He doesn't love you. He might have claimed so through words, but not through actions. It isn't fair on you. He could've merely said what you wanted to here, as an attempt to keep you around so he could figure out who to choose. To me, it seems as if he's having a difficult time trying to decide which one to choose, and darling you deserve so much more than to be someone's second choice. You're being a second choice just by the fact that he hasn't made up his mind and talked with the other woman.
You said that you don't want to lose him, but I'm afraid that you've never had him. And even if you did, he isn't worth it. It may sound like a cliche, but you truly deserve better. Perhaps your fears will come true, and the both of you will grow cold and apart. But through the detail you've provided, I think that's the best for you.
He said that 'he would do anything for you' yet he isn't willing to terminate a relationship with someone else. And don't you dare for a second think that he means his words, because he clearly doesn't. If he did, he would've fixed things. Dear, this relationship is one sided: you're the only one giving, and he's the only one getting. It isn't balanced and it isn't healthy.
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I guess NO ONE likes to be bossed around so will AVOID bosses as long as possible.
If he's forced to make a decision that's not ALL his, he will regret it and the boss forcing it.
True he made a commitment and did not follow through = smells like BS
but yours is not to climb up on that commitment horse as if now the general of him & make orders to follow
he'll regret making other love/commitment statements that create such a power horse
Fact is... a guy that has two gals finds himself baffled as to which to choose, as BOTH are lacking something to complete the package and be The One. As he holds on to both, hoping one or the other will find that missing piece and plug it in, the trio begins to slowly sink under its own weight - your fight is an example of a blowout in that lifesaver the trio hangs onto, for lack of a better plan.
Your role is to simply step back (not forward as commander) until his actions parallel his love remarks, THEN you will act loving in return - not before.
This is way easier than you think. He is not truly into you 100%, never will be either. Yes, he is one of those guys that thinks it is ok to have another woman floating around. NO! It is not ok!!! If he truly is into 100%, then IT IS A 2 SECOND ANSWER!!! Since he is hesitant on a decision, he still has feelings for this other woman which further confirms he is not fully into you.
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