Why I think attractive woman are statistically more faithful than unattractive ones

[jennifer_bloom]

Research shows unattractive woman are more likely to cheat on their partners and attractive woman are less likely to cheat and my theory on this is that unattractive woman believe finding an attractive person can make them happy because they have not been exposed to many dating opportunities while an attractive woman knows that no relationship will ever be as magical as a rom com and they will have to be realistic on their expectations to make the connection work.

A woman attractive because of diet and exercise and career and clothes, understands the sacrifice involved in attracting and keeping a partner so is realistic in their expectations towards who they are with while an unattractive woman who eats steak and fajitas all day, and never takes care of herself, fails to recognize how difficult it is to attract a partner so maintains unrealistic standards that cause them to cheat.

Just like a chef is less likely to complain about the way his food is made because he is aware of how hard cooking actually is while somebody whose never cooked is more likely to complain about the cooking of others. To me romantic expectations function the same way, somebody not in the habit of working for love, will hold others to an impossible set of norms because they don’t realize how difficult it is, this is why unattractive people are more likely to be disloyal.

[Dude_777]

Definitely true. It has link to self esteem basically. Low self esteem people are likely to cheat more than people with high self esteem.

[WowwGirl]

@BlackBeauty90 facts

[red324]

@WowwGirl Am i the only one that seems to notice that the hot girls are the ones that think they're ugly and the ugly girls think they're the shit. Not always but a lot of times these attractive girls have been abused at home at a young age. Either mentally or physically.

[WowwGirl]

@red324 it's really person related as you said from their teams or no trama, more so then appearance. Pretty gets harassed a lot and that's actually why they have low self esteem usually. Nothing to do with looks

[Sillyboi98]

@red324 my ex girlfriend who was very unattractive thought she was the shyt

[WowwGirl]

@Sillyboi98 they do that trying to convince themselves they are nice looking because they don't hear it from others.

[Sillyboi98]

@WowwGirl at first my ex was cool but the. She started acting all funny

[CubsterShura]

@BlackBeauty90 whether or not you like it attractiveness does have something to do with confidence and they often go hand in hand. Are there some attractive people who are insecure? Yes absolutely. Doesn't necessarily mean that attractiveness is not a factor in other people's high self esteem.

[Dude_777]

There is even scientific evidence to support it. Interested people can google 'how low self esteem affects relationships".

[User1224567]

@WowwGirl How does pretty get harassed a lot if it has nothing to do with looks? When you just said that pretty people get harassed a lot?

Self esteem I believe comes from how people view and treat you. The cooler, more attractive you are the more people will want to be around you after time you learn of your abilities to attract and that becomes your confidence/self esteem.

Those that are ugly or unattractive get shit on and ignored all the time so all they know is having little to no value.

Self esteem / Confidence = Social Value

One can be confident in his abilities to preform a certain task or choir well and effectively but that confidence isn’t about his self but his ability to execute. When it comes to socializing or romanticizing then that individual lacks what others have.

[WowwGirl]

@User1224567 because their pretty that's why

[WowwGirl]

Dear you have no idea I couldn't go out alone at one time without being harassed I've had men follow me home and restraining orders towards basically strangers over stalking

[User1224567]

@WowwGirl you’re a bimbo, I know that’s why I stated what I said. Carefully read next time.

[WowwGirl]

@User1224567 if I cared what a guy like you said I would.

[User1224567]

@WowwGirl That’s cool and all but you replied to me initially. So your only problem is comprehension, and possibly your pride as well

[User1224567]

Maybe if I was “attractive” then you might pay attention and learn a thing or two

[stillagoodgirl]

@red324 I've noticed it and with attractive men too. I was surprised but at the same time beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[ManOnFire]

@Dude_777 I was once with a beautiful woman who who literally sleeps with everything under the sun, especially if there's money involved, and she was messing around with a guy when we used to be together.

But I also was with an "ugly" girl who told me guys never look at her or give her any attention, ony her more attractive girlfriend's. This girl was truly sweet, had past traumas, but hated cheaters and cheating and had also been cheated on in her own past.

Having said that, my beautiful ex was arrogant and selfish and a cheater, and the ugly one had low self-esteem but hated cheating. I do not agree by any means whatsoever that more attractive women are more faithful. By a long shot. If you actually look to reality, all across the board they are 10x more likely to cheat because they know they "have options," and if it's sex they ever want, they will very easily cheat just for that regardless of how good you might be to her. Ugly women know getting a guy - especially a quality one - is harder to come by, so they'll try to hold on to that.

[Dude_777]

@ManOnFire what i said is backed up by extensive scientific research which points everything to "self esteem" and not "attractiveness". I never said attractive women are faithful and unattractive ones unfaithful. I just said that behavior is more linked to self esteem, and attractiveness only.

But obviously, not all people are exactly the same.

[Dude_777]

Correction : I just said that behavior is more linked to self esteem, and Not to general attractiveness only.

[ManOnFire]

@Dude_777 I do not agree that this extensive scientific research is correct. Often the beautiful women are the ones with the poor self-esteem and are more concerned about what other people think, so it would add to making sense that they cheat more. If self-esteem is how you calculate it.

[Charliefretz329]

I think there is an incredible amount of truth there.

[DaveJord]

I don't know if I agree or disagree. I have seen and experienced it both ways.

Unattractive people

Disagree- An unattractive person may be more willing to work harder and do more to keep their partner, thereby making them less likely to cheat.

Agree- On the other hand and unattractive person may be more likely to feel insecure in their relationship and therefore be more likely to cheat.

Attractive People

Disagree- Attractive people maybe more likely to set their sense of self worth above others... This allows them to justify their choices to cheat.

Agree- Attractive people may be more confident in themselves and choices, thereby allowing them to be more secure and confident in their relationships.

In the end I do not think that we can draw any conclusions on the likelihood of people cheating or not cheat on looks alone. Its a more of a measure of their sense of happiness and fulfillment in the relationship they have... and how hard they are willing to keep it.

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[Kaamraj]

In the beginning of your article you have said that "research shows" but have not cited any research, secondly what is the measure of attractiveness and how can it be quantified in a study. The fact is that there are no attractive women, nor high value men in isolation, that is decided by the sexual marketplace.

Saying that, men and women, the latter much earlier get an assessment of their value and act accordingly. Women are hypergamous and try to secure a mate who is more than their perceived value. This is a natural mechanism to balance for the increased cost for reproduction for female as compared to males. So I believe that if a woman is very attractive and has already secured a mate of high value than it will be more difficult to be attracted and secure a mate of higher value because there are so few people at that level. Moreover, attractiveness (reproductive fitness) declines over time so basically it's a uphil fight against statistics and time.

So yes theoretically the more attractive a woman, the less she should cheat, given her mate is also of sufficiently high value and she was able to exercise her hypergamy in the first run.

[litty]

When people say there's research, they usually present research. So where is it?

Also, the cooking metaphor doesn't make any sense. You are saying unattractive women don't know how hard it is to find love, so they can't appreciate it, and are therefore likely to cheat? Meanwhile, attractive women have to work hard for love? You actually have it the other way around.

Some women literally don't have to do anything for attention. People will bother them, holler at them, sweet talk them, buy them expensive gifts just for sex with their body. While others can get all dolled up and not get so much as a passing glance.

What you don't mention is that women AND men of different body types suffer from insecurities. One of these insecurities is not getting enough attention or not feeling important. And so they'll sleep with multiple people just because that having a higher number raises their self-esteem despite how many partners they've hurt. Some are just selfish and want everything like a committed relationship with the thrill of one night stands.

No matter what you look like, you need to love yourself before you love others.

[DWornock]

That may be. However, I believe it is based on natural selection. During the Stone Age, and, we still have our Stone Age brains, women would mate with a man that was dependable and a good provider for her and her children. Then when ovulation, she would seek out the best genes (typically the Alpha male) for her eggs. Since the Alpha male typically would sire children with higher intelligence and greater vitality that would give her children a substantial survival advantage over children sired by her mate. Women that did not seek the best genes for their eggs when there was a low risk of discovery opportunity are not our ancestors.

The Alpha male would fuck most any woman but he would choose the Alpha female, (typically the prettiest) for his mate. Since the pretty Alpha female mate was the Alpha male with the best genes, cheating offered no survival advantage for her children. Furthermore, there was a slight risk of discovery by her mate in which case her mate may kill or abandon her and her children. That risk would offset any tiny advantage that another marginally superior Alpha male would provide.

[ManOnFire]

I am sorry but I have to fully disagree with this. I think it is the absolute opposite. Attractive women are more likely to cheat because they know a lot of men want them, so they have "more options" any time they're ready to leap to another guy. Unattractive women know their options are few so they will try to stick with the guy they have.

I have been in relationships with both and I can tell you for a fact that attractive women - especially very beautiful - are indeed more prone to cheating. Whatever study said they're more faithful is not a true reflection of real life.

[KlinkyCoder]

Do you believe all attractive women are as untrustworthy like that? I like to hope not.

[ManOnFire]

@KlinkyCoder Not all of them, but definitely very many of them. They also will lie to a guy about not talking to anyone else but him while she actually has many guys' numbers in her phone and texts the ones she might be able to get some play from. I know this not only from the beautiful ones I dated but also beautiful female co-workers I've had and some beautiful female friends.

Their trick is to convince you as much as possible that you are the only one they want, but later on when things get rocky or you start to have fights, that's when they're ready to tell you they can get any guy they want.

I don't know what study the Asker was reading but it is far from reality.

[red324]

I think both genders so it.

[YourFutureEx]

Disagree.

1. Most of the attractive women aren't made attractive, they're born attractive. No struggle there
2. If you're saying that being in many relationships before makes women more loyal then...
2.1. Virgins would be most likely to cheat and sluts would be loyal af
2.2. Being in many relationships indicate only one thing, 'A history of failing in many relationships' and/or 'inability to choose the right partner'.

The only two things that make attractive women loyal are :-
1. Their morals. Your attractiveness doesn't make you loyal or disloyal. Your morals, integrity and upbringing do.
2. You. Attractive women have countless of options and if you have managed to get her, it means you're a man with high value whom she'd not want to lose.

[stillagoodgirl]

Thank you! It all boils down to morals. This goes for men too where people love to say are always cheating when given the opportunity or if temptation is always around.

[YourFutureEx]

@stillagoodgirl exactly.

[weeee]

"research shows" then show it bruh.

>while an attractive woman knows that no relationship will ever be as magical as a rom com

Are you just pulling shit out of your ass

I could also say some vapid shit like "Attractive women have an easier time getting dates which is why they end up having unrealistic standards while unattractive ones only have what they can have so they tend to have more fulfilling relationships because they are realistic."

Also i dont why attractiveness is posed as an objective quality in this post. Some may just be that pretty, but the majority isn't. You make 0 sense

[EssenceOfLight]

Difficult to say for me because someone cheated just one time on me, she was pretty and she gave me clear warn signs which I ignored.
Nevertheless there is some logic in your conclusion. If cheating doesn't grants someone some kind of very questionable fun, it's stupid to degrade yourself to being considered as a cheater. Lot of cheating gives people who are somehow handicapped in dating the opportunity to prove their value. Of course those people don't recognize that their partner haves lots of opportunities as well to be unfaithful, but demand of their egos to self gratification due cheating is stronger than having a stable relationship. That's why they do that.

[Biancam13]

Yes. Exactly. Attractive people tend to have a lot of options, but are pickier when it comes to actually entering a serious relationship. So, when they get into a relationship, it’s with someone they really like, it’s someone they specifically chose out of all the options, and it’s for the long haul. So they are more faithful, yes. And as someone else said, self esteem is a huge contributing factor in whether or not someone feels the need to cheat or not.

[cryscrys1]

I’m told a lot I’m attractive and beautiful.. and I can notice when I see myself in the mirror I find myself interesting. I don’t wear make up even at 30. I am confident how I look and told a lot I look young etc. However I have a problem I’m assumed a lot from guys I might have dated so much and have so much fun and met so many guys. Truth is I’m a hardcore introvert I don’t allow guys easily in my life.. I have literally dated 1 guy didn’t last much due to me and my education I decided to follow my career.
I want to say attractive or un attractive you are faithful due to character I don’t think beauty has to do anything with it. But I think Feeling confident about your face do put you in a better spot that is not giving a shit to try hard.. well my opinion

[Dragonpurple]

Well said, I've known a few people that had to 'settle' because they didn't date a lot, didn't have those opportunities, either cause they were too shy, too reserved or not attractive enough to get hit on all the time.

When someone finally did pay him/her attention they got sucked in and well... that is just when the problems started.

I personally believe personality is more important than beauty, as that fades with time but the more you love a person for who they are (and not what they look like) the better you get along.

[AviatorTom]

I'm not sure I agree with your chef analogy. I know a guy who is a good cook, with excellent taste buds, and is very picky when it comes to food. Compare that to me... I'm not a chef, can't tell the difference between sweet and sour sometimes, and am not picky. When we go out to a classy restaurant, he will immediately sprinkle salt and pepper on his food... before even tasting it. Me, on the other hand, I eat it exactly the way the chef prepared it.

I'm also not sure about your premise. I haven't seen similar statistics. Lacking any statistics, I would argue that the unattractive ones might be more faithful because, if caught cheating, they might lose the guy they have and find it difficult to find another one that accepts them, while the attractive ones can easily find another guy, if that's even necessary because their guy will likely take them back because they are hot.

[soulbabe]

I'm not sure how accurate this is because I personally am not attractive and hey what did fajitas do to you. I have never cheated or even thought about it but then again most of my desire is not people based if there is someone in my life that's Cool but I'm not going to run around trying to make someone love me. I'm pretty simple give me my farm my kitchen and my crafts then boom perfectly content woman. I got off topic not saying you're wrong just would like to see the study.

[VanillaVilla]

Personally I think attractive and unattractive is in the eye of the beholder. That being said, in my experiences (and this is solely just my life, others probably have different experiences) I’ve been able to trust unattractive women much more. I've only had my trust “betrayed” a few times, but it was mostly people considered more attractive by Public standards.

[rienna888]

Yea they actually are! Most of the attractive women I know are very loyal and usually don’t pick based on looks. My sister is beautiful and she is always loyal to her bfs. I think it’s because they’re less insecure. They know that if their partner cheat, they can always find another boyfriend. So I think it’s a lot to do with self confidence

[rienna888]

And they don’t need a backup plan cuz people will always be attracted to them and want to be with them

[KingofCups]

Yea I'd definitely agree. That being said 'Attractive Women' are like the highest value Social Currency, Every one is always after them, many opportunities are placed in front them. A man can be physically 'attractive' but this doesn't really guarantee the same volume/quantity of attention that the women will get. He can still feel as if he's not being desired by women. The only exception to this is when a man has an outrageous amount of money, then he treats women differently - as if they are disposable, consumable, highly abundant commodity.

[jshm2]

You're wrong,

Hence why you've not provided any credible statistics, despite your assertion it being a statistical possibility.

But statistically speaking in the few US studies done, it's a mixed picture.

https://divorce.lovetoknow.com/Rates_of_Divorce_for_Adultery_and_Infidelity

[illallowit]

This was an opinion piece... So She's wrong about... her opinion?

[BigManSAB]

You are 1000% right! I’ve dated both unattractive and attractive women. The unattractive women are extremely insecure and happy for any attention from a male. Pretty girls understand it’s easy to get sexual attention from anyone but a good relationship is hard to find!

[Lliam]

Excellent logic.

[Anonymous]

Individual differences apply. Most people even go as far as to believe that because of pretty privilege, an attractive person cannot be insecure. Or an attractive person won't stay in a long term relationship cuz they got a lotta options. Or an ugly person would just sleep around to prove they aren't undesirable. These are just assumptions tho, most unlikely to be true. Cheating tendencies has got no correlation to attractiveness. An unattractive person is likely to cheat just as much as an attractive one. Your points are nothing but basic assumptions, it's different for everyone.

[Sigrid17]

Can you give a link on the research? I find this interesting although I don't know if i buy it completely yet. So far from my personal experience people who get divorced or cheat has been on the better looking end of the spectrum. Heck my mom cheated on my dad and she was a model at one point of her life.