This article is for men but I'm allowing comments from everyone.
When you need stuff from women (love, understanding, acceptance) they don't actually respect you. When you don't actually need things they do. From a modern woman's POV, a man giving her things is an expression of love but she shouldn't have to give a man anything. Her idea of love is you giving her things in exchange for little to nothing because the traditional responsibilities of women have been mocked/ignored/downplayed.
Now you might say, "love is BS" and I don't disagree once you understand that it's a word most often used by people looking to manipulate you. Let's replace that word with "team work". For men it's very, very easy to understand because we're expected & willing to take a bullet for the woman we "love". Women on the other hand are not expected to take a bullet for their men (even if a small percentage might) so they can't really value the meaning of relationship in the same way that a man does. A man would have to be very foolish to give his life for a woman who doesn't respect/value him. A woman doesn't actually have to risk/invest that level of thing in a relationship with a man.
We could write up a long list of things men are expected to do - things that our male ancestors have been doing for generations - and compare that to the list of things that the modern woman is willing to offer us in return. And do you know what we would find? Her list is shrinking each year and with every item that she takes off of her list she expects us to add it to our list and to pick up the slack for her. She can't cook because she had a hard day at work. She's too stressed from her day job to do the laundry. Her boss wants her to finish a big report so there's no time for her to clean the bathroom and furthermore she believes that it's humiliating to clean for a man (unless that man is her boss at work). Meanwhile you're expected to repair her car or help her get a good deal at the auto shop. You've got to do maintenance around the home (plumbing, electrical, fixing doors, windows, walls, locks). Anything that requires more than 30 seconds of manual labor or concentrated thought & that might benefit someone besides 1 person is YOUR job by default.
If she can't orgasm (because she beat herself up with industrial strength vibes) that's your fault too. Anything that makes her miserable is your fault because you're a man and she's been taught that women aren't responsible for anything.
You're expected to be a team player while she, the modern woman, is just a spectator, sitting in the team owner's box, drinking it up and being entertained.
The thing these modern women don't want to give are three things that are as closely tied together and as related as the atoms in a molecule of water: Respect, loyalty, and commitment. And no, it is not enough for a woman to say she's serious/loyal to you. Actions matter. Many fools have been deceived into thinking they were in an exclusive relationship when they weren't.
Each year, man's responsibilities in relationships increase while women's decrease.
Eventually the deal women present will be: "give me everything and I'll give you sex". I hope men think about this and realize that it's a worse deal than the hooker walking down the street ever offered. She didn't ask for your soul or entire career earnings. Just a few bucks. It means that the modern woman who can only offer sex is literally being a hooker with an overinflated value.
But what's the solution? Refuse to get into relationships with women who have nothing of value to offer you. The more you realize your own value the less you'll think of "sex" as being a valuable thing that you 'need' from a particular woman. Value her ability to be respectful, loyal, committed. Be a guy worthy of respect (if you're not already). Have high standards not only for others but for yourself. Set clear boundaries and stick to them.
Finally, there's a theory out there that (almost) nobody on earth can truly be 100% loyal in all situations. Let's say that's true. There's still different degrees to it. Choose the one who can be that 99% of the time over the one who can only do it on Thursdays after 5PM.
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