Why does most men are not showy in terms of their feelings?

[Anonymous]

why does most men are not showy on their feelings?

[Caren-Field]

The guys have given you good answers here. I'm going to add another layer...

Guys and girls do many things differently; the way we express our feelings is no exception. It's really important for us to recognize that the opposite gender is not "doing it wrong" because they don't do it the same as we do. (I know you haven't said that in your question.)

When we expect it to be the same, it causes more problems than just about anything else we do, especially because of the meaning we attach to WHY we think it's different. Eg he doesn't show his emotions so he must not care, or she shows her emotions so she must be overreacting. Not so.

If you compare apples with oranges, you'll most often be disappointed when your expectations aren't met.

[Terminal_Access]

Simply put the way guys handle their emotions is a lot more simplaer than the way you women do, we tend to compartmentalise a lot and only focus on onerange of emotions at a time then move on to the next, were as form what iv learn you ladies ten to deal with numerous and conflicting emtotions a lot of time time.

Where us guys "hide" our feelings could also be down to the whole "matcho" steriotype, e. g. we are ment to be the big, strong, and tough ones, and through school those that shoe their feelings often tend to get picked on or bullied, that tends to have an effect and those that learn quick learn to not outwardly show their feelings or emotion to compartmentalise then and deal with them later on.

[anon4122]

Because we are told from day 1 it is a sign of weakness and not "Manly."

[Asker]

really? for me its not manly because if you really love that person you will show it to her. . thats my problem because my bf is not showy or he just dont really love me like he love his xgf. . i feel like stupid

[anon4122]

Trust me we are programmed almost like a computer. I hate the Macho man mentality of guys have to be a certain way or else there seen as unfit but I still have hard time showing emotions good or bad unless I have known someone for a year at least and it takes me ages to talk even to my parents about any serious issues.

[Asker]

me also.. i dont talk to my parents about my problem with my bf. so do you think he dont really love me like he love his x? is it possible that he still love her?

[anon4122]

I don't know I don't know him so I can't say.

[Anonymous]

Because its a sign of weakness to us ,

[Asker]

weakness? even you may hurt your gf feelings? for me i dont like that. i have this bf now and his totally like that. sometimes i hate him sometimes i ignore it because i love him.. theirs just one question in my mind. does he really love me more than he love his xgf? because sometimes i feel like his not their he let me feel that feeling that im trash, not important. because it happens twice that he forget our monthsary because of friends having good time.

[Opinion Owner]

Then maybe he is taken advantage of you

[Asker]

what kind of advantage he do to me? im totally block out on this.. dont know really the answer why. is it possible that he dont really love me?

[Opinion Owner]

Because he thinks he can do better, you should show him he can't by leaving him alone.