Should I tell my boyfriend that I used to be an escort?

[Anonymous]

Not a hooker. It wasn't about sex, in fact I'm still a virgin.

But you know story is, I worked hard to get into UCLA. Has always been my dream school. And even though I got scholarship so I only pay in state tuition living in L. A. is expensive.

So my friend hooked me up with her agent and I worked as an escort for two years. And now I should have enough money to pay for the other two years.
It wasn't even all bad, you basically get paid to hang out with men. I went to some interesting events, got loads of free dinners and even vacations

But somehow it still feels wrong, which is why don't usually talk about it. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and I'm wondering if I should ever tell him?
Especially if I should tell him before we have sex?

[Zina99]

Nope! Don't say a word u never had sex it was just a paid date. People who think u should say something are not thinking about your relationship. Men are not going to tell u the dirty nasty crap they do and heck u didn't do anything nasty or dirty or sexual. You want to keep your man keep that to yourself. He might think when u get tight on cash you will be out escorting and I'm sure you will never escort again. Also, If you tell him he might not believe that you never had sex with your clients. Listen to me Gurl.

[Hidden_P]

I think because there was no sex involved he will find it easier to take. Maybe, just don't bring up numbers of men because then he'll wonder how many you've kissed...

But yeah. I think you should come clean with it if he means something to you, otherwise it will come and bite you on the ass. Don't want it coming up in your wedding speech, for instance.

[Asker]

I didn't kiss anyone either, he was my first for that also

[Hidden_P]

There there is absolutely no issue that he should have a problem with. Be honest, get it off your chest xx

[Hipfrog]

You should tell him before you have sex because it is bugging you. If you don't tell him you will regret it.
You didn't do anything wrong so what's the big deal anyway?

[abundantlyrich]

I don't think he would take kindly to the truth...

and how'd you do all that work without losing your virginity?

[Asker]

what work?

[abundantlyrich]

Escort

[Asker]

well I wasn't paid for sex. So I never had sex

[abundantlyrich]

Sounds like my dream job

[Asker]

As I said, it wasn't all bad

[CheesinIndian]

Yes you should. If you plan on being in a long term relationship with him then honesty is what you need. You never had sex, you never were in that position, tell him all about it. It may sound weird to him but if he decides to leave you over this then you are not meant to be with him.

[stevie123]

If there was no sex, then you have no moral issues to discuss.
The past is in the past, and you did nothing wrong.
Accompanying gentlemen and having your expenses comped is basically going on a regular date.

[Asker]

well not quite they paid quite a lot of money extra, additionally to the expenses of a normal date

[stevie123]

I know, but you were there for company only, and no funny business.
It was like going on vacation

[sawno]

Yes you should. Its never a good thing to hide things from your boyfriend and while he might be shocked you where once he realises your not the usual kind of escort because you only spend time with them without the sex i don't think he will find it an extreme deal in the end.

[InsearchofMe]

Hard to say , everyone is different. Don't know how serious you both are. If you not known him for a long time, I would pose the question in third person.

[Asker]

I feel like if I don't tell him now and we have sex. And then I tell him later and he breaks up with me because of it, I'd regret it

[InsearchofMe]

Be true and upfront if you are wrestling with the question. Tell him upfront. www.excellence.colinmtita.com/.../

[wowzer]

Yes tell him, just think about how and when. Put it this way: you'll have to tell him at some point and he would appreciate you being upfront sooner. Yes, before sex.

[AshBrown]

You should say that there is something serious about you and if u both have to move forward, we have to get over with THIS past fact. If he can take it, fine; if not then better split now than later.

[syd48]

I would tell him first that you are still a virgin.
Then tell him the rest because then it all becomes irrelevant.

[Tokana]

Wait you didn't even have sex with them? Got paid to go to dinner and vacation with them? Where do I sign up?

[behindthemask]

I think that you should tell him before someone else does lol

[big-michael-1]

depends how long you have been dating i would wait about 6 month to a year but yes at some point he shoud know

[front2back]

Well if you didn't do anything sexual I don't see an issue.

[Anonymous]

Oh god that is so smart! Anyways just tell him, it was your life, and you have nothing to feel bad about.

[Asker]

it's not that smart, I just did it because I had to

[Anonymous]

Did you get naked with any of these guys? Did you touch any dick at all while you escorted?

[Asker]

No, he was my first for everything

[Opinion Owner]

And did any of the guys you escorted, and whip it out in front of you?

[Asker]

what?

[Opinion Owner]

Did any of the guys ever take his dick out? I'm just having difficulty understanding why you'd be called an escort if you never even got topless and if a guy never had an orgasm while with you.

[Asker]

No. They just paid for dates. For Company. Call it whatever you want

[Opinion Owner]

Typically, even if that "company" doesn't involve sex, it does involve the girl getting at least topless and somehow the guy getting off. Are you saying in 2 years of doing this that nothing sexual in nature ever happened?

[Asker]

No nothing ever happened. The agency was quite clear about that.
See I'm afraid he wouldn't believe it either. I guess that other girl was right, I shouldn't tell it after all

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah--it's pretty tough to believe. Do you have a web address for this escort site? Cause he's going to look it up.

[SteelMagnum]

he might think low of you...