Why It's Okay to Outgrow People You Once Loved

[Anonymous]

We don’t talk enough about the grief that comes with growing up, especially someone we once loved.

Maybe it was your best friend from your teenage years, a partner you were considering marrying, or a family member you no longer felt safe around. They weren’t “bad people.” They just… stopped feeling like your people.

Growth Is Not Always Mutual
As we evolve emotionally, mentally, and spiritually, not everyone evolves with us. Sometimes youfind yourself in conversations that no longer feel fulfilling or in relationships that feel more like memories than anything real.

This doesn't mean you're selfish. It means you've changed.

Love Without Alignment Is Exhausting
Yes, you can love someone and feel completely disconnected from them. You can miss someone and know they no longer bring peace to your life. You can remember the good times and still walk away without guilt.

We grow from people as bigger versions of ourselves, not because we hate them, but because we just keep going.

You Are Allowed to Keep Your Peace
Letting go doesn't have to be dramatic. You don't need a big fight, a long closing argument, or even their understanding. Sometimes, your peace is all the explanation you need.

And if they ask you what happened, you can simply say, "I've grown up and I'm not going to apologize for it."

What about you?
Have you ever outgrown someone you loved so much? How did you deal with it? Did you feel guilty or did it bring you peace?

[Geo1970]

I have recently spoken to an organisation about some of the horrific issues that happened, and that I witnessed as a very young child.
I did try and communicate these things with close friends but I found that they were just really not interested. I am talking about friends I’ve known for years, I found it all rather sad as I would be all ears should they ever need to speak to me about such as.
If you wish to speak to me about it then it’s probably better to private message me as I don’t want it on full view here.

[AviatorTom]

People evolve over time. It's perfectly okay to move on from the past. Falling in love with someone makes it possible to outgrow those you cared for in the past, acknowledging that one rarely completely forgets the past.

[TheSpaceGnome]

The word "outgrow" should not be used to describe changes in personality.
Thats not growth, its either a random mutation, denial, or a release of denial.
A healthy, sane person, generally is the same in personality and desires throughout their lives, despite experiencing growth mentally and physically.

[bddddd]

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[bddddd]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPRzHqAEpZk

[Anonymous]

She hurt me and betrayed me when i was at my lowest point in my life so emotional i had checked out. I still talked to her until she married the bum loser she cheated on me with then i cut off all communication with her

[Bricealan]

Happens every day