I cheated on my boyfriend twice with 2 different guys. He still wants me back. Is it ok to stay?

[Anonymous]

We ve been together for 3 years. I was very unhappy in the relationship n I guess I blamed him a lot for it. I know there's no excuse for cheating n I was hurting myself too so I decided to tell him n told him I wanted to break up. He was angry but didn't agree to break up n for a period he acted like nothing happened its like he was trying to block it out. we ve talked again about it a few times n now he said he wants us to try again n still wants me as his gf. I still care about him. Is it ok if I stay n try to fix the relationship? Or is it too broken to be fixed?

[Anonymous]

You say that you were very unhappy in the relationship but you don't tell us why you were unhappy. You also don't mention if those reasons still exist. I think the answer to your question depend on the answers to those questions. If the reasons for your unhappiness can be fixed easily and you feel like you aren't going to make the same mistake again then yes, give it another try. However, if you are unsure and you feel that this is simply not the relationship you need or want, then it's best to end it.

[Asker]

Those problems still exist n I think they are gonna be very hard to fix. Im just very moved by how he forgives me n still wants to try again after I did that to him. I guess we ll try again...

[Opinion Owner]

I'll be honest: to me it seems like you're impressed by his feelings for you. You say you are "moved by how he forgives" you. But I believe that is the wrong motivation for wanting to try again. You should want to stay with him because of your feelings for him, not because of his feelings for you. Otherwise it's a bit selfish, no? Perhaps you should at least take a break from the relationship to figure out if this relationship is what you really want and if you're prepared to be faithful to him.

[Anonymous]

He obviously has very low self esteem and doesn't think he can get anything else. There would be no other reason for him to want to stay with someone who obviously doesn't respect or care for him.

You shouldn't stay simply because you have proven you are unable to be faithful when given other options, therefore you don't love or respect him.

[itsallover]

He's an extremely forgiving guy, any other guy would break it off immediately after hearing that. You cheated which already shows that you don't want to be with him. So spare yourself the hassle of attempting to fix a broken relationship and leave him. Some things just aren't meant to be.

[kambo_trick3y]

Let's be honest here. Somewhere, really deep down in your mind, I'm willing to bet my next paycheck that you have the capacity to cheat again. You may feel sorry now, and hell, you'll probably feel sorry later, but if you're pushed hard enough, you'll cheat again.

Knowing this, knowing you're a ticking time bomb just ready to go off and cheat again if you're pushed enough, why would you put him through this?

[Theguyoverthere]

You weren't happy before so I think you'll just be unhappy again. Plus you kept cheating on him so I am surprised he is even willing to give you another chance. Don't put him through it. He shouldn't have to look at you and remember how you have hurt him 2x like that. It is not fair to him.

[bossdonkeydog]

If u cheated twice already ur gonna do it again im willing to bet nd thats really cold blooded but if he still cares about u and wants u to be his still then he's a genuine person nd u need to treat him like it

[vanypax]

You shouldn't obviously you don't want to hurt him but you had. But if u want too... Get back together. Just think why u cheated on him and why is worth to get back together.

[Anonymous]

If your un-happy with him then yes you should break up. And for him to stay with you means he can't handle being alone. Essentially what will happen is he will stay with you and have sex with you until he finds a new partner.

[iAmNotSkilled1]

Ur relationship with him is obviously messed up and u r probably not gonna be able to fix shit ,,, u dont deserve him anyway.

[Anonymous]

In before all the "cunt" "bitch" and "slut" comments from the men here

[Opinion Owner]

Bye kiddo

[Dakota_The_Rota]

Says the Anonymous girl.

[jmmmfi]

this guy is an idiot. no way in hell Id come near you again.

[Klaatu51]

if he has no prob with it... y not? :-)

[fuuuark]

What a beta, i feel sorry for him.

[Anonymous]

No... you wouldn't deserve him in a hundred lives

[unforgiven90]

how absurd relationship