The Myth Of Biological Clock

[anon1903]

THE MYTH OF BIOLOGICAL CLOCK

Biological clocks are very much real. As much as I want to reset the human history of evolution, I can't.

They are just not that important.

Why? Because there's 8 friggin billion of us. I'm sure if some of us slack off, we'd still be the advancing species.

This is not a "don't have kids" take. It's your decision and if you want my personal opinion on your child, it'd always be a negative one.

So biological clock can be termed as the desire to have, you know, human offsprings.

What? I never promised I was gonna sound normal?

Anyways, and a lot of people wonder what age is the right age to do so. And do you know what I say to that? Oh fu_ck it.

You can always adopt, if preggers is too painful or you're too lonely or too old to have them on your own. It's not that complicated. Somebody else did the job for you. Think of it as mining for diamonds, but half of the work is done.

It's just a popular opinion that you must have one of your own.

Like, miss ma'am, good sire, no you are not going to live forever. God cheated you on this. He just gave you the tool so he could smo_ke his w_eed in peace. Figures.

And the obsession with a mini you? Yup, get over that. Lot of kids resemble their relatives, instead of their parents. In that case, you're gonna freak. What can I say? Genes work in mysterious ways.

I'm gonna be blunt about this — in order to leave a legacy behind, have one. I mean actual wealth. So many friggin couples move in and do it and regret big time, because they didn't plan it. No financial or mental prep.

If you want my word, please, oh lord, please finish at least highschool before you do it. I can understand, the hypersexual world we live in, you wanted to get it on as soon as you reach 18, and that's fair enough. Natural. Just do one thing and bulk up on the contraceptives. It sounds like a lecture I know but you're gonna be sorry in the long run. This is 2023, not 90s that you gotta have hordes of kids and you gotta do all before 25. And most certainly, not a friggin marathon.

Another thing, extremely important, if against odds you want your own package, make sure you know the parent thoroughly well. So probably do the raw sex after marriage, or when you're planning it all.

I am aware this kind of stuff people already know.

This is for my asexual mom, who never had a chance at sex ed. I love you, but please choose career over me any day. I'm sure I can glue back the pieces of my heart.

You've your life first before anyone's. Act like it.

By anon1903

PS. This is the most boring take ever.

[EmyyWolf]

My own mother had me at 38. I’m not which biological clock they’re talking about. It’s these predatory pathetic men who lack masculinity and manhood want to shame women somehow.
They’re just as undesirable at 30 like women are. No one is advantaged. No one escapes death.

Both my parents were 38 when they had me and my sister next at 39. 🖕🖕🖕🖕

And also, men’s sperm loose quality at the ages of 50+. If they get a woman pregnant at 50+. The child could be born disabled.

Don’t listen to these pathetic demonic men. They can go suck eachother’s D-K. We all age at the same damn time.

These are the same type men who at 40+ go to the gym to look at young women and do nothing in there. Predators. PED—-philes. Groomers. Grotesque, Undesirables.

[EricSummer]

This is a very well reasoned take. For me it mainly confirms that the most intelligent people will be more likely not to have kids. The ones of limited intelligence will be blissfully unaware of all the complex global situation and will just continue making babies. Same counts for poorer people.

To maximize overall happiness, I think it's worth considering the number of children, not only if we have children at all. For example, one child or two children could be allowed as a rule without ruining the planet, but four children could not.

[BlackBeauty90]

This mentality of a "biological clock" and having kids young is WHY povery exists. That's always been the case, throughout history, the least achieved and least educated always reproduce early. Back in history having 10+ brats was nothing but free labour.

Not that hard to comprehend unless a person is of low intelligence.

If you have kids as a teen upwards to early 30s you typically don't have an education, you don't have a good job, and in today's ecomony you're falling faster than a landslide

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Mother had me at 40. My brother when she was 41. Neither of us are developmentally challenged unless you think having not one but two separate Bachelors (BA & BSc) by 20 and 21 marks failures. I own my own business and manage the regional sales for a medical company on the side. My brother & best friend have a massive security & private investigation company covering the cities and towns in a 150 km radius.

And no we don't come from wealthy families. Far from it in fact. Between the two, I work part time 24 hours a week and make the monthly average wage ($7,000) of most.

Dad & mom both taught us the benefits of hard work and to strive.

Something most younger parents do not teach their kids because the average parent at teens to 30s don't strive, they oftentimes don't even have an education and struggle to make due in a daily life. More often than not they end up on government support and/or welfare & many times can't do a job requiring more than basic skills or menial labour.

So how can their kids achieve much more than this when born into a poor situation?

[anon1903]

Exactly

[Sarahr123]

Biological children can look like relatives but those relatives are still blood, or they’re the blood of your husband. Either way a biological child is still 50% of your DNA and most of us have the urge to pass on our own DNA. Even if a child doesn’t look like us, they may have mannerisms like us. If I were to have children I would only and only have biological children. Most people simply cannot love another person’s child like their own. An adopted child is not really having half the work done for us because the child does not possess our DNA.

As a child if I talked about adopting children then adults around me would say “you’ll raise someone else’s kid only for that kid to leave you when they grow up - or they’ll say you did nothing for them and be ungrateful.” I think it’s easier to resent a child who isn’t your blood because you chose to raise someone else’s child. You didn’t have to but you took them in and you raised them. If it is your own child you’re more likely to be forgiving and love them anyway. The love that is there for your own blood is automatic. I have two half brothers I have never even seen apart for in photos on my dad’s side. I was annoyed at first that he had babies but when I saw their photos and how much they resembled me and my siblings I instantly loved them. They were part of us. When you see yourself in a child who is your blood, you love them more. So unless it were a niece or nephew, I could not adopt. I don’t have a big enough heart to love another person’s child like I’d love my own. Maybe I would grow to care for that child but if I had a biological child aswell then there would be a difference.

I don’t have any children yet but I have always wanted them. If I marry a good man who will be a good father and can provide a good life for the children I would love to have two children. The thing is that after having children I would want to be a 24/7 mother.

[college-student2021]

Why people don’t want to be full time mothers in our age. It’s refreshing hearing someone who does.

[anon1903]

Of course it is. You're a man.

[college-student2021]

Am kinda new to this reply 😂 stuff.

anon1903, in a good way or bad way?

[anon1903]

In a bad way, of course.

[At3mis24]

Oh no, I will be a very bad mother for a biological kid, trust me!

[ArrowheadSW]

I agree that the days of mindlessly cranking out children without regard to financial capability, etc, really should be over. I remember in the 90's, a younger married couple who I knew said that "kids are what you have and then you figure out how you will take care of them later". Funny they all lived with the mom's parents and were partially supported by them.

When I was 39 going on 40 I was dating a lady who was 38 and wanted to look into raising a family. I chose not to because I was not real into the idea of raising children, and I didn't like the idea of having teenagers that far into life as time went on and I got older.

[anon1903]

Millennials have a few really dumb sayings, I guess

[ArrowheadSW]

Different story and different situation. I used to know a lady through my former job who had her first and only child at the age of 45. It was my understanding that she had fertility treatments in order to get pregnant because it is usually difficult at that age. Both she and the man she got pregnant through were both professional type people, and very nerd. Fast forward 20 years and her daughter had 2 children with no father in the picture before the age of 20. Last I heard that lady was about 70 and still supporting her daughter and two grandchildren, and she was struggling to work in her older age. So much for having a child to carry on one's legacy, I suppose?

[anon1903]

The whole idea of legacy is weird

[nastyb]

the "biological clock" is only a myth for women. because truth is... if a single woman truly wanted a baby, she can always have a baby before her fertile years are over. I'm a single woman and I plan on having 2 kids by the time I hit my 30s , even if I'm single. Most of the single older women who don't have kids have made the decision to not have kids during their younger years. If a woman truly wanted children, she would already have them by the time her child bearing years are over.

[nastyb]

And plus, US adoption agencies tend to be very picky on who they hand off kids to. They highly prefer handing out kids to financially stable, married couples with good reputations.

[Justneedtokno]

I agree somewhat are biological fox shouldn’t put us in a time frame but I do keep in mind how a little bit easier to manage having children now versus when I get older, my mother had me at 39 and she died right as I graduated college the days after. I would much rather have my mother now instead of waiting when she had me. I didn’t understand that my parents were fully actualize human beings that made a choice to have me married at all but it’s hard to go through the next stages of life and not have her in this time. So it would be nice to have my style 30 to 35 is that age range the latest for me 38

[anon1903]

I wish my mom wouldn't have me at all. Lmao.

[TooHot2Care]

... You know, I keep seeing you everywhere and frankly I find you annoying but... You realize you shouldn't blame yourself, right?

[anon1903]

@TooHot2Care me? Well, I'm kind of popular around here. Of course you see me everywhere. I'm a fucking ghost.

[AMS700CX4u2]

From a female point of view "Biological clock" is a real thing. First pregnancy has usually occurred within one year of first period At least through much of human history. Industrialization changed all that. First pregnancies began to occur later when females felt they needed an education for a better job. Later first pregnancy meant a higher breast cancer rate. Also, pregnancies after age 40 carry a much higher risk of genetic defects. This is by no means an opinion. This is just fact. It is much better for Moms to have Children at a younger age than at an older age. Societal norms never seem to agree with biology. In pioneer times the Parson usually performed a baptism ceremony for a baby at the same time he performed a marriage.

[At3mis24]

Biological clock doesn't exist for me, that's clear.

[AMS700CX4u2]

@At3mis24 I hope you are correct.

[Rei13]

Honestly couldn’t get myself to read through your whole take but, yes, a biological clock is real and depending on the actions you want to make there is only so much time in which you’re able to do it. If you’re a woman who wants kids then you should probably do so before you hit your forties if you’re able to. Adoption is an option but it isn’t for everyone, just like having kids in general isn’t for everyone

[DizzyDesii]

Im not afraid of the biological clock. I just personally never wanted to give birth at the age of 30+. I always intended to have a kid in my 20s and it just sucks to not have one yet. I dont mind adopting in my 30s but in terms of having at least one biologically, I’d prefer that in my 20s

[DizzyDesii]

I can still meet my goal if i get a sperm donor but i stay debating on that

[OddBeMe]

Sure but that doesn’t mean it’s a myth. It’s usually mistaken everytime someone claims an age. Some people are more fertile, some will always need help.


Some of us hate kids with the passion of a thousand suns.

[anon1903]

I have clarified in the first para that it isn't

[TooHot2Care]

Prison.

[Brittanyroseee]

I don’t want kids and im always told im selfish for it.

[anon1903]

You're not! The planet is dying! You're helping by deciding not to have any kids

[anon1903]

I'm proud of you!

[TooHot2Care]

You're only 22, you LITERALLY don't know anything. Shut up already. . . .

[Brittanyroseee]

22? Im 25. I have never wanted kids.

[Brittanyroseee]

Why are you so mad?😂mad because a stranger on the internet stated she doesn’t want to have kids?

[TooHot2Care]

Oh my gooood look at meeee~ I'm Brittanyroseee I am so important eyynyenyenyenyenyehhh

[Brittanyroseee]

Sir, why are you so offended over my choice of not having kids? Does it affect you? No it doesn’t so why are you so triggered?

[Brittanyroseee]

Because i am important. 😂😂😂if i have no interest in kids, why would i have one? Do you want the hypothetical child to be neglected and abandoned? Simply cuz her mom had it without even wanting it?😂😂😂😂😂

[TooHot2Care]

Ma'am, why are you so offended over me being offended at you being offended over me being offended by you being offended? Does it affect you? Probably. Even so, why are YOU so triggered?

[Brittanyroseee]

Sir, you are trolling at this point. So im done. FUCK THEM KIDS

[TooHot2Care]

How DARE you be confident enough to call yourself important!

[Brittanyroseee]

Fuck them kids!!!

[Brittanyroseee]

I am important 😂im more important than a hypothetical child that doesn’t exist nor ever will be born

[TooHot2Care]

NO WAIT WAIT! COME BACK! I WAS JUST KIDDING. Look, let me show you this new CD.

[Brittanyroseee]

Bye.

[TooHot2Care]

You will have that child, Brittanyroseee! Resistance is futile! This is a handmaidens tale, not She-Hulk!

[TooHot2Care]

So you admit defeat. Good game. xD

[Brittanyroseee]

I will have that “child”? What child? One that doesn’t exist?

[Brittanyroseee]

Even if i got pregnant i would get an abortion 😃😃😃😃😃😃

[Brittanyroseee]

I don’t like babies:)

[TooHot2Care]

Brittany, are you familiar with "immaculate conception" ?

[TooHot2Care]

You don't like babies?

L, Femcel, Fatherless, No bitches, Lame fit, Fake J's, Ratio.

[Brittanyroseee]

Nope and idc cuz im never having kids and if i did i would have an abortion

[TooHot2Care]

You wouldn't abort Jesus!

[Brittanyroseee]

Lol, you are not making sense😂

[Brittanyroseee]

No I don’t like babies. I find them a bit gross and messy and expensive and their not even cute lol

[TooHot2Care]

You listen to Weezer, don't you?

[Brittanyroseee]

I have no idea who that is. Im done here troll.

[TooHot2Care]

So you admit you lost AGAIN. . . ? Yeesh, L after L after L. . . . XD

[Brittanyroseee]

Again, why are you trolling? No, you can’t lose to an opinion. Me not liking babies is my own preference and me not wanting kids is my own choice.

[anon1903]

@TooHot2Care oh the classic "the young don't know what they're talking about" argument. Haha good one! You should use that as a teacher. That's the only way it's gonna work. Students are literally forced to listen 😀

[anon1903]

I'll help you get the abortion! We childfree girlies will stick together!

[anon1903]

@TooHot2Care I'd abort Jesus. In a blink!

[Unit1]

I got confused here. Where's the part where you're elaborating, that the biological clock is a myth (other than saying that the biological clock is not important)? I figure it is probably as simple as "If a woman does not want kids (ever), then she does not feel that 'biological clock'" or "She doesn't have a biological clock and put a vibrator in it's place". At least that's what I understand from the childfree women on youtube and on the internet.

[anon1903]

Summary : don't rush into anything

[RingOfFire]

I find this statement troubling:

"Why? Because there's 8 friggin billion of us."

The implication of this statement in the context you use it is that there is nothing about individuals that distinguishes them from each other as if they were nothing more than robots coming off of a conveyor belt in a factory. It conveys all the depressing notions of hopelessness, of a lack of strife for improvement, of the absence of nobleness of humanity.

No matter how many people in the world, humans are imbued with a sense of wanting to have their own unique children, their own flesh and blood, their own special connection to eternity. The idea that that is somehow less special just because there are so many other people already in the world ignores everything beautiful about that desire.

[anon1903]

There's still 8 billion of us. So we'd probably not go extinct.

[anon1903]

If you can't handle that kind of humour, feel free to block.

[RingOfFire]

Why so overly defensive? I comment with a mild criticism about a single sentence in your post and you resort to a comment like that? Cheesh! I hate to think what will happen to you when you face some REAL criticism.

[anon1903]

Because that statement wasn't even offensive. Or "troubling". I had it in my pocket, so I made the joke. Take it however you want.

[Brittanyroseee]

Sir i have no desire to have my own offspring

[anon1903]

@Brittanyroseee Which is fine. Amazing in fact. Go you!

[anon1903]

I've a personal bias towards people like you!

[RingOfFire]

@Brittanyroseee

"Sir i have no desire to have my own offspring"

Okay, but what does that have to do with what I wrote?

[Brittanyroseee]

@RingOfFire cuz you said it’s every woman’s desire to have kids. Yet it’s not my desire and not everyone wants kids

[RingOfFire]

What did I say that makes you think I said it's every womans' desire to have kids? I did not say that.

[Brittanyroseee]

When did you say that? Lets see. I will quote for you!

[RingOfFire]

Please do.

[Brittanyroseee]

“Humans are imbued to have their own flesh and blood”

[Brittanyroseee]

“People ignore this desire”

[Brittanyroseee]

So yes ur saying that humans are imbued to have this desire for children yet, i do not, and not everyone does

[TooHot2Care]

@Brittanyroseee Karen.

[Brittanyroseee]

Karen? You are the “karen” for getting triggered over me not wanting to have a crotch demon!

[Brittanyroseee]

I hate kids😂😂😂😂😂

[Kaneki05]

"This is the most boring take ever" lol.
Great as always :3

[RealMarek]

The drive to have children is only lost during the late stages of civilizational decline, as in the West today. This is a natural process of the organic lifecycle of a high culture.

[es20490446e]

Nope. All the population suddenly becoming old is a real problem.

And I'm pretty sure that your mom won't be as happy that you haven't existed.

[anon1903]

She wanted kids, I don't. We'd be happier if we respected everyone's opinions free will.

[exitseven]

I think if you decide to have kids you have to be all in or else do not do it.

[At3mis24]

I don't must have one of my own, that's my wish, my final decision. Adoption? Why not...

[strateguy632]

no conditions "only if rich have kids," this IS a dont have family for 90%.

[Kelly6]

biological clock is real and it depends on genetics.

[anon1903]

Which I've already clarified, by the way

[Kelly6]

but you said chose career over family?

[anon1903]

That was directed towards my mom.

[Kelly6]

ok,
just checking that you know its wrong advice.

[anon1903]

It's my mom, sweetheart. Your opinion doesn't count.

[shades777]

i would get that conversation going after a few monthes, if you were interested