berethor No, she does want children. "She has no children AND wants them." I probably should of typed /but/.

[freakyzeaky]

Is one of the reasons why she wants to use condoms rather than contraceptives because, at her age, she still wants to have children but doesn't want to mess with her hormones with pills or go the long-term route with a hormonal implant.

[Berethor]

I see, my bad, and yes it would been better if you typed "but", so if she want children, she didn't basically wasting her time at this point? I mean she don't have much time to delay it, before it would be too late. So at this point it's better for her to not use contraceptives at all. So it's you who don't want children?

[freakyzeaky]

@Berethor I do, but don't want to rush into it. Sure, her window is closing, but with IVF it is possible.

[fauchelevent]

Hmm, I know of two relationships with a significant relationship (one being 11 years, the other being 10) and their relationships seem to be very successful. I think maybe an impact on the success rate may be the age when actually entering the relationship. I'd imagine a relationship between a 20 year old and a 30 year old would be more likely to fail than a relationship between a 40 and 50 year old due to the levels of maturity of both people and life goals and stuff, y'know? Maybe relationships with age gaps that start when both are older and more mature would work out as well as any relationship without an age gap.

[Berethor]

Actually it's also about the percentage, and 10 year out of 50 is less then a 10 year out of 20. And beside different life goals, age gap usually come with attractiveness gap and health gap as well, and all the problematic things that tend to come with old age.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

well why not try one age is a number you are getting older every day

[Berethor]

@BOUNTYGUY9 and people are dying from old age in the end, so what you point?

[newbie2015]

I think the bigger pittfall os typically one peraon is still growing and developing who they are and the other has already established this.

My ex was 10 years my senior. When we married i left my parents home to live w him. I wanted someone who took control. I wanted a patriarch. I was young. These wants mase sense. And as years went on I discovered I could live and control my own life. It was not fair to my spouae I had changed the dynamic of the relationship. But i was unwilling to change. He was unwilling to accept I had grown into a different mature woman.

So we cannot change the life cycle. Now that doesn't mean two people can't change together, amd those are the few age gap relationships that work. But i woild agree it is more rare than those that work

[BOUNTYGUY9]

so very true l love all girls

[Berethor]

It's true that the origin of relationships with big age gap is from sexist societies. In modern society when no one force an young woman to marry an old man, and when most women have their own jobs, there is much less of a reason for young woman to be in a relationships with an old man. Also it's obviously usually mostly the older side who benefit from an relationship like that ( and I don't count daddy issues as an benefit), as people don't become more attractive when they gets very old, best demonstrated by Master Rosh. :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pC3OcM4jD_4

[MFitch]

The post that you responded to implied that it was more acceptable if coercion were a factor.

[Berethor]

Coercion tend to be an huge factor in it, because not many young women would allow an creepy old men to use them willingly, that's why it's more common in sexist societies.

[Thatblokeoverthere]

It is all down to the people involved, one of my past girlfriends was 13 years older than me, it caused no problems at all. Only time it was ever mentioned oddly was when renewing house insurance and things as the people your talking to ask dates of birth and you can tell at the other end of the phone they are looking at the data and going hello she is much older than him, as the guy checked the dates there times lol.
It was for us never an issue and we had a great time, it is the people who are important and their relationship.

[effyourfeelings]

I don't go around glorying those relationships
Most people these days, from where I live, don't seem to be interested in those relationships. I really don't care if someone else is in one. That's their problem, not mine lol.
It also depends on how you define an age-gap relationship. Is it like 10 years? 20 years or more?
At this age, I wouldn't want to date someone more than 40. If he's hot like Brad Pitt, I wouldn't mind dating someone around Brad Pitt's age but it wouldn't turn out to be anything serious.
If I ever want an age gap relationship when I'm 30 or more, I personally would much rather date someone younger than me than someone who's older than me lol

[CubsterShura]

I never saw someone glorifying such relationships, but there is nothing wrong with it either.

My sister willingly married a guy 9 years older than her. My entire family opposed it because of his low income but she literally had to go through a battle to finally marry him. Now they're married for 5 years and I also have a cute little niece! Believe me when I say this, no amount of money could have made my sister so happy.

[Berethor]

She married a guy 9 years older and not for his money? interesting story.

[CubsterShura]

@Berethor my dad forcibly tried to get her married with a rich guy. She even got beaten and scolded. She escaped from our house later. When everyone was convinced that she isn't getting married with anyone else, that's when they finally let her marry him.

And you know why you never hear of such relationships? They are too busy enjoying their lives and have no time to display their lovey dovey on social media. But gold diggers usually post pictures of their boyfriend's gifts.

[BOUNTYGUY9]

thats so very nice in what you are saying

[BOUNTYGUY9]

thats so true

[PinkishPink]

All good points. I always wonder where the fascination with older men comes from.
Based on my life experience, there are more sincere, caring, and great in bed guys around 30 than those over 40.
Age has a little to do with maturity but it can make people jaded or cynical. The so- called stability is also overrated because one can be successful at a very young age. Nobody has to wait until they're over 40 to be successful or make good money.
Girls younger than me want someone older for their success or reliability as they say.
I don't agree with that because reliability doesn't come with age. It's something you have or you don't.

[Agent]

Review time:
#1:
Change "Age-gap relationships and the glorification of them isn't healthy..." to "Age-gap relationships and the glorification of them aren't healthy...".

#2:
All the points you presented do nothing to prove that willfully engaging in relationships with big age gaps (if that's what one is genuinely interested in) is detrimental to people because all those points could be applied to same-age relationships. The only way your assertion could be valid is if people ONLY went into those relationships based off the "suppositions" you listed, which is false. Some people just want to.
Some people are, like, 19 and shit, you know. Dating someone 10-20 years older (29 or 39) isn't really much of a big deal, in my opinion. Not gonna limit my choices by pretending all people in their 30s and 40s are gross and slimy. If I get attracted to some 40 year-old, so be it.

[Agent]

Matter of fact, just because of this Take, I will only fuck people 60 and older.

[taleswapper]

Assumes the conclusion. yes, all of these statements are true, but none of them are definitive. "Just because he's a left-handed rocket scientist doesn't mean he doesn't pick his toenails" is also true, but not relevant. you have failed to show how ANY of these impacts my relationship negatively, or even how they must negatively impact the relationship of someone who is in an age gap situation. "might be" is not "Must be".

[Streamhopper]

I can't disagree with you more. I'm 45 and I'm dating a 24 year old. Everyone's situation is different. Our age gap means nothing because we don't care. We both know I'll die before she will; we both know I'll need care before she will, most likely. It's not like it's some "state" secret. As long as we're happy together, we really don't care what other people think.

[MargaritaPeach]

I am 41, my husband is 55. We've been together for 20 years, and are still very much in love and extremely happy. I would say that each couple is unique, as is their circumstance. If you happen to be fortunate enough to fall deeply in love with a good person who also happens to be in love with you, go for it! Age truly is just a formality.