Long story short, me and my boyfriend been together for four years last couple weeks we’ve been budding heads more than usual, but nothing really crazy. My boyfriends very passionate when he gets mad and on Saturday he saw a message where I told my friend that his sister was a loser and also how I’m tired of the relationship between me and him because I feel like he doesn’t appreciate me and I get tired of it, you saw it got immediately mad and got up and left my house. I tried calling him on Sunday. He ignored my calls and eventually text me saying I don’t wanna talk I apologized and told him I was Adaline and I’m sorry I left him alone Monday and then tried to call him again Tuesday he didn’t answer my calls again I text him saying I think we should talk and try to communicate. It’s not good to leave things up in the air he responded with. I just don’t want to talk and I guess we can tomorrow which is today. When my boyfriend gets mad, he usually needs a day or two to cool down, but he usually answers my calls this time he isn’t and he’s being silent. Is he going to break up with me or is he really upset?
What should I do about my boyfriend ignoring my calls after a big fight?
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You’re panicking and need to relax. Go out with your friend or whatever it takes to help get your mind off this a bit, even just getting out of the house because you’re probably in your room freaking out. You’ve done all you can do to strike up a conversation and if he’s not interested in talking right now then you can’t force him. Anyway it’s not like you were lying to your friend, these are real issues bothering you and I think you should put your energy into figuring out where those feelings are coming from, rather than trying to hard to talk to him.
I just feel anxious that he’s gonna break up with me and if he says I wish he would just say it already instead of leaving me hanging like this and it doesn’t help that my friends and family are saying he’s over dramatic and should stop being a coward
Well it’s either gonna go one of two ways. You either breakup with him first so you don’t have to anticipate or worry about it during this time, or you can calm down and wait it out.
I know all to well how anxious and eager for an answer you are, the time feels slow as hell and you just wanna hear from him already. It’s highly stressful, but you’ve got to be strong. If this is a breakup then it’ll be ok, you were fine before him and would move on after him. However if it’s not a breakup then I think you’ve got some decisions to make. Like what you said to your friend, is that suddenly not true at all? Your fear of losing him keeps you from actually exploring that aspect. Plus your friends and fam don’t have the best things to say about him, so I’m sure it doesn’t look good for you to be filling them in on these “dramas”. They will only keep gaining a negative view of him which will suck if you two patch things up. They’ll think you’re foolish to go back.
Just relax and say how you actually feel and what they mean to you and apologize if that’s what you feel like you want to…but give him a little space and cool down like a fight is one thing and it doesn’t help having to talk when you still upset doesn’t lead to anything good when it comes to arguments where negative feelings to their family is in place along with hearing you wanted to end the relationship. He’s probably really hurt by it and didn’t see it coming and all ya can do is wait and hear him out and tell him what he means to you and respect whatever happens
My family and friends were in my ear saying he was being dramatic and that he’s in the wrong for taking long. I even started to think he was talking to another girl behind my back. I even was going to call him and say “if you wanna break up just say that”
He very much could be and probably was a bit dramatic from how you said it but he could just be emotional and his feelings add to it. Well I wouldn’t just listen only to the thought in your head bc it normally isn’t true and normally leads to more issues, and is mostly just your feelings for them lashing out negatively bc of the distance and saying it comes out kinda of crazy…. it could be true but it could also not be and if you go out and say it it normally just adds issues in my opinion. Really I would reach out to get a set day and time to talk and talk it all out respectfully since you said y’all been budding heads more often and leave it there and wait till the time, if they don’t agree or don’t show you have your answer and just respect the dead and move on.
Called him last night, he said he wasn’t ready to talk but said okay let’s talk. We talked for about 2 hours and he just said he was doubting our future and he was just venting about his doubts (which he has done before) and I told him I was sorry about everything and also defended myself for things that weren’t my fault. He then just said he didn’t know but I told him I would like to work things out and he said he didn’t know and I asked if we would talk tomorrow and he said I don't know and I said I understand and that was it
Sorry to hear about that…. really the best thing to do is go no contact for a few days and try reaching out again but at least set a for sure date and time to talk or try to move forward but go no contact until then and just focus on yourself…constantly asking him isn’t going to help him decide if anything it will push him away more and it doesn’t sound like it’s helping you mentally stressing over it…. I would go spend time with friends or family and enjoy life and when he starts to see that he misses you and your out bettering yourself he will be back
He’s done this before where he has doubted us and voiced it and later on has come back but I pushed a lot. During our talk he seemed like he was calling out all these negative things but was unsure but still hinted about if we stayed together so I’m wondering that he would of broken up with me already
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