Should I follow him on Instagram?

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Okay this might sound petty but please help me! So a few years ago I went to church with this guy (lets call him Jordan) and I feel like he was one of the greatest people I have ever known. I guess you could say I had a "crush" on him, but I think it was mutual. Well he moved away :( and I did not really ever get to say goodbye. I was also friends with his brother.. well it has been a few years since I have seen or heard from him, but I still think of him from time to time. Well a few days ago I found his brother on instagram (it is public) and Jordan has a private account. Should I follow them? I am afraid they might have forgotten about me. But what if they havent? I do not know what to do. I was thinking he probably forgot about me but then I remembered a girl came up to me at my school (he never went there) and said that Jordan knew me and told her to say hi. well that was about a year after I had had any contact with him.. so I just don't know what to do. Please give me some advice.. GUYS, do you think he remembers me and would want to chat? I just don't know. I need opinions.. please comment and not just answer the poll...

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well lets think about this..
How would YOU feel if someone from your past started following you? Even if you didn't really remember them... or even if you weren't that attracted to them... or whatever the case may be. How would you feel?
Would you be like: "Eww, what the hell is this person doing following me?"
No! Who does that? Lol... I doubt he would. He'd be either happy or neutral.
Just follow him!
Plus, what if you follow him and he DOES remember you and reaches out? That would be awesome. And what if he doesn't remember you and he does nothing at all. Who cares. Slide in his DM's and say "Hey you prob don't remember me, but it's me ____ from church. Glad to see you're doing well!"

No big deal. Life's too short to NOT do whatever you want whenever you want. It's your world girl!

missaquarian · Accepted Answer

Give it a try. I won't freak out in case you followed me. Same goes with someone you know and knows you before. Besides, what are social networking for anyways? But to connect to everyone, may it be a former colleague, ex bestfriend, or even childhood crush. :)

beluga0827 · Accepted Answer

Girl, I don't know if he remembers you or not, but the only way to find out if he does is to follow him. First follow his brother and chat with him to make sure you guys are chill and then follow this Jordan dude. You only live once so you should do it!

Galden · Accepted Answer

He sent some one to tell you hi. A Man would not do that unless he was thinking about you. Follow or send a email. What ever you do on instagram.
If you realy like him let him know you miss him. It sounds like he has not realy started to look for a girl yet. ( a year ago? You got the hi?) but a man will not wait forever. Time is moving every day. So if you like him it is best to open communication as soon as possible.

yourfriendforever · Accepted Answer

you can always try to talk to him :) May be he's thinking the same as u

GreatBigCircles · Answer

Following on instragam isn't chatting or rekindling a relationship. It's just pining for something in the past. If you really want to get in touch with him, you need to actually reach out. Otherwise you'll be miserable trying trying to catch his eye from the other side of the metaphorical room as a digital wall flower.
The worst that can happen if you're chill and reach out is that he isn't interested. The only thing you'll lose it the fantasy of 'what if', and those aren't really that good in the first place.

JackPack · Answer

Personally if I were in 'Jordans' situation and got contacted by someone I like then id be very interested.

im with my current girlfriend because of a similar situation actually.
We met
Talked for about a month
6 month silence (I thought she forgot about me)
One day she messaged me
"Hey we haven't spoken in ages, I missed you" she said
shortly into that conversation she confessed.

Im now madly in love with her and wouldn't even consider leaving her.

Try messaging him and telling him and just have a chat. But when it comes time to confess, be straight forward, girls that are straight forward are very attractive (to me anyway).

Good Luck! Hope this helps

IdeasEscapeMe · Answer

Yes, when I used to live in this small town I became friends with this girl and her sisters (we were picked on and her sisters stood up to us), well I moved away and she and her sisters had still remembered me from 10 years ago and we talked like it was 1st grade again. If he told his ex to say hi to you, he definitely remembers you

blondfrog · Answer

Social media brings people apart due to a mis communication of not being able to read body language. What do you plan on accomplishing after you follow him on Instagram? He already moved away are you gonna date? We don't know if he likes you or not cause you need to give more details about what his body language was like when you two were together at church.

Octavion · Answer

You may as well do it. You don't work or have to be near him so you don't really have anything to lose. Realistically, the worst thing that could happen is he blocks you on instagram. Good luck!

bryon · Answer

If he had feeling for you then he has not forgotten you that you can be sure of. He may have moved on , catching up to old friends is often a good thing to experience hope it will be for you. Good luck if you choose to do it

convisoinarie · Answer

Jordan likes you. He remembered you a year after and told a girl to say hi to you. Just follow him and see how it goes. How long has it been since the girl came up to you?

crazyincalifornia · Answer

I voted A. Why not? Not much risk really. Rejection Maybe do it anyway

CDyer · Answer

No harm in following them! You're not declaring your undying love for them? Go for it you never know what might happen!!

GirlsEatGirls · Answer

Im in the exact same position as you with a guy (luckily his profile is public and i can stalk him 😝🙈). And Im so afraid he forgot me or thinks wtf is she following me. I wish i had an answer for you 😩

memoto · Answer

if u like him , then there is nothing to worry about, just contact with him, no hesitate. god loves u forever.

CJstar · Answer

I think you should follow hlthem, maybe he's thinking about the same.

PuppyEater · Answer

Go ahead and add him. Drop a line. Wouldn't hurt!! be confident

itsalexandra · Answer

I think the real question here is why wouldn't you follow him? If he doesn't remember you he's not worth it! Just do it, girl.

Blushfairy · Answer

It doesn't hurt to try. What's the worst thing that could happen. He might be thinking the same way. Someone has to make the first move.

HollywoodGlam · Answer

Just do it

queenaimiexox · Answer

Follow the public profile first. If he follows back, then follow the private profile. If the public profile BLOCKS you, then leave it.

VagabondNoCar21 · Answer

I think you should follow him, what harm could it do give him a reason to remember you

Elizabeth21__ · Answer

Do it. If you never do it then it won't happen.

Inlove29 · Answer

Yes you should because he sent you a hi through a girl.. so maybe he remembers you..

Christopherson · Answer

You can either not do it and have literally zero chance of talking to him again, or do it and have a chance. Whats to lose really? :)

rocksongwriter · Answer

He definitely remembers you. Follow him on Instagram.

Nikkiandsammy2016 · Answer

He could be thinking of you, I agree with @yourfriendforever. (I'm sorry I'm totally new to this website.)

TheNurse · Answer

Add him and send a message : Small world, how have you been?

Anonymous · Answer

this may sound really weird but what is his brothers name? because one of my friends , a guy friend told me about a similar situation with a girl?

art84 · Answer

You could add him and see if he remembers who you are.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! The worst he would do is ignore it. Life's about taking risks.

Thisgirl9827 · Answer

I think you should just go ahead and follow them and wait for them to follow you back and see if they say anything if they don't maybe dm them and see if they still rember you and just start a conversation

booklovergirl25 · Answer

Ofcourse he remembers u. That's y that girl spoke with u. Follow him n see how it goes!

Anonymous · Answer

Go for it ;) doesn't necessarily mean anything will happen between you both, but it's not like he's gonna think your stalking him ;)

Kaylatie · Answer

Just say "hey we used to know each other" or something like that so its not awkward

kaneez31 · Answer

Sometimes it seems like the person might have forgotten but they usually don't, just follow him and see if he follows back or not, he might even dm you.

JeanCam · Answer

why don't you just stop worrying and freaking do what you want

MrZylister · Answer

Yes you can, go for it it's your right and perfectly fine.

Anonymous · Answer

Telling Bob to fuck off is priority one. Then break up with your boyfriend first, don't cheat.  :D

Kshppatel · Answer

If the guy is Michael Jordan he sure does need that church time

CreepyOldMan · Answer

I'm sorry, but you might as well move on. He doesn't remember you.

Anonymous · Answer

How about you getting a knife and chopping his dick and balls off and ramming it down his throat and up his ass and taking a knife and chopping your tits off and using that knife and cut your uterus and cunt out of your body

Little_J · Answer

I think you're thinking about it too hard. They'll probably be glad to see you followed them

Lili001 · Answer

Go for it! One can not simply forget about someone when there was a mutual crush! Even if that wasn't the case, I'd still go for it!

Dansexual · Answer

Really. Jesus Christ you really need to consult with people wether to hit "follow"? God forbid you ever have any real choices in life lol

Jaide104 · Answer

I think you should definitely follow them. I am almost certain they will remember you. An instagram follow is a great way to start conversations.

closureforever424 · Answer

It doesn't hurt to add him you never know you might regret it if you didn't it's not too late yet

Anonymous · Answer

instagram, fb, come on people go out, enjoy beautiful life!

Stylecouncil07 · Answer

Do it!!! It could be the start of something beautiful : )

JustinCaseUDontKnow · Answer

Yes you could try contacting him see how it goes

MichelleUFO · Answer

yes go ahead sweety

Anonymous · Answer

Follow him if he didn't follow you back that's means he forgot about you but I hardly doubt that he forgot about you

moxygirl11 · Answer

Follow the and take it from their

Klaatu51 · Answer

do it... a follow is always welcomed in my opinion

Sdave98 · Answer

If he has instagram thats a girl not a guy

Kaykayd · Answer

I mean, what do you have to lose?

SaraMarie23 · Answer

Yes add him it couldn't hurt to at least try

kelaynak · Answer

No, they probably forgot about you.

thealphamaleishere · Answer

Forget about him. It's the past for a reason...

James687 · Answer

no, follow me - james79850

Anonymous · Answer

It's been a year! Any update? 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Don't do it. Don't ruin his life.

stormygals · Answer

Follow him

vvksk8r · Answer

Go ahead and just do it !

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