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uh it was all her fault actually she's the one who kept cheating, having her family and friends cover for her infidelity, never saying thank you or showing the slightest bit of appreciation for anything i did for her, never calling or emailing or texting never reaching out first, her continuous drug and alcohol use which caused her to od and she still kept using after that, i had to i could go on and on but it would take way to long.10
I always take responsibility for my part in the wrong doing. But its almost always just a “part”. I like to state what I did wrong and what the other did wrong or could’ve done better as well. I don’t mind going down but if i’m not the only one in the wrong, I’m taking you down with me. I rarely apologize because I’m often not sorry. But i do like to know what I could do better to improve so that apologies are not warranted2
if you are the prideful type yoy don't even have to apologize if that's so hard for you. YOU JUST HAVE TO ADMIT
you just say what happened. like for example now in my life rigjt now, a certain person is a big help to me eith my OCD but if let's say an other OCD patient approach me and this is the treatment i would just wish them to die0
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The way I see it - don't negotiate or change or win approval - if somebody acts like a dog, put them in the dog house and find a guy who acts like a human.0
👎 Anyone who is defensive about something in a relationship is obviously because they care.
If they wherent in a relationship, they wouldn't be standing there arguing about it but have moved on without caring.
Your issue is that you want to confront the person in the relationship & I quote "I" to pass the blame, rather then considering that you could be wrong about your point of view or they could be wrong about there's or simply trying to avoid confrontation.
Generally these traits are associated with cheating and obviously by driving someone out of a relationship is undoubtably why you're concluding with ending a relationship with someone you can't get a direct answer out of, with no contimplation of caring about someone you're in a relationship with who has there faults that theyre struggling to deal with in life, hence trying to avoid.
So on this basis, it posses the question as to if you should be in a relationship at all, if you can't accept that all humans have there frailties, dispite your perfect attendence.
Which may also lead to the fact that you drive people away, which would explain how articulate you're with fronting people as a challenge threw different dynamics to make people back down with your & I quote "I".
Which is disfunctional to shift the blame of your issue back to someone as if to punish or penalise someone, so there's no wonder why you drive people away other people with your "I feel" statement which is obviously compounded negativity.
Where as you're probably looking for a sub, since you're toxic and want to hinder woman with a toxic relationship as opposed to being attracted to narsasistic woman who are seeking compliments who my be duluded into admiration of your perfect attendence to give you praise in anticipation of getting the reward of praise back on if you're acknowledging them just like how you baited them to start with and continue to bait them.
So you should consider professional help for yourself before you involve another human being into your shit.0
Yes its called projection, in psychology, It is a very complex thing, a person is just not programed to see the truth, only their perspective of it. We come back to the famous words of poet William Blake, When the doors to perception are cleansed, all things shall seem infinitive. ( hope I got it right) , but its very profound.20
Has not been. I got pushed into a few I neitger needed nor liked by the people who stole me as a baby, caused me some injury/harm, and pretended to be my parents. Those were never going to work out.
Monday this week was the first time I got liked up close by a girl I'd genuinely want a relationship with.0
Interesting. I think projection is particularly strong since you tend to interpret people in your own framework. If you would do X then you likely think others do X.20
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I communicate my boundaries and make it clear what it is that I'm missing, if I don't get what I need over time I will cheat, and I won't feel guilty about it.0
What about when ones default behaviour is to take up all the guilt and blame on onself even when told otherwise and always feel like one is at fault.20
Yup this is common for people that have Bi polar depression or PTSD , it is never their fault1
yes the last man i dated almost never accept responsibility0
Every failed relationship I have had has been mostly or totally my doing.0
Are you not going to credit the original article you took this from?0
So if you hurt someone you aren't sorry?0
textbook Narcissistic Personality Disorder0
No that's very common0
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The mechanisms when dealing with couple relationship conflict resolution is not difficult, however, it has everything to do with emotional and physical intimacy. Simply, there are two forms of relational communications and they are an internalizing and an externalizing analysis. Some people do one or another and some do both.
The first one is internal communications where self-blaming occurs. The second one is external communications where one feels the spouse is at fault for the other person's pain and for the relational issue as a whole. All the other "why and what for (s)" are clutter and used to either internalize and accuse Self or externalize and accuse Others.
Terms and phrases like "you are in denial, defensive, projecting" is counterproductive and to care about that is both Childish and Destructive. Continually degrading oneself or another externally, with these terms, is to do great harm. Anyone who thinks these words are solution needs to get out in the real and stop living in the theoretical world. .
Labeling is destructive, self-justifying, and a waste of energy when that energy should be focused upon "What is and Why is this occurring?" 1. state the Issue or Problem without psychological labels and withhold, both nonverbal and verbal, Judgment. 2. am I beating myself up internally or my partner externally with Blame? 3. state personal fears, feelings, thoughts, etc. I feel you are projecting and in denial because... is not what needs to be said. Simply state your feelings without judgment and recognize that you are 50% of the Problem.
Self-Discipline in controlling both the mind and tongue.