Boyfriend ignores me and acts like he doesn't care sometimes

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. I love him a lot, and the thought of breaking up makes me feel terrible. However, he isn't always very nice to me. He hardly ever texts me first anymore and he refuses to talk to me on the phone. If I get mad at him for anything he ignores me and says he is tired of dealing with me or that I am always up his ass. Honestly though I don't talk to him very often throughout the day but I will get on his case sometimes about how he never does it first anymore. I feel like I put up with way more then he does yet he is the one who ignores me. Sometimes he acts like he really cares about me a lot and then other days he acts like I am nothing to him. What should I do? Can I make it better?

[SevenWindsNineMoons]

"...but I will get on his case sometimes about..." and "I feel like I put up with way more then he does yet he is the one who ignores me."

These statements right here tell me that there is a bit more to how you act than perhaps you realize. You seem to resent him in many ways, perhaps even just subconsciously. I would suggest making a date night where you guys make time to be alone together and talk to him about it. And don't get onto him, either. That is usually the worst thing you can do. Sounds like you both have some issues with passive aggression as well (based on very little information, of course, so feel free to correct me if I am out of line).

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Feel free to read up on it and find out if it sounds like you or him. Chances are he does really care but feels like you are attacking him and, rather than deal with it he does the manly thing and just ignores it and hopes it goes away on its own with time. Good luck, at any rate.

[master24]

well I had a relationship with my ex girlfriend just like your having now we were together for 3 years and I just started refuse her and text short answers because I didn't trust her because she lied to me and I found it out and after tht I lost my trust in her I loved her very much I waited she to be honest with me and to win my trust back but she didn't so maybe he lost his trust in you for some reason and first of all you should start questioning your self maybe you think that he got bored of you but I don't think so cause you have been together for 2 years I hope you can solve the problem out :)

[livingdol]

-Well to be honest with you I think that its better you break up with him as it seems he is getting

distracted elsewhere. Let me tell you that if a man really loves a woman and cares he will not go off or find excuses, as a matter of fact he will want to be with you as much as he can.

To the fact that he hardly communicates with you is a clear indication and sign that he does not

love you as much as he had done before.

I know it would be difficult to break off with him but I think the sooner the better.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

You care more than he does. You need to pull back and focus on your life and make him less of a priority. He will either come around and start treating you better or you'll realize there's better out there

[stubbsy]

He has limited his emotions towards you because its not his main priority anymore, you have been put on the back burner for later, something in his life has taken presidentcy, and he wants to keep you warm for when he gets bored with whatever it is that's more exciting than you, so you need to step up your game and scare him into the possibility of losing you if he carries on, only by telling him to man up towards you or your find someone that can, let him stew on it for a week or so, but then he will be texting you telling you how much he has missed you and that you were right, so don't become one of his old hobbies, make sure your the pinnacle of his life, otherwise your selling yourself short of what your worth, good luck,x

[BuriedHorizons]

This one. ^

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Stop getting on his ass about little pointless stuff like him not txting 1st all of the time, it's clear he seems to like his space. I say blow & bang him more and he'll probablly have a much better attitude.

[sarahbeth44]

i'd bream up with him. my boyfriend will say he subconsciously ignores me or gets annoyed.