I have autism but sadly we're not normal because this guy got most helpful answer Would you date someone with autism? "No I would always be wanting someone normal. Although I have a really smart female friend with autism, who is also a lesbian. We were shooting the shit for a long time and the conversation evolved into me jokingly threatening her that I was going to send her a dick pic"
I saw that too. Believe me I got so irritated by most the opinions on there. All I can say is that don't let that stop you from anything! I grew up with aspergers and I can still live a normal life. If I don't let my disability stop me, you shouldn't let it stop you either.
An autistic woman would probably be a good match for me. Autistic women are logical, do not play female mind games and will always tell a man how things are. I have met only one autistic woman, a barrister from South Africa. If we had met when we were both younger, I would have married her in a heartbeat. Today, she has been so damaged by life and her poor choices in men that she needs me as a friend and protector, not as just another man who wants to get his penis inside her. I am a case of high-functioning Asperger’s Syndrome, which I did not know until, at the age of 55, I did a subject called Development of the Adolescent Brain, as part of a degree in secondary education. If OP and I were not on opposite sides of the planet, I would PM her about lunch.
My answer to that post was that you can't judge a person based on whether they have autism since autistic people can be so different from each other and I got blocked and my answer removed... Being autistic definitely has it's cons but there's a few pros as well, for example I feel very lucky to have life long special interests that give me direction, purpose, I never had to wonder what should I do with my life, and being passionate about something is also a very attractive personality trait to me.
As a person who does not have autism, I would be extremely vigilant to dating someone who does have autism. There is no point in getting mad with someone who only dates 'normal' people. I think a 'healthy/normal' person has the right to have a standard of not dating someone with autism.
It really depends on the level of autism. I've met people who seem so 'normal' and functino so well, that I was surprised that they said they had autism. Other people's autism is obvious and often, it's hard to work things out with them. It's up to the individual to determine if they want someone with autism or not.
if you get along with them then sure go for it... if not dont... you should only date anyone if there is a real connection with them, NOT because of some condition they have... as this would actually give them the worst message... which to them the only reasons you decided to date them is cos
1) you pity them 2) you felt you had to cos of inclusion 3) it looked good around the potential circle of friends
either way... unless the reasons were of genuine attraction/connection that just messes with their mind and confidence as it would anyone else, and autistic people are a lot more tuned in to things than people believe.
I did work with a guy who have Asperger. It took me a while to figure him out but since I was showing interest in really knowing him he brought a magazine that actually explained a lot. After I actually "got him", it was a marvelous work relationship. Regretfully after a while he left my department and I've kept contact with him because... well quite frankly... I just love the guys straight-forward-non-hypocritic way of talking and behaving.
So my compliments for you to talk openly about Autism like this. I know it's not easy.
I grew up with aspergers, so I know what it's like. But I never let that stop me from being in the dating world and living a normal life. I wouldn't mind dating a guy even marry a guy and raise children with who grew up with the same disability as me. You shouldn't let that stop either. If you like, I wrote a myTake on dating with a disability and it pretty much tells my back story and pretty much speaking up for not just me, but also anyone who also has a disability that we're all different but we can also live a normal life and be in the dating world. Don't let your disability stop you from anything!
I'm way too dumb to date anyone, let alone someone with autism. I'd probably be overwhelmed pretty fast. I haven't seen anything different in you since I know you, but I guess you don't show everything ^^ All I know is that you're top tier dating material.
If I happen to be interested in someone who has autism, I’ll gleefully refer back to this. I have nothing against anyone with it. I just don’t think I’ve known anyone with autism. If I did, I probably had no clue.
literally no one is interested in them, and you're not really missing out on anything really, all they talk about is abstract topics like bridges or some stuff that most people don't follow, you're doing yourself a favor by not going out with those weirdos
@NatalieKeller95 Wow- you’re either a troll, or a very immature 25 year old if you think that’s an acceptable way to talk about someone just because their brain functions differently to you. I gather the arse cheeks are out because the lights are not on at home?
@NatalieKeller95 What a stupid, ignorant and downright disgusting thing to believe. Without people like US, YOU and those like you wouldn't have the technology to spread your odious lies to others across the planet, because - guess what? - most of the gadgetry you use (like your phone, computer) were developed by those you so cavalierly dismiss as being the kind of people "literally no one is interested in". Oh yes, and the inventor of the bridge was probably an "Aspie" as well. :P
Are you sure it's autism? The way you are able to dictate your thoughts seems to be more on the spectrum of Aspergers. Most people on the autistic spectrum aren't capable of communicating past simple 2-3 word sentences and have limited understanding and vocabulary.
This isn't meant to devalue you or your thoughts, but to suggest that you may need further speculation on your condition.
Hi, Asperger’s used to be the term here in the UK, but they have now changed all these different branches to just being autistic and at the different part of the spectrum. I have an official diagnosis which states I have ASD :)
Ah I understand. In the states, we still classify them as different. From a treatment point of view, it's difficult to lump high-functioning and low-functioning together, especially in children. I hope the UK takes good care of you, I know your life is not easy.
was diagnosed with autism at age 5 and if anything I have grown to feel less than other people, emphasizing control over my emotions because as a man we all know what happens when you show your emotions, right?
I have noticed a lot of other autistic people have a superiority complex when we just have to admit, while being direct is a huge plus, autism is called a disability for a reason.
I usually get along most with people who are direct, curious, kind and very introspective. Not a lot of people, autistic or otherwise, fit that bill.
And frankly? I don't want someone with the same weaknesses as myself, I want someone with social finesse. I'm not socially awkward anymore and already surpass most autistic people in social interactions by a landslide (my autism is mild).
I'm high functioning, and I dont think that people should have to date someone with qualities they don't like. I understand that my autism makes me incapable of being in a normal social setting, and makes women not like me. But that's not their fault, its my fault. You shouldn't date someone with autism if you dont want to date someone with autism.
You shouldn’t date someone because they have some sort of disorder or illness. You get into a relationship because you like/love the person very much and are attracted to them and potentially want to marry the person and see a future with them. That’s it!
I have autism myself. I also have ADHD. It will certainly make things complicated when it comes to dating, because my girlfriend (assuming I find one) will have to put up with a great deal, but if she is willing to put up with me, she won't regret it.
To dumb it down, you just sound like you are socially awkward. I'm similar in that way, so I wouldn't really have an issue with it, but it really depends on how sever it is, because autism has a huge spectrum.
That was a nice take ^^ I already have an idea about autistic people and I know they vary in the spectrum and some are high functioning. I would love to actually be able to have a conversation with someone autistic. The only one I know is the little brother of my friend and he doesn't really speak ☹
Very well said and thought out. I, personally, am not in the dating world, period. But I would consider an autistic woman, especially if she shares the same interests as me, who is also autistic and proud.
Excellent Take! Well done! If your personal dating and relationship effort is even a fraction of the thoughtfulness that you put into this, you're going to be a great partner, and that person will be very lucky! 👍
To be honest, Autistic people are not generally stupid by any means. I have ADD with hyper activity. Yeah I had it hard but you learn to cope with your abilities. I found out what I was good at and turned that into money and not a year goes by that I don't gross 6 figures.
@ManHater Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism. The reason is because they are a person before they are their disability. ADD with hyperactivity is Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD).
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I have autism but sadly we're not normal because this guy got most helpful answer Would you date someone with autism? "No I would always be wanting someone normal. Although I have a really smart female friend with autism, who is also a lesbian. We were shooting the shit for a long time and the conversation evolved into me jokingly threatening her that I was going to send her a dick pic"
I saw that too. Believe me I got so irritated by most the opinions on there. All I can say is that don't let that stop you from anything! I grew up with aspergers and I can still live a normal life. If I don't let my disability stop me, you shouldn't let it stop you either.
An autistic woman would probably be a good match for me.
Autistic women are logical, do not play female mind games and will always tell a man how things are.
I have met only one autistic woman, a barrister from South Africa. If we had met when we were both younger, I would have married her in a heartbeat.
Today, she has been so damaged by life and her poor choices in men that she needs me as a friend and protector, not as just another man who wants to get his penis inside her.
I am a case of high-functioning Asperger’s Syndrome, which I did not know until, at the age of 55, I did a subject called Development of the Adolescent Brain, as part of a degree in secondary education.
If OP and I were not on opposite sides of the planet, I would PM her about lunch.
My answer to that post was that you can't judge a person based on whether they have autism since autistic people can be so different from each other and I got blocked and my answer removed...
Being autistic definitely has it's cons but there's a few pros as well, for example I feel very lucky to have life long special interests that give me direction, purpose, I never had to wonder what should I do with my life, and being passionate about something is also a very attractive personality trait to me.
@Rexos
Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism because they are a person before they are a disability.
As a person who does not have autism, I would be extremely vigilant to dating someone who does have autism. There is no point in getting mad with someone who only dates 'normal' people. I think a 'healthy/normal' person has the right to have a standard of not dating someone with autism.
It really depends on the level of autism. I've met people who seem so 'normal' and functino so well, that I was surprised that they said they had autism. Other people's autism is obvious and often, it's hard to work things out with them. It's up to the individual to determine if they want someone with autism or not.
if you get along with them then sure go for it... if not dont... you should only date anyone if there is a real connection with them, NOT because of some condition they have... as this would actually give them the worst message... which to them the only reasons you decided to date them is cos
1) you pity them
2) you felt you had to cos of inclusion
3) it looked good around the potential circle of friends
either way... unless the reasons were of genuine attraction/connection that just messes with their mind and confidence as it would anyone else, and autistic people are a lot more tuned in to things than people believe.
@SjE78
Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism because they are a person before they are a disability.
@MysteriousDarkness i know that but it means the same thing... being pedantic does not change that...
I did work with a guy who have Asperger.
It took me a while to figure him out but since I was showing interest in really knowing him he brought a magazine that actually explained a lot.
After I actually "got him", it was a marvelous work relationship.
Regretfully after a while he left my department and I've kept contact with him because... well quite frankly... I just love the guys straight-forward-non-hypocritic way of talking and behaving.
So my compliments for you to talk openly about Autism like this.
I know it's not easy.
I grew up with aspergers, so I know what it's like. But I never let that stop me from being in the dating world and living a normal life. I wouldn't mind dating a guy even marry a guy and raise children with who grew up with the same disability as me. You shouldn't let that stop either. If you like, I wrote a myTake on dating with a disability and it pretty much tells my back story and pretty much speaking up for not just me, but also anyone who also has a disability that we're all different but we can also live a normal life and be in the dating world. Don't let your disability stop you from anything!
I'm way too dumb to date anyone, let alone someone with autism. I'd probably be overwhelmed pretty fast.
I haven't seen anything different in you since I know you, but I guess you don't show everything ^^
All I know is that you're top tier dating material.
Thank you Greg your so sweet 🥰🥰 xx
One day we'll need to have a discussion on what I don't know or see about you.
If I happen to be interested in someone who has autism, I’ll gleefully refer back to this. I have nothing against anyone with it. I just don’t think I’ve known anyone with autism. If I did, I probably had no clue.
literally no one is interested in them, and you're not really missing out on anything really, all they talk about is abstract topics like bridges or some stuff that most people don't follow, you're doing yourself a favor by not going out with those weirdos
@NatalieKeller95 Wow- you’re either a troll, or a very immature 25 year old if you think that’s an acceptable way to talk about someone just because their brain functions differently to you. I gather the arse cheeks are out because the lights are not on at home?
That troll is actaully under 13 and lives in his mother's basement... and his mother is his father's cousin.
@NatalieKeller95 What a stupid, ignorant and downright disgusting thing to believe. Without people like US, YOU and those like you wouldn't have the technology to spread your odious lies to others across the planet, because - guess what? - most of the gadgetry you use (like your phone, computer) were developed by those you so cavalierly dismiss as being the kind of people "literally no one is interested in".
Oh yes, and the inventor of the bridge was probably an "Aspie" as well. :P
Are you sure it's autism? The way you are able to dictate your thoughts seems to be more on the spectrum of Aspergers. Most people on the autistic spectrum aren't capable of communicating past simple 2-3 word sentences and have limited understanding and vocabulary.
This isn't meant to devalue you or your thoughts, but to suggest that you may need further speculation on your condition.
Hi, Asperger’s used to be the term here in the UK, but they have now changed all these different branches to just being autistic and at the different part of the spectrum. I have an official diagnosis which states I have ASD :)
Ah I understand. In the states, we still classify them as different. From a treatment point of view, it's difficult to lump high-functioning and low-functioning together, especially in children. I hope the UK takes good care of you, I know your life is not easy.
was diagnosed with autism at age 5 and if anything I have grown to feel less than other people, emphasizing control over my emotions because as a man we all know what happens when you show your emotions, right?
I have noticed a lot of other autistic people have a superiority complex when we just have to admit, while being direct is a huge plus, autism is called a disability for a reason.
I usually get along most with people who are direct, curious, kind and very introspective. Not a lot of people, autistic or otherwise, fit that bill.
And frankly? I don't want someone with the same weaknesses as myself, I want someone with social finesse. I'm not socially awkward anymore and already surpass most autistic people in social interactions by a landslide (my autism is mild).
I'm high functioning, and I dont think that people should have to date someone with qualities they don't like. I understand that my autism makes me incapable of being in a normal social setting, and makes women not like me. But that's not their fault, its my fault. You shouldn't date someone with autism if you dont want to date someone with autism.
You shouldn’t date someone because they have some sort of disorder or illness. You get into a relationship because you like/love the person very much and are attracted to them and potentially want to marry the person and see a future with them. That’s it!
I have to give you a lot of credit. It takes a lot of courage to tell people about yourself like that. I have a whole new outlook on autism.
Thank you so much :) that is what I wanted to do :)
It was a long read but very enlightening. Thank you for educating me.
Your more than welcome and honestly I just really appreciate you reading it :) x
I have autism myself. I also have ADHD. It will certainly make things complicated when it comes to dating, because my girlfriend (assuming I find one) will have to put up with a great deal, but if she is willing to put up with me, she won't regret it.
To dumb it down, you just sound like you are socially awkward. I'm similar in that way, so I wouldn't really have an issue with it, but it really depends on how sever it is, because autism has a huge spectrum.
I am very socially awkward :)
That was a nice take ^^
I already have an idea about autistic people and I know they vary in the spectrum and some are high functioning.
I would love to actually be able to have a conversation with someone autistic.
The only one I know is the little brother of my friend and he doesn't really speak ☹
You can talk to me :) I like talking to people.
Sure ^^
by the way I am watching a Netflix series called atypical
It has a lead character who is autistic and it's pretty accurate I think.
Very well said and thought out. I, personally, am not in the dating world, period. But I would consider an autistic woman, especially if she shares the same interests as me, who is also autistic and proud.
Excellent Take! Well done! If your personal dating and relationship effort is even a fraction of the thoughtfulness that you put into this, you're going to be a great partner, and that person will be very lucky! 👍
To be honest, Autistic people are not generally stupid by any means. I have ADD with hyper activity. Yeah I had it hard but you learn to cope with your abilities. I found out what I was good at and turned that into money and not a year goes by that I don't gross 6 figures.
@ManHater
Instead of saying autistic people say people with autism. The reason is because they are a person before they are their disability. ADD with hyperactivity is Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder (ADHD).
@MysteriousDarkness right... Do you identify as a girl or boy? So I can refer to you in the right term too.
@ManHater
I am neither a boy or a girl because I am a man.