Good take. But I thought I was gonna learn something new. I posted a question awhile ago, one of them though tit's tolerable if the abuse doesn't cause death.
Cuz she's flippin' stupei. The door is wide open and she can walk out anytime but instead, she got no brain to act on it so.. stay as long as u want until u get what chu want xP
I know what you're saying, but just like in any other situation, it's easier said than done! You can't just leave an abusive relationship. If you could, there'd be a lot less of them.
@prettykangaroos why couldn't u? Or are u ashamed of the fact being used by him? Tell meh every possible reasons that u can think of why The need to stay. im waiting..
@prettykangaroos I have no intention of reading it. people who stay in such relationship are dumb AF. It really anger meh. Don't wanna read it further cuz it will juz hurt meh even more. Im going to stay with what I believe in. He doesn't even LUV u. Period. Move on or let him shove his foot down ur throat sum more until u had enought Lel. Ur life, im juz being kind enough to help y'all find a better life and a happier one!
I was in an abusive relationship for a long while. My family, friends, and myself were being threatened, and I was terrified for mine and their lives. When I finally got the courage to tell the police, guess what? Police didn't do anything. Things aren't always in black and white. I stayed in something miserable that hurt myself to protect people around me.
@musicbrain5 how about u get da eff outta the relationship instead of renting at people how bad he is to u? All u want is pity and sympathy aren't cha ;P
@Keyspirits Like I said, when I tried to leave, he threatened to harm my family and friends, the people closest to me. I did try to leave. I stayed out of fear he was going to hurt people I loved. When I told the police, they didn't protect me from him either. It's a lot more complex of a situation than just leaving sometimes.
@misupanda why dont u sue dat FLIPPIN' police department for not keeping peace and justice? That's their job and u have the right to sue those MUDDA effort.
@musicbrain5 its on u if u can't comprehended. It's 2015. We aren't in the old age where we tryna sound nice and smart are we? New things are invented. Dumb things, smart things, and even advanced stuffs. Gotta keep up with it ;3
How ignorant can you both be? I hope you never have to experience an abusive relationship but maybe that's the only thing that'd change your closed minds.
You should read it because the whole point of this take is to stop people like you being so offensive and close minded about such relationships. Even the take owner didn't understand but like she said, she did her research and now she understands. You're not even allowing yourself to understand.
@Hannah591 loll. are u kiddin' meh baby? What's the point of meh staying in a rekationship like that? Why would I let myself be her doormat to step on? Am I that dumb to let myself get step on all over? I dump that bish. I LUV her and she doesn't luv meh? What's left of us? Nothing right? y'all ignorant naive Gurls lel. Stay and get sum more til u had enough. I won't blame y'all anymore. Ur life not mine. Get dat Azz whoop sum more til u can't take no more lel xD
Also, people don't want sympathy or anything like that. In nearly every case of abusive relationships, no-one who knows the victim has any idea, they just notice weird behavioural changes. It was always kept on the low because they feared for their safety or they're too ashamed of being so controlled when they realise that that's been happening. No-one would get into abusive relationships for sympathy and if they did, they'd learn what a huge mistake they'd made. I actually can't believe how ignorant people can be.
Actually sometimes a door is not wide open to walk away it might be locked and dead bolted and she could be chained up waiting for someone to care to look for her and set her free you insensitive cunt
I'm making a point that it's not that fucking simple and yes i am sensitive for myself and all women that have been in abusive relationships that are being victimized because if we didn't get threatened, beaten, shackled with guns to our heads to death threats to our families we would walk away freely.
@creole_flavor u don't think I feel bad? Even the slightest? Im more upset than u are for those victims. Some have the oppurtunity to get out but they chose to stay. How flippin' stupid is that? U tell meh! Im sure u can sneak away when he's not home smh
You are obviously not listening and you did not read the damn take. Te fact that you feel that it should be easy for someone to sneak away and not still be in danger if not more shows how insensitive you are being and you really don't understand and I'm not wasting anymore time talking to you. You need to read some of the girls' comments about their own personal experiences because you just don't get it.
@creole_flavor no, I wouldn't waste ma time reading either. I believe what I believe in. If I was a Gurl, I would act on whatever is neccassary or else be his slave for eternity. Blame urself for not acting on ur part.
Well keyspirits maybe if you took the time to read the take people would actually care what you've said. But instead you go around spraying your hatred like a cat in heat. You talk without even knowing whats been said and I dont quite understand why. You say its 2015 like that justifies your attitude. When in fact women are gaining more rights the time is progressive and not regressive. So maybe instead of of talking before thinking you should give your brain a try.
@PANDAmonium why should I change JUZ for sumone? We all develope our own "Stylez" in a certain time period. If I wanna be "unique" why not LEMME be? If u can't read, than Juz don't bother? Others with sum brain power can read it themself. Like really? Im spreading hatred? Towards who? Im juz upset. Can't u differentiate between the two words '-'
Funny how sum of ma opinions get reported lel. If y'all can't handle a decent debate, don't even bother >.> Funnay how y'all only report the ones that make y'all look bad instead of my entire opinion lel. GaG members smh
@PANDAmonium good. Cuz we definitely need heroes like u to keep all the GaG cuties safe and sound 👌 Don't give up on GaG yet. I leave it to u 🙏 please carry on ma will ✌️
Good take. You should also include being a weak minded person. This is what it ALL boils down to. You have given me an idea for a new my take... Thanks.
Uh no. I went into the abusive relationship, a confident, outspoken and independent person. I came out a complete mess, an empty shell of myself. Most people are very strong minded and end up coming out mentally destroyed.
We will have ti agree to disagree then. Because if a strong minded person was ever abused, they would keave after the first time it happened. You think you were those things you listed above but in fact you weren't. Its ok. Not everyone is truly strong, but most people like to think they are. You obviously fall in the latter... Good luck to you.
It's not a delusion, they often convince you they'll change and they make it appear that they've actually listened to you. They often admit to everything they've done wrong so it is like they know they're in the wrong and they're willing to turn tit around but it's all just a lie.
Some guys also do this in some case. Every one have there one resons some people have fear and some other love.
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I get the fear, that is the only reason I can respect them, because it's just horrible to have to live in fear.. Otherwise I really don't have an ounce of respect for women who stay, when they have a choice to leave
I wasn't trying to copy anything. These are common reasons for staying in abusive relationships that can be found in many different articles online. You could also say that every myTake on here involves content that could be found elsewhere.
And also, just so we're clear, I'm a social work major learning about how to work with victims of domestic abuse so the majority of the content here were things I learned from professors, textbooks, and actual scientific journals on the issues of domestic abuse and abusive relationships. Not random websites online.
If I don't know her? I don't give a rats ass. In fact I'd just laugh at her for being stupid enough to stay. Like someone said the doors wide open and she could choose other guys who aren't abusive.
Yeah, girls totally choose abusive guys. You think abusers let anyone in on their behaviour? No, because they know they'd never get a date that way so they charm their way into your life, then they take control. Don't post such comments when you've clearly got no clue.
I must of struck a nerve with the females on here, Truth hurts huh? All you females live in a fantasy world with the abusers are seen as the nice caring guys and the others are seen as the bad guys. But please don't let me stop you.
Not all time. Let me ask you something. Play this out. You have a 5 year old, you have a potentially fatal heart disease , your father is raising a child on his own and your mother wants nothing to do with you. Please this is a touchy subject, have some respect.
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Good take. But I thought I was gonna learn something new. I posted a question awhile ago, one of them though tit's tolerable if the abuse doesn't cause death.
It's sad but it's true. Nobody should fear their partner.
I feel they stay because of learned helplessness. They feel there is no way out of their situation, no one to help them.
It may also be because they believe that this abusive person truly loves them and they'll have no one if they leave.
A true man will leave the girl if it starts becoming an abusive relationship.
That's y we need strong people, to support the weak
Gj all valid points
Cuz she's flippin' stupei. The door is wide open and she can walk out anytime but instead, she got no brain to act on it so.. stay as long as u want until u get what chu want xP
*staying
Victim shaming :(
@prettykangaroos like reallly.. why would u stay? The world doesn't revolvle around him does it? Is he the only guy in this world?
@jjodllwedo lol baby it's alright. Juz know that i LUV u <3
It's their problem so leave it as it is. Juz focus on u and i 💏
I know what you're saying, but just like in any other situation, it's easier said than done! You can't just leave an abusive relationship. If you could, there'd be a lot less of them.
@prettykangaroos why couldn't u? Or are u ashamed of the fact being used by him? Tell meh every possible reasons that u can think of why The need to stay. im waiting..
Lol did you read the take?
@prettykangaroos I have no intention of reading it. people who stay in such relationship are dumb AF. It really anger meh. Don't wanna read it further cuz it will juz hurt meh even more. Im going to stay with what I believe in. He doesn't even LUV u. Period. Move on or let him shove his foot down ur throat sum more until u had enought Lel. Ur life, im juz being kind enough to help y'all find a better life and a happier one!
Is too painfaul to read -_-
I was in an abusive relationship for a long while. My family, friends, and myself were being threatened, and I was terrified for mine and their lives. When I finally got the courage to tell the police, guess what? Police didn't do anything. Things aren't always in black and white. I stayed in something miserable that hurt myself to protect people around me.
How about you actually read the entire take before making an idiotic statement like this.
@misupanda why did u stay instead of ditching his azz?
@musicbrain5 how about u get da eff outta the relationship instead of renting at people how bad he is to u?
All u want is pity and sympathy aren't cha ;P
Who the fuck said I was in an abusive relationship? I'm not. My husband is very good to me. Stop making assumptions.
@Keyspirits Like I said, when I tried to leave, he threatened to harm my family and friends, the people closest to me. I did try to leave. I stayed out of fear he was going to hurt people I loved. When I told the police, they didn't protect me from him either. It's a lot more complex of a situation than just leaving sometimes.
@misupanda why dont u sue dat FLIPPIN' police department for not keeping peace and justice? That's their job and u have the right to sue those MUDDA effort.
Actually, I can't stand the text speak so I'll just bow out of the conversation until you can spell the right way.
@musicbrain5 its on u if u can't comprehended. It's 2015. We aren't in the old age where we tryna sound nice and smart are we? New things are invented. Dumb things, smart things, and even advanced stuffs. Gotta keep up with it ;3
How ignorant can you both be? I hope you never have to experience an abusive relationship but maybe that's the only thing that'd change your closed minds.
You should read it because the whole point of this take is to stop people like you being so offensive and close minded about such relationships. Even the take owner didn't understand but like she said, she did her research and now she understands. You're not even allowing yourself to understand.
@Hannah591 loll. are u kiddin' meh baby? What's the point of meh staying in a rekationship like that? Why would I let myself be her doormat to step on? Am I that dumb to let myself get step on all over? I dump that bish. I LUV her and she doesn't luv meh? What's left of us? Nothing right? y'all ignorant naive Gurls lel. Stay and get sum more til u had enough. I won't blame y'all anymore. Ur life not mine. Get dat Azz whoop sum more til u can't take no more lel xD
Also, people don't want sympathy or anything like that. In nearly every case of abusive relationships, no-one who knows the victim has any idea, they just notice weird behavioural changes. It was always kept on the low because they feared for their safety or they're too ashamed of being so controlled when they realise that that's been happening. No-one would get into abusive relationships for sympathy and if they did, they'd learn what a huge mistake they'd made. I actually can't believe how ignorant people can be.
Actually sometimes a door is not wide open to walk away it might be locked and dead bolted and she could be chained up waiting for someone to care to look for her and set her free you insensitive cunt
@creole_flavor if she can't get out of it, who am i to blame? It's her relationship. It's none of mine concern. U senstive BISH ;P
I'm making a point that it's not that fucking simple and yes i am sensitive for myself and all women that have been in abusive relationships that are being victimized because if we didn't get threatened, beaten, shackled with guns to our heads to death threats to our families we would walk away freely.
@creole_flavor u don't think I feel bad? Even the slightest? Im more upset than u are for those victims. Some have the oppurtunity to get out but they chose to stay. How flippin' stupid is that? U tell meh!
Im sure u can sneak away when he's not home smh
You are obviously not listening and you did not read the damn take. Te fact that you feel that it should be easy for someone to sneak away and not still be in danger if not more shows how insensitive you are being and you really don't understand and I'm not wasting anymore time talking to you. You need to read some of the girls' comments about their own personal experiences because you just don't get it.
@creole_flavor no, I wouldn't waste ma time reading either. I believe what I believe in. If I was a Gurl, I would act on whatever is neccassary or else be his slave for eternity. Blame urself for not acting on ur part.
Well keyspirits maybe if you took the time to read the take people would actually care what you've said. But instead you go around spraying your hatred like a cat in heat. You talk without even knowing whats been said and I dont quite understand why. You say its 2015 like that justifies your attitude. When in fact women are gaining more rights the time is progressive and not regressive. So maybe instead of of talking before thinking you should give your brain a try.
@PANDAmonium why should I change JUZ for sumone? We all develope our own "Stylez" in a certain time period. If I wanna be "unique" why not LEMME be? If u can't read, than Juz don't bother? Others with sum brain power can read it themself. Like really? Im spreading hatred? Towards who? Im juz upset. Can't u differentiate between the two words '-'
You can't differentiate between than and then. So maybe im not the one who should be concerned with differentiating words.
@PANDAmonium don't worry, I won't make u look bad. This is ur chance to shine. Ladies, the hero has come to save the day ✋
Funny how sum of ma opinions get reported lel. If y'all can't handle a decent debate, don't even bother >.>
Funnay how y'all only report the ones that make y'all look bad instead of my entire opinion lel. GaG members smh
The day you make me look bad is the day I give up on life.
@PANDAmonium good. Cuz we definitely need heroes like u to keep all the GaG cuties safe and sound 👌
Don't give up on GaG yet. I leave it to u 🙏 please carry on ma will ✌️
still agreeing with you though GAG was cunts and removed my comments @Keyspirits
@jjodllwedo lol i LUV baby 💏💏
Good take. You should also include being a weak minded person. This is what it ALL boils down to. You have given me an idea for a new my take... Thanks.
Uh no. I went into the abusive relationship, a confident, outspoken and independent person. I came out a complete mess, an empty shell of myself. Most people are very strong minded and end up coming out mentally destroyed.
We will have ti agree to disagree then. Because if a strong minded person was ever abused, they would keave after the first time it happened. You think you were those things you listed above but in fact you weren't. Its ok. Not everyone is truly strong, but most people like to think they are. You obviously fall in the latter... Good luck to you.
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Because they have this delusion that their abusive boyfriend/husband is going to change.
It's not a delusion, they often convince you they'll change and they make it appear that they've actually listened to you. They often admit to everything they've done wrong so it is like they know they're in the wrong and they're willing to turn tit around but it's all just a lie.
Yes there are exceptions when the abuser owns up to everything that he's done
Some guys also do this in some case.
Every one have there one resons some people have fear and some other love.
I get the fear, that is the only reason I can respect them, because it's just horrible to have to live in fear.. Otherwise I really don't have an ounce of respect for women who stay, when they have a choice to leave
Talk to a sociopath once in your life. You may think you're immune to mind games, but you're not.
If he beat the crap out of me, then I would not stay no. @been_waiting
I know some women staying in an abusive relationship to gather a citizenship.
Bad copy of articles I've read long ago.
https:// www. loveisrespect. org/is-this-abuse/why-do-people-stay-in-abusive-relationships
https:// www. domesticabuseproject. com/get-educated/compelling-reasons-women-stay/
can't post links. have'em sorted yourselves lol
I wasn't trying to copy anything. These are common reasons for staying in abusive relationships that can be found in many different articles online. You could also say that every myTake on here involves content that could be found elsewhere.
And also, just so we're clear, I'm a social work major learning about how to work with victims of domestic abuse so the majority of the content here were things I learned from professors, textbooks, and actual scientific journals on the issues of domestic abuse and abusive relationships. Not random websites online.
Lol nothing here was copy/pasted. But you're free to think what you want. Have a nice day.
If I don't know her? I don't give a rats ass. In fact I'd just laugh at her for being stupid enough to stay. Like someone said the doors wide open and she could choose other guys who aren't abusive.
Did you even read the damn take? Lmao, stay anonymous. Coward.
Yeah, girls totally choose abusive guys. You think abusers let anyone in on their behaviour? No, because they know they'd never get a date that way so they charm their way into your life, then they take control. Don't post such comments when you've clearly got no clue.
Yes I did read the damn thing. My opinion still stands.
I must of struck a nerve with the females on here, Truth hurts huh? All you females live in a fantasy world with the abusers are seen as the nice caring guys and the others are seen as the bad guys. But please don't let me stop you.
Strong username lmao
Thanks Kshppatel I'm just speaking the truth and I stand by my words.
who gives a shit why women are into abusive relationships? its there choice and so be it
Not all time. Let me ask you something. Play this out. You have a 5 year old, you have a potentially fatal heart disease , your father is raising a child on his own and your mother wants nothing to do with you. Please this is a touchy subject, have some respect.
It's never a choice.
I know its a touchy subject but if these women are told to leave the guy... they won't do it...
nice. simple but nice. i'm sure there is more to be told on this issue.
Tl;dr.
These women are just stupid as fuck and deserve being treated like that for not having the guts to just end that shit.
Excellent take!
This is really accurate