Is it a bad idea to marry your first (and only) boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

He'd be your first kiss, first date, first partner-- and the last. Is this a good idea?

[lumos]

I don't think it's a bad idea at all. If someone feels like their partner is the one, it shouldn't matter if said partner is their first or their 47th. What's the point in trying to experience other people if you don't feel like it's necessary, and if you feel like you've found the person you really want to be with? I'd call it hitting the jackpot. People always make it seem like you have to date at least x number of people and go through x number of "bad relationships" before finding that one gem that you want to stick with. Why the hell would anyone want to go through all that, especially if they've already found their gem and don't need to go through all of that shit?

[lumos]

Also, to hell with anyone who says that you're "missing out" or that you're "not having enough fun". You don't NEED to have sex with or date like x amount of guys if you don't feel like it.

[Helen201]

Why not? If you love him and you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him then go for it. If you're worried because you "haven't got to explore your options" and feel the need to break up with him and see what else is out there. But if that scares you then you're probably with the right person. If it's meant to be it will.. If it's not it won't.
Many people in my family have married their first loves/ boyfriends and are quite content with it. Not everybody have to go threw 20 guys to find the right one.. Consider yourself extreme lucky if you got it right on your first try!

[unbothered]

Hello:) If its true love, then why not? some people spend the better part of their lives dating the wrong people just to find "The One" so if you have already met him, count your blessings. However, if you are having doubts or don't want to rush into something or feel that you need to discover who you are a bit more first, then do that before saying "I Do". Statistics show that lasting marriages actually tend to occur when both parties are well into adulthood (thirties). This means that its best to truly know who you are before committing to another person and vice versa.

[WhiteSteve]

Not necessarily. I mean, personally I think it's good to date many people and experience life, I feel like you learn a lot about others and yourself. But at the same time, if you just happen to meet the right person and get lucky on the first shot, don't kick them to the curb just because. As long as you truly feel those feelings are genuine and it isn't just you TELLING YOURSELF that this guy/girl is "the one" just because there's no base for comparison.

[xhobbesx]

If you're his too, then absolutely for it. Various outcomes.
1. First, last, only.
2. First, married, someone cheats, over.
3. First, married, cheats, stays together.
4. First, date other people, get back together, marry, last.
5. First, date others, never talk again.
plenty other s but those are the basic.

[Lucylou1990]

Not if you love him. Ask yourself this, do you think anyone else could make you happier? My sister has been with her bf since they were 15. I know as much as she loved him she began to question if it was a good thing they had been together since they were so young. This happened when she was about 21/22. They're the type of couple that have grown closer together as they got older and more alike. They're also the type of couple though that aren't joined at the hip. That's what makes them healthy. They have separate friends and went to difference Universities. They gave each other enough space to grow up but could still be together. Long story short they're 29 now, been living together for 3 years and due to get married in April. They're happy and meant to be. I don't think she could be with a better guy. If the love and relationship is there I don't think the rest really matters :-)

[artgirl123]

every relationship is different. There's no accurate way of knowing since it depends on the people in that relationship. I come from a traditional hometown and I've seen people with their first who love one another even when they're really old. I've also seen the type of couples who constantly argue. There's good and bad in all kinds of relationships and you can't let that affect you. If you feel he's the one and you want to spent the rest of your life with him, than give him a try :) you cannot know until you give it a shot

[front2back]

Usually people's second or third relationship is the best.

That's not to say the first one will fail or will be bad, there's many things it depends on. I've known successful firsts that lasted through marriage, I've known people who took 10+ partners before it was finally good.

Generally it's not best to marry your first bf (especially if you're young and the relationship hasn't lasted more than a couple of years), since you have no idea how/what to do and what qualities you know you really care for. Only experience can help with that.

[musicbrain5]

I married my first boyfriend/first for everything as well. It's not a bad thing at all. I don't think you need to go and be in relationships with 10 or 20 people before getting married or just settling with one man. There are no rules for dating and marriage. If you just feel that you are right for each other and you have a good relationship, your experience or lack of it doesn't matter at all. You got lucky on the first try. 😊

[KHaskins]

As a straight guy, I can't say whether "first boyfriend" is a good idea or bot, but a cousin of mine married the first girl he dated, and they've been going strong for years now with a second child on the way.

There's no written rule saying the first one can't be "the one."

[KHaskins]

*or not

[WpCurious]

You are lucky if your first boyfriend is the guy you're going to marry. There is nothing bad about it, just make sure that you're making the right choice. You two share something special and unique that some people can only dream of having, so just appreciate it. :)

[kittykatg]

My fiancé is my first everything except for first kiss. I know a lot of people would say more experience is better but I've seen enoughed failed relationships from my mom and had enough guys try to coax me into a one night stand that I know an amazing guy when I see one. He's perfect for me and that's all that matters.

[epiman94]

While I see no problem with marrying your first bf/gf, i think you guys need to break up or separate at least for a few months to see what life is like without them. Its an important aspect to consider if you guys are going to spend the rest of your lives together.

[LittleSally]

No.
I think it might be a good idea actually...

If you love him and feel he's the one, don't let the wish for some new experiences hod you back from committing yourself to him.
There's nothing better out there - and this I say with 98% probability.

[RestlessYouth_]

Yes, that's a terrible idea, or at least it would be for me. In my opinion, to understand yourself in relationships, you need experience. I think it's a good thing to experience different guys so you can truly understand the type of guy you want and need in your life. Though sometimes that kind of situation does work out.

[ArchivalMars2]

Statistically speaking you will go through 3 to 7 relationships throughout your life. As for marrying on your first and only relationship... I'd say you have to be sure because really it is a bad idea, now if you've been together for years and you still love each other than I don't see why not.

[Shimmyshammy]

Do you realize that this occured more often than not in the past? Before 1940s or so, this was exactly what people did! Do not feel pressured to force yourself to see other people if you feel so strongly for your first. If you love them, that's all you need, forget the stupid scrutiny of others.

[beautifulangel76]

I don't think so that's actually what I kind of had dream about. Maybe taking a break to see if it's really meant to be is best but I mean do you want to do. I would also advise you to make sure that the guy is the one before thinking of getting married.

[godfatherfan]

Nope. I dated 5 women but never had a real "girlfriend" before I met my ex wife. We were together 25 years. If it were up to me we would be crossing 26 in 3 days.

[BCRanger10]

No. My mom was was my dad's first girlfriend. Going on 33 years this coming June.

[Prettygurl12]

If neither partner is worried about missing out and both are satisfied with the relationship and not being with anyone else, no, not a bad thing. As long as both parties are mature enough to function in a marriage situation.

[Anonymous]

it's not a bad idea at all. if it feels right, then it feels right. i intend to do this. I've been with my only "real" boyfriend that actually matters for about 3 years. he was my first kiss, first date and first partner. i intend to marry him and spend a very long time with him. he's the love of my life.

[noneyabusi]

Depends. If you really never look at anyone else or even consider anyone else and you truly are in love then why not. But if you're doing it because it's comfortable, but you dream about what I'd be like to be with someone else then it's a bad idea.

[dudeman]

Not for women. Statistically its the best decision you can make if you want the marriage to last.

[CommieDearest]

It's a bad idea to get married young, but don't dump a guy you're happy with over some preconceived notion that first relationships don't work out anyway. Just ride it out, and let the chips fall where they may.

[JustMeYeah]

It depends where you are at in your life. If you think you're super young then no. If you think he is absolutely positively the one then yes. Don't exactly see the harm in it. But make sure you're mature and ready enough for it.

[Drooogie4]

No.
My fiance was my first serious boyfriend.. Not my first of everything.. But the first guy i was really serious about.
If you love him, and you're ready, why not? Unless you feel like you're missing out by only being with one guy?

[hominid98]

Not necessarily. Nah. If you two get along each other well and the guy is caring and genuinely nice, then I dont think there will be any problem. But you are still have time I guess. Let time do its work

[no26108108]

Its ok to go out and gain experience. Sometimes you think your so in love with your first but when you step away with knowledge your more likely to find a better match for you. Just depends on how its going. If its not broken dont fix it.

[Anonymous]

It's not bad, but, i would think you'd be doing a disservice to yourself... I mean if you really think there's no other guy out there, go ahead butttt don't you think you'd like to have a little fun before you tie the knot (which is just a piece of paper anyway)

[GiantPartyMaker]

Depends. How long have you two been together? Do you already have a good job? Financial security? Enough money to buy a house, at least?
Point is, it doesn't matter if this is your first or tenth relationship, because it takes WAY more than that to have a sucessful marriage.
As a rule of thumb, though, it's never good to marry young. Wait until you're on your late twenties, at least. That's my advice.

[TONYROD]

yes it is very bad in my opinion because you haven't tried out the different flavors you just got the first one and assumed he it. get out live a little have some fun make some mistakes... NOT DANGEROUS ONES OR IRRESPONSIBLE ONES. but if you love this man marry him no questions ask. just think thoroughly its a tough long serious commitment

[Shypider]

really rare but could be a cute story to tell kids :p i feel like it wouldn't matter. the number of partners you get in your like doesn't matter. its the bond and relationship that counts.

[holdmykey]

Are you happy? If yes, why does the number matter? If no, well, again, why does the number matter?

Oh that's right, it doesn't. Do what you want and don't worry about it :)

[Redmadam]

Depending on how old you are. I personally wouldn't marry my first boyfriend because you never know if there is someone better out there. But if you've been together for a long time and you feel like you really love him, then go for it. Its all about how you feel.

[Felicititties]

I married my first serious boyfriend. We've been together a little over 2 1/2 years (married for 6 mo) and have a 10 month old daughter. My mom was super against it because we were so young, but I know that he is truly the one I want to spend the rest of my life with. We have a long road ahead of us but we get to grow and face it together. I know that's super cheesy, but it's true. And never once have I felt like I was 'missing out'. I just got lucky way sooner than others 😊

[NovaLS]

I think it is good to have some time apart. I know I thought my first was amazing but after she left me I slowly realized there is more out there and better women for me out there.

[springocelot]

You only need one. Many people have relationships with several people just to find the lasting one. If the attraction and connection is there with the first one, why not? It works out for many people.

[mlife10]

I wouldn't choose that path.. first partner and die with him.. So boring life. You only live once.. why not meet other people and have more exotic life.

[FlyingTurtle]

When you find real love, it is impossible for it to be boring.

[Anonymous]

If you truly love him, and know for a fact that he loves you, then I can't say it's a bad idea. I think as a general rule though, that if you're under 25, you should probably wait and see if your feelings last and are actually love, and not misguiding teenage hormones.

... But hey, that's just my two cents

[DaniaMQ]

Yes, of course, why not? If you guys REALLY love each other then why not share all your life together? :)

[BackAgain]

If you believe in sex before marriage then I guess not but personally I wouldn't because I'd always wonder what it's like with other guys who could possibly be better

[usernameismyusername]

What makes you think it's a bad idea to marry your first and only boyfriend? That was my only wish since when I was younger.

[bubble_tea]

It's not a bad idea if that's what you want. Just don't marry too young. What you want at age 18 and what you want at age 28 could be completely different things.

[TheWiseOwl]

Some people may say marrying anyone is a bad idea.

It worked for my Grandparents and they're still married 61 years later.

[Princess_Zelda]

didn't work for my parents. they're still married but it's not a happy marriage at all. it has caused so many problems in their lives, in my siblings, my family, in mine.
but for some people it works. it really depends.

[GoldEmblem]

I see marrying your first love as a pretty romantic story.

[Anonymous]

Don't know, so far I quite happy that my wife is my first kiss, first masturbation, first sex, first date, and first wife (and hopefully only).

Above events were in that order. :)

[AmberDawnxo]

I don't know, still trying to figure that ish out myself. Ill be looking at the other answers for different opinions or views with you :) lol

[Deniz__]

If you never meet other guys, how do you know your first (and only) boyfriend is best suitable for you?

[ChaosKilledTheDinos]

I don't think it's really a great idea but it can definitely work out for some people. I personally don't want to marry the only guy I ever date.

[FlyingTurtle]

Well I hope it's not a bad idea, because you just described me to a T and marry him is exactly what I intend to do.

[AllisonD]

Nope. I know a woman who married her first and only boyfriend. They've been together for 7 years and married for 2 years.

[Mecurious]

I married my first bf. 14 years down the line I cheated on him just to see what I missed out on. I realised after it that I wasn't missing anything

[justbanANNAz]

bad? u serious?
this is all iv ever wanted since i became a teenager, and now ill never get to have that.

[Your_boss960]

In the past, people married their firsts and their marriages lasted.

[Kaylove96]

I'd say it's not bad but it would be different if he wasn't good for you. Normally it takes more than one try to find the right one

[tonicman]

Never bad. If he's the right guy, he's the right guy and you only know that after you've spent an ample amount of time with him

[girl111m]

when i was younger think it was bad but now i think its ok some people wait long enough until they start to date and also you first boyfriend could be your real love.

[HadiAbdel_]

That's a bad idea. You need to live and gain life experience because if you dont your inability to react when things go wrong in your marriage can immediately lead to divorce.

[ArchDruidMordred]

I think it's best first to experiment with different kinds of guys to see which one kind you like best before committing yourself to one.

[madhatters4]

it's only a bad idea if you two don't have a great relationship

[ambientfaults]

nope. stay away from that shit lol experience other people

[Dakton]

As long as you don't seek variety from him, it is a splendid idea.

[SnowHearth]

I married that guy, my first in everything. We are no longer married, (our marriage was annulled) but we are still friends.