@mobjay82 If you forgive, it usually bites you in the ass later. They usually get much better at hiding it after you've caught them once as well. I forgave someone a while ago that cheated on me. We continued int he relationship for another 4 years. After she left and I cleaned up. I found a list of guys names and phone numbers wrapped up in panties she had shoved to the bottom of the drawer.
If YOU want to give it a shot, go for it. But for me, if they did it once. They sure as hell will do it again.
lo forgiving does not mean u need to be in a relationship with them or even let them back in your life. trust me once you still cheat in any way have no trust for you i won't ldet yolu back in my life but il forgive you. to forgive jjust means you no longer want revangde or hate towards them they can here and there but no longer have my full attention
@mobjay82 Ah, okay. I usually don't forgive people that do that stuff. I will not verbally forgive them. I hold resentment towards them moreso for destroying my confidence and berating me verbally as well. I am damaged because of them and I cannot be fixed now unless I were to find someone to help fix me. With being a man I don't really see that going in my favor. I'm so broken down over it that I cannot trust anyone in a relationship now without being paranoid, unfortunately. I've accepted this and understand that I do not want to put someone through extra bullshit on top of my own. :/
no i agree once a cheater they will do it again. with that said they can change but not with the person they cheated on because they didn't anything. all they learn is you will continua this pattern
the reason i believe in healing and forgiveness. you will find someone better and different when we hook up out of pain the person we just letr in is the same type. ever heard a women say " fuck all men there all the same " no we are not thats how a weak women talks a women that has not took the time to heal reflect and forgive. the best thing i found is wish them the best there's no need for name calling. heal up forgive take the time watch your life get better
@mobjay82 Oh I definitely don't think all women are bad. Just the ones that I had the misfortune of dating. I made some poor choices and now i'm paying for them at the expense of someone else. It's unfortunate, but i've just had a bad run of it. Thanks so much for sharing your comments with me :)
@Syrian_survivor no one is saying just women but the signs came from a male POV. Believe me when i tell you women put up with a lot of crap i can tell you fr when i looked in the mirror and realize what a piece of shit i was but it took me to hurt someone to find m myself and what kind of man i wanted too become. Il be the first to tell you women have it really hard right now your dealing with egotistic wanna be rappers. i was just sharing my experience and matter how bad the relationship was i never called a women bitch, hoe etc. ithe women that im talking about has my baby and to this day i can honestly tell you she uses fowl language, is very disrespectful i keep my cool for 3 reasons 1. i promised her kids the things i will never do, ever raise my voice. il never get in your moms face, i never ever disrespect her no matter the situation 2. i will not let someone control me by letting her get under my skin staying cool is powerful, 3. she gave me a beautiful baby girl and me being cool, gentlemen are things my daughter will remember. after all im raising someones wife and im raising somenes mom
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This toxic girlfriend sounds like Trump with tits. :)
Also, "other women don't like her" is a very bad warning flag.
Great take, I agree with every point you wrote here.
She demands your phone and social media account passwords
and you are so right on all of these, especially the silent treatment
Like guys don't compare us to their ex's? Puleeze! lol
These characteristics fit my friends' ex-boyfriends to a T.
Big boobs but low confidence is a red flag. Why would a girl with sweater stretchers have low confidence?
How many toxic people you think that suspect their toxic?
Sign 11 - She is a Female
Sign 12 - She is a Feminist
Sign 13 - She is Woke
Sign 14 - She is a SJW
She's a karen haha.
You have unprotected sex with her and your penis turns green.
Or she happened to be in a relationship with Johnny Depp 😳😂
Also, never forgive a cheater.
you can forgive you should never forget
@mobjay82 If you forgive, it usually bites you in the ass later.
They usually get much better at hiding it after you've caught them once as well.
I forgave someone a while ago that cheated on me. We continued int he relationship for another 4 years. After she left and I cleaned up. I found a list of guys names and phone numbers wrapped up in panties she had shoved to the bottom of the drawer.
If YOU want to give it a shot, go for it.
But for me, if they did it once. They sure as hell will do it again.
lo forgiving does not mean u need to be in a relationship with them or even let them back in your life. trust me once you still cheat in any way have no trust for you i won't ldet yolu back in my life but il forgive you. to forgive jjust means you no longer want revangde or hate towards them they can here and there but no longer have my full attention
@mobjay82 Ah, okay. I usually don't forgive people that do that stuff. I will not verbally forgive them.
I hold resentment towards them moreso for destroying my confidence and berating me verbally as well.
I am damaged because of them and I cannot be fixed now unless I were to find someone to help fix me. With being a man I don't really see that going in my favor. I'm so broken down over it that I cannot trust anyone in a relationship now without being paranoid, unfortunately. I've accepted this and understand that I do not want to put someone through extra bullshit on top of my own. :/
on top of their own*
no i agree once a cheater they will do it again. with that said they can change but not with the person they cheated on because they didn't anything. all they learn is you will continua this pattern
the reason i believe in healing and forgiveness. you will find someone better and different when we hook up out of pain the person we just letr in is the same type. ever heard a women say " fuck all men there all the same " no we are not thats how a weak women talks a women that has not took the time to heal reflect and forgive. the best thing i found is wish them the best there's no need for name calling. heal up forgive take the time watch your life get better
@mobjay82 Oh I definitely don't think all women are bad. Just the ones that I had the misfortune of dating. I made some poor choices and now i'm paying for them at the expense of someone else. It's unfortunate, but i've just had a bad run of it. Thanks so much for sharing your comments with me :)
@enkryption This is why I consider dating to be equivalent to Russian dating.
OMG! It is soooo true about her friends and preassure on me (sometimes).
you are talking about most of the female population lol
Oh damn. I am toxic. Good thing i don't date
First sign, she has fumes coming out of her
Anger fumes or smelly fumes?
spot on for the fighting, arguing, and harping.
This sounds like my exhusband to a T.
i got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one.
UGH, THIS GOES BOTH WAYS OKAY?
Yes, agree.
Why u scream woman
@Syrian_survivor no one is saying just women but the signs came from a male POV. Believe me when i tell you women put up with a lot of crap i can tell you fr when i looked in the mirror and realize what a piece of shit i was but it took me to hurt someone to find m myself and what kind of man i wanted too become. Il be the first to tell you women have it really hard right now your dealing with egotistic wanna be rappers. i was just sharing my experience and matter how bad the relationship was i never called a women bitch, hoe etc. ithe women that im talking about has my baby and to this day i can honestly tell you she uses fowl language, is very disrespectful i keep my cool for 3 reasons 1. i promised her kids the things i will never do, ever raise my voice. il never get in your moms face, i never ever disrespect her no matter the situation 2. i will not let someone control me by letting her get under my skin staying cool is powerful, 3. she gave me a beautiful baby girl and me being cool, gentlemen are things my daughter will remember. after all im raising someones wife and im raising somenes mom
@mobjay82 what why me