i'm just gonna say it. Boys can be jerks. Boys can be crazy. But not all are. My friends and me have 2 completely different approaches to dating.
I am in a successful relationship myself, however i don't get any sort of constant never ending encouragement. My girl is honest to a fault, and, even though she compliments me a lot, she's also not afraid to make a few cracks at me just to attack. Not that they hurt, in fact it's often funny, but still. Knowing my friends, if they knew a lot of the things she does with me and to me they would say "wow.. that's not a good relationship.."
But, it's not. We both still love each other and it's a happy relationship for us both.
Which is the difference from me and my friends when it comes to relationships.
I am a teenager, through and through, and i have teenage friends. My friends have this odd look on relationships, where if it's not:
A) Sexual
and
B) Nothing but happiness
then it's not a good relationship. or at least, not a "typical" relationship.
I kid you not, one day i had my friend over and i was chatting my girlfriend. it was on my computer which is connected to my flat screen so of course he could see, and at one point she asked "Hey do you like waffles?" and, knowing her, i knew it was about the actual foods. But my friend when he saw that, said "Oooo.. she's talking about boobs. She wants to know what you like." and then it was quickly revealed she was talking about the food and a song about various foods (pancakes, waffles, and french toast) and not about her chest. my friends response was "Ohhh... well, most girls when they ask that are talking about their chest."
And it doesn't end there. It's just odd.
But it shows me how odd i am compared to most teenagers. For example, there's this girl at school that is for all intents and purposes, a player. She dates guys, kisses them, does "it" with them, and then the moment they seem to not enjoy it, she lets em go and gets a new boyfriend within a day.
She started dating my friend and well.. it didn't end well for him cause he got jealous easily.. he finally moved on after 2 months but for me it was obvious even before i knew what she did with guys it was bad news. But to my friend, it was some huge reveal.
And no, im not saying "blargh, females are terrible except my girl raggg" no. i know a guy who does the same thing. He dates a girl, or even multiple girls, then expects it all to be ok and its a huge surprise to him when girls break up with him over it. Then he seems sad, then a day later he busts in being like "Hey i got a new girl! Whatup!" and im just like "... i am so glad i spent an hour comforting you yesterday... " and yeah..
So to any teenage daters out there reading this, just remember. a relationship doesn't have to be sexual in order to be a good relationship, and if you date multiple people at once its bound to end up bad. Also, there really is no "Good" relationship. Obviously abuse and a girl that makes you feel terrible is a bad relationship, but as long as your both happy (both being the key word there) then it is without a doubt a good relationship. :3
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
1Opinion
Interesting Take and yes... you are an interesting oddity
Good take