My boyfriend and I had an argument and he hasn’t talked to me in 24 hours now! I need advice?

[Anonymous]

So last night I was laying on the couch with my boyfriend at his place cuddling with him and talking to him about getting back in school and just generally trying to motivate him. Anyway, as I was laying there I accidentally knocked over his oculus that he had laying on the arm of the couch and I looked over to make sure that it was still in tact which it was so I left it on the floor instead of picking it back up again just for it to potentially fall again so I left it there. As I came back to cuddle with him, he got up and was like, I want to get it off of the floor and so I just went over and got it. And he said something like, “I don’t know why that was so hard for you to pick up off the floor to begin with” and I said that I didn’t pick it up because I didn’t think the floor was hurting it. We had a whole argument about it, and he acted like it was the biggest problem in the world that I didn’t pick it up off the floor after it dropped. So I came back at him and said that if he valued his oculus as much as he was acting, that he would’ve had it in its case instead of on the arm of the couch. And then he said, “how come I can’t have a rule where you just don’t put your feet up on the arm of my couch”. Mind you, he always has his feet up on the couch and always wants me to lay on the couch with him too while we’re watching movies or whatever. So when he said that, it really infuriated me to the point where I said, “I will just leave YOUR place and you won’t have to worry about me creating problems in YOUR place” which by the way is the same place we used to live together in.

Anyway, now it’s been 24 hours and I have yet to hear from him. Every time we argue, he has no problem going all day without talking to me. And it really makes me feel like he doesn’t care about me at all.

What is you guys’ opinions on this? Please give me some good solid advice.

[Anonymous]

So everyone is basically saying no it wasn’t you it was him. But in my opinion it was partially your fault as well. Part of it was about the oculus because yes those things cost a pretty penny especially if you don’t have money like that. But two it was just a respect thing for him. Even if you felt that ok I won’t put it back up on the arm of the couch cause it’ll just get knocked down again you could have put it somewhere where you knew that wasn’t going to happen. But to me that shows a lack of respect even if you didn’t mean it that way, at least how he took it. You’re saying as well as others who have responded that if he “valued” it that much why would you put it there? Probably because no one else was in the house all that time, so he didn’t need to worry about it. Now if you two had kids, as crazy as kids can get had it been knocked over by the kids I would have said ok yes but you know how kids can be. So if it means that much to you put it away. In this situation though you’re not a kid. But more so than anything I think he felt disrespected, like you didn’t care about his things which is a part of him.

[Summeroflove]

It’s not normal just to give someone the silent treatment. If you’re angry. Take time to cool down. Absolutely.



But…. At some point. You have to talk.

[Kreneman]

It wasn't your fault and it was your boyfriend fault because if he values his system like that, he should have been more responsible to put his game system equipment away especially when you come over. He does have an issue because if it had broken, it seems like he would have been piss, which tells you that you to be aware on how he operates but in the mean time, don't let it bother you, and give him sometime.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

This wasn't about an oculus or feet on the couch. Something else is going on. Nobody flips out like that unless there's other stuff going on.

[Asker]

He said he “valued” his oculus

[TheFlak38]

Another woman who knows how to pick the best man possible.

[Asker]

Why do you say that?

[Asker]

Well?

[In_Trance]

Give him a BJ and end this nonsense